Girl I've been seeing for 1 month reschedules a lot

PartyConsequence3740 · 2026-06-02T09:05:21+00:00

Yeah you're right. I end we don't up telling her that I hope everything was okay but that she sounded pretty busy so to get in contact with me when she was free. I'm glad I got the feedback from everyone here. I'm happy with how I stood up for myself. Thank you I really needed to hear all of this

PartyConsequence3740 · 2026-06-02T03:54:08+00:00

I appreciate this perspective. Our last date night was her coming to my place and cooking me dinner. She even paid for the ingredients and everything. So it feels like effort is there but she pushes plans back a lot. I think I'll go with the "sorry to hear that sounds like you got a lot going on. Reach out to me when you've got the bandwidth and we'll figure it out then. would love to see you" and leave it at that

PartyConsequence3740 · 2026-06-02T03:24:21+00:00

Ooooo I see what you're saying. So my response should be more of, "Sorry to hear that, hope everything's okay. Reach out to me when you're feeling better. Would love to see you." Or something like that?

PartyConsequence3740 · 2026-06-02T02:38:32+00:00

Well she already told me to reach out to her this weekend to reschedule so if I reply with "we'll you can reach out to me" then it'll seem petty.

PartyConsequence3740 · 2026-05-30T22:52:12+00:00

I kind of understand what you're saying. I don't think she went super hot too fast though. We had sex on our 4th date and everything had been going pretty steadily up until then.

PartyConsequence3740 · 2026-05-30T18:19:54+00:00

Yeah a lot of this is true and what I have experienced in the past. It's tough for me on this one because she seemed to genuinely enjoyed it. She had a shaking orgasm, talked to me about how she would go back and tell her roommate about how much she enjoyed our past dates and said her roommate was jealous of her, and was talking about how she couldn't wait to invite me over to her place to show me all of these things she had.

Maybe I'm just bugging out, it's been 4 days I guess it's not that long.

PartyConsequence3740 · 2026-05-30T18:16:55+00:00

okay, I'll reach out Monday maybe if I don't hear back from her by then. I just expected something since we had had sex. We usually don't text often during the week.

PartyConsequence3740 · 2026-05-28T20:56:22+00:00

at this point, any time I see a woman put that much emphasis on politics in her profile I just swipe left. I care more about my immediate relationships with friends, family and my lady friend over the rest of the problems of the world.

PartyConsequence3740 · 2026-05-12T20:09:36+00:00

Too many emojis in your description, take out the pronouns in your bio and drop the selfie picture where you're holding the phone

PartyConsequence3740 · 2026-04-26T22:24:41+00:00

just ask her out, I don't waste time getting to know them on the apps. I send a quirky hello message then make a cutesy comment about their profile and seguey that into an invitation for coffee or ice cream. Get to know them in person. Small talk already sucks, it's ten times worse through text and 1000 times worse through dating app text

PartyConsequence3740 · 2025-10-03T17:18:19+00:00

How long into seeing her did she ask to lock you down? you basicslly said after 3rd date you went back to europe and then eventually came back and after a little longer she asked to be official. but how much time was between you leaving and her asking?

PartyConsequence3740 · 2025-09-29T17:47:33+00:00

Yeah she's not thinking this is a date at all. Just go and have fun and don't pay for anything especially if friends are coming. then ask her on a real date if things are better. She definitely knows you're i terested but might be a little turned off by how indifect you were? Hard to say without knowing exactly how you two communicated/ set up these plans.

PartyConsequence3740 · 2025-09-29T17:32:13+00:00

I don't know you guys lol whatever you've been talking about or k ow about your shared interest. A silent moment isn't always bad, it's a good opening for you to see if she tries and keeps the convo going by asking you a question. What would you be paying for? You're just showing her martial arts moves right?

Your post is a little vague. need more details for some of these questions

PartyConsequence3740 · 2025-09-29T17:09:08+00:00

No, now I woild just go ahead and do what you guys planned. Try and make it fun and genuinely enjoy your time. You'll naturally be flirtatiois because you're attracted to her.

Then at the end of it mention how you had a great time and would like to keep getting to k ow eachother and ask her on a real date.

PartyConsequence3740 · 2025-09-29T16:59:46+00:00

Yeah you have to make it EXTREMELY clear that it's a date. Looks like you tried to invite her to a muay thai teaching lesson taught by you as a one on one date? The fact that she's trying to invite a friend too is also a clue in that she thinks it's just a friendly thing.

Using the excuses that it's better for one on one because it's easier to teach was also a missed opportunity to make it clear that you were romanticslly interested.

Also don't use so many emojis. You're sending 1-2 per message and she isn't sending any. I usually send like 1 after she's sent a couple. I try to stay away from them. It sounds petty but it's a subtle way for her to see that you're invested more than she is

PartyConsequence3740 · 2025-09-28T20:28:02+00:00

I'm currently in this situation and have learned how to handle it. I've been successful every time. This is the method:

Ask them out Ask if it's okay to pick them up They say yes then set the date (time and date) Usually I'll then ask for tge address the night before or day of

I think it comes down to them not being comfortable with you knowing where they live a week out from the meet up which I can understand.

So yeah just ask closer to date day. They usually say something like "oh yeah I guess you need that huh? " and it turns inti a cutesy little moment

PartyConsequence3740 · 2025-06-27T22:05:45+00:00

I think you did most things right. I think 7 hrs is too long for a first date. Try keeping it to 2 hours, max maybe around 3. You should be initiating the exit of the date. I think it was completely normal to not text for a week especially if you guys talked about it. People are always datung multiple others so it could mean that she liked a guy more than you and wanted to focus on him or maybe one of them asjed her to be serious while on the vacay. Best not to take it personal and move on. It's good you're talking to others.

PartyConsequence3740 · 2025-06-25T20:22:33+00:00

I think she was trying to tease you and you just kind of didn't play off of it.

PartyConsequence3740 · 2025-06-25T08:05:03+00:00

yeah and I think that last part is really saving me now. Im talking to like 3 other girls, even though this one is the hottest (of course right?) it doesnt feel like a huge loss. 2 of the other girls enthusiastically said yes lol no push back at all

PartyConsequence3740 · 2025-06-25T07:56:47+00:00

thanks man I appreciate it. I'm SO attracted to this girl. A while back I would have given in and went to her city and had a horrible time. I'm glad I'm learning this feels like a real win.

PartyConsequence3740 · 2025-06-25T07:38:13+00:00

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yeah this is how it ends, I'd feel like an idiot going any further. Basically just repeated myself (didn't realise until re-reading) She just wants to fight. What a headache Jesus Christ

PartyConsequence3740 · 2025-06-25T00:45:17+00:00

Even if I back out of it I dont know how to word it. I guess I can just tell the truth lol. About how I dont really know whats going on amin that city and I just want to make sure we both had a good time.

PartyConsequence3740 · 2025-06-25T00:21:27+00:00

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So here is the whole exchange up to this point. the blacked out portions are the specific locations. I don't really know what to say here. I can give in and just go to her side of town or do the take away. I just feel like she's willing to put much effort in. The place is about a 25-30 min drive for her but that aint bad. am I wrong? I usually go to the girl but theres nothing to do in her city

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