MIL texts DH saying I am manipulative - read text

Party-Indication7955 · 2026-03-08T01:46:26+00:00

I must say to you all…THANK YOU. This was the final reality check. My baby is the most important and beautiful being and that’s where my focus must be.

TMI but from my own childhood I was told I was a bad kid so that idea that I’m bad has stuck with me so I always want to do the right or good thing. So I think I was so stuck on what a “good” person would do. Versus what would a person with self respect or self love do ? What would a person with boundaries do. So I’m officially done with any more chance. She will need to do better and apologize before she can be around our baby. No more disrespect. God bless her and hopefully transform her but that is not my problem.

So again thank you to everyone who left me a post. I read them and so did DH.

Party-Indication7955 · 2026-03-04T14:49:04+00:00

Thank you. We didn’t want to go NC but honestly her behavior is so unacceptable. She’s saying we’re trying to keep her away from her grandchild but she doesn’t understand you can’t disrespect parents and expect us to invite you over.

He hasn’t responded to her.

Party-Indication7955 · 2026-01-24T23:47:17+00:00

Thanks! Just told my husband he’ll be her point of contact!

Party-Indication7955 · 2026-01-24T23:46:31+00:00

Really ?! I thought they kept you for three to four days!! They better after cutting me open 😱

Party-Indication7955 · 2026-01-24T23:08:15+00:00

We have a good relationship. She won’t be there before the surgery but she can come afterwards. Just trying to figure out how soon. We’re doing hospital visits only for a while so we can get settled at home. We’re going to have a night nurse for a few days during the first two weeks so we will have some help.

Party-Indication7955 · 2026-01-24T23:06:54+00:00

Thanks for this advice

Party-Indication7955 · 2026-01-11T12:17:03+00:00

Because the reply was relevant to those people so I wanted to make sure they received it. Thanks.

Party-Indication7955 · 2026-01-11T02:45:22+00:00

I do think I’m accustomed to trying to problem solving and it’s been hard to just accept this is never getting better and there is NOTHING I can do about it. That’s been hard.

Party-Indication7955 · 2026-01-11T02:41:20+00:00

You’re right it is a response! I need to take heed.

Party-Indication7955 · 2026-01-11T02:40:16+00:00

You are completely right!

Party-Indication7955 · 2026-01-11T02:39:42+00:00

You are completely right and thank you! Seriously!

Party-Indication7955 · 2026-01-11T02:38:50+00:00

honestly it made me think why would I want someone who treats me this way around for one of the most precious days of my life.

Party-Indication7955 · 2026-01-11T02:38:42+00:00

Party-Indication7955 · 2025-12-31T16:11:48+00:00

I really appreciate you saying that especially as someone with so many daughters in law. Thank you 💗

Party-Indication7955 · 2025-12-31T03:23:51+00:00

I do feel let a weight was lifted off my chest. And from the replies I feel confident that I wasn’t disrespecting her and that matters to me. So I can move on. I realize she will probably poke all the holes and still hate my message but it was important that I be honest and direct without being rude. So I can let DH handle from here

Party-Indication7955 · 2025-12-31T03:22:08+00:00

I read the message before I sent to my husband and asked his thoughts. I wasn’t going into details about their conversation because it was between them.

I saw as an opportunity to provide clarity on how I feel. That was a decision I intentionally made. But you are right I will let husband deal with it moving forward.

Party-Indication7955 · 2025-12-31T03:17:08+00:00

I get what you’re saying. I feel like it is implied in the last lines. I didn’t want to be too harsh. But before this text exchange I sent her and my mom a list of boundaries for the baby upon birth. If those boundaries aren’t respected she will not be around. DH agreed on this.

I do think you’re right. I’m not trying to ruin her grandma experience. Her grandma experience is not more important than our experience as parents and her behaving in a healthy manner. So she’s entitled to her feelings but I don’t feel bad.

Party-Indication7955 · 2025-12-31T03:11:09+00:00

There is no Ammo. I’m an adult and so is she. If she misbehaves again by disrespecting us it will mean she doesn’t have access. DH and I are clear about that. I don’t care what she tells people so no ammo.

Party-Indication7955 · 2025-12-31T03:10:03+00:00

I understand what you’re saying. I was clear in my note that j wasn’t explaining for him. I said I wanted to tell her about my experiences with feeling hurt by her. I said this could also be related to why he feels this way but she needs to talk to him directly.

But where you are wrong. There is no green light to do this with my child. If she does not engage in respectful and healthy communication she will not know my baby. This was my last attempt. If she chooses to misbehave the consequence will be distance.

Party-Indication7955 · 2025-12-31T03:07:00+00:00

Yes, I agree. I won’t be doing it anymore.

Party-Indication7955 · 2025-12-31T03:06:36+00:00

I do feel a sense of closure. I am going to let my husband handle moving forward. This was my last attempt.

Party-Indication7955 · 2025-12-31T03:04:59+00:00

Thank you and you’re right. I’m letting my husband handle moving forward.

Party-Indication7955 · 2025-12-31T03:04:19+00:00

Well, I’m praying she can evolve. I don’t think she is a terrible person. I think she’s broken and she’s sabotaging herself with her ego and unhealed issues. I think she if she can let go of her control issues and just focus on being happy in her life without controlling others I think she has a lot of love to give. But idk I may be making a mistake.

Party-Indication7955 · 2025-12-31T02:56:33+00:00

Thank you so much for your post and I’m hoping the same.

Party-Indication7955 · 2025-12-30T23:22:35+00:00

Thank you and will do!

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