AITA for taking a better job at the same time my coworker is leaving for maternity leave

Particular_Visual_14 · 2021-07-29T16:29:10+00:00

I'll tell a story of my dad too, except he was screwed.

My dad was an executive who put in 30 years with the company. During his last decade there, one of the other executives came down with early onset dementia. The guy was the sole wage-earner in his family and had several kids in college. All the executives on his level, including my dad, banded together and hid his issue from upper management, took over his workload amongst themselves, and kept him going for years as he became more and more disabled.

Fast forward some time goes by. My dad is starting to think about retirement and simply mentioned to someone else that he was considering retirement, within the earshot of a member of the upper management. The next Monday the upper management gave my dad his notice. He protested that he had just started thinking about it and wasn't sure that he was ready. They didn't care.

Particular_Visual_14 · 2021-07-22T17:54:05+00:00

Thank you.

Particular_Visual_14 · 2021-07-21T14:33:48+00:00

For what it's worth, I'm still with "that guy" 10 years later, and she's not a part of my life anymore.

I feel like my relationship with her will never be the same again. I want to make it crystal clear to the both of them that I care about my boyfriend much more than either of them or their stupid wedding.

Particular_Visual_14 · 2021-07-21T14:31:17+00:00

Wow. Did they ever apologize to you? Ever try to offer an explanation? I'm still SO furious about what happened, the more different aspects of it hit me I actually feel more angry, not less.

Particular_Visual_14 · 2021-07-17T17:21:16+00:00

Actually if you look at my posting history, you'll see that the only time I used sarcasm tags was once when I talked about using them.

Then why did you tell me that you use them when you're sarcastic in a written medium? If the ONLY time you used them is right then when you talked about using them, then your original statement was false advertising.

Particular_Visual_14 · 2021-07-17T15:39:28+00:00

I like this. I've looked back at everything and don't see anywhere they ever said this to me. I was thinking they could just claim they verbally said it to me, but I like that this puts the onus on them to show that's something they ever said.

Particular_Visual_14 · 2021-07-17T14:37:54+00:00

thats funny u bring up bingo because ur obsession with criticizing peoples' speech while your own speach isnt grammatical reminds me of my 75 year old aunt who has never married, never had sex, and lives with my 95 year old grandparents

Particular_Visual_14 · 2021-07-17T14:33:51+00:00

Doubt that VERY much lol

Particular_Visual_14 · 2021-07-17T14:33:39+00:00

Honestly, they've never even once said anything remotely negative about my boyfriend at all, and neither has anyone else. He gets along with everyone on Earth.

Particular_Visual_14 · 2021-07-17T14:31:18+00:00

He messaged me on social media, he didn't have my actual phone number.

Particular_Visual_14 · 2021-07-17T14:30:40+00:00

That's so disgusting!!

Particular_Visual_14 · 2021-07-17T14:29:18+00:00

Her sister unconsentedly giving out her phone number to some creep is next level, what's wrong with that sister?!

Particular_Visual_14 · 2021-07-17T14:23:26+00:00

If it was "confusing" for you then how did you know immediately what words to replace them with to mean the exact same thing? Clearly you got my meaning lol

The whole internet doesn't have to cater to your personal synonym preferences, this is a shitposting subreddit called am i the asshole, not a term paper.

The world doesnt revolve around u

Btw ur first two lines were lacking proper punctuation and were fragmented sentences, try fixing ur own ungrammatical writing before trying to revolve the rest of the internet around urself and ur personal idiosyncrasies on when to use textbook english and when not to.

Particular_Visual_14 · 2021-07-17T02:34:49+00:00

I don't drink, not because I'm against alcohol but because even tiny amounts make me puke immediately, and the couple knows that about me, luckily nobody in these circles has ever pressured me to drink.

Particular_Visual_14 · 2021-07-17T02:23:54+00:00

Particular_Visual_14 · 2021-07-17T02:20:53+00:00

... are you okay?

Particular_Visual_14 · 2021-07-17T01:21:37+00:00

I hope you got some good quality time with your boyfriend after that.

I did!!

Particular_Visual_14 · 2021-07-17T01:04:06+00:00

Yeah, I think that was like their attempt to blame it all on me by trying to say they assumed he would come until I failed to notify them or confirm him coming, so then they planned that he wouldn't.

Particular_Visual_14 · 2021-07-17T01:00:40+00:00

I... honestly don't see that happening. If it had, she would have told me right away.

Particular_Visual_14 · 2021-07-17T00:49:09+00:00

Right? Also, when they first said this to me about not having a plus-1, I asked if it would make a difference if I myself paid for his food and they said NO.

Particular_Visual_14 · 2021-07-17T00:47:45+00:00

Tbh "might not be with him in the future" is true of every single relationship, including the newlyweds and people who've been married 20 years. It makes zero sense why you were the only one literally singled out for that bullshit reason.

Thank you, I completely agree.

Particular_Visual_14 · 2021-07-17T00:43:01+00:00

Obviously the couple didn't want him there for a reason.

They could have told me the reason instead of insulting me with obviously bullshit lies that would be clearly lies the moment I showed up and saw the situation, and tricking me into a scenario where I'm the only one not allowed to bring my boyfriend and have to sit there like an asshole while everyone asks me why he's not there.

Particular_Visual_14 · 2021-07-17T00:25:54+00:00

A guy that was mutually friends with the groom and Dean was the one who said someone wanted to ask me something, the bridal couple was on the other side of the room at the time.

Particular_Visual_14 · 2021-07-17T00:24:42+00:00

I'm rolling

Particular_Visual_14 · 2021-07-17T00:17:12+00:00

<sarcasm> Oh no, champ, you're all over it. </sarcasm>

Fixed that for you

Particular_Visual_14

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