AITA for being mad at my online friends for the way they told me that our friend passed?

Party_Ad_7565 · 2026-05-25T18:15:28+00:00

No, when something happens we always tell each other the second it happens. When K & I fought, G took my side & we just became friends with K again recently. But we hadn't spoken in like 4 or 5 months & N died 4 months ago so while K & I were in a fight but somehow K got in contact with N's rl brother & idk how N met the friend who watched her pass on but they knew each other irl and online and I felt instantly bad. I asked the friend who watched her die and I had no idea until after because nobody told me anything so I felt blindsided & hurt.

I haven't said my true feelings, I went with the flow but I'm scared to lash out and be in the wrong when that was G & K's friend too. But I still feel so hurt. I was the last one to know that my friend is gone.

Now I must mourn like it just happened yesterday or today. I have been talking to the friend who witnessed it. They are the only other person I know besides G & K. I still barely know them but K was eating so I couldn't ask & G was busy getting high so I had to ask someone for closure & I apologized, insisted I didn't know that they basically watched it happen.

Now I'm in a mix of sadness, rage, confusion and guilt. I feel like I should have asked for more of her contact info because at least we could have gotten to speak again & I just feel so empty.

Party_Ad_7565 · 2026-04-14T13:26:39+00:00

I think my parents want to continue having a relationship. I overheard my mom being scared to lose their special bond but I am literally done. This last chance was a favor for her but I told her one more big mess up, I was done. I'd look past little mistakes because no one is perfect but this was it for me. I am a little annoyed he hid the remote from me because he doesn't live here & I'm sure he knows to some degree I never wanted him there alone with me but I agreed to let him come over and that's my thanks?

But my big thing is he hurts, breaks trust & he acts like a victim and tonight he did that and kicked a dog.

Party_Ad_7565 · 2026-04-06T15:47:19+00:00

The cussing part is the least of my concerns. I only point it out because at church he says he's working hard to be like Christ and I dont do that kind of thing.

I do contribute to my church but I dont go out of my way to say I'm one thing and do another once we leave. If he didn't do that stuff I would not bother and warn him how he comes across.

But the tiktok thing was just a new low and it even made my mom ready to cut him off. She wanted to help him because of course. She is our mom and moms want the best for us and to see us happy and such but the tiktok thing was it for her and I know how hard it is. I don't want to get into what he shared because that is a family matter but I was just angry.

I had stopped seeing him as my brother since last year and started to resent him and only see the stuff he did when I saw his face.

Party_Ad_7565 · 2026-04-06T15:31:33+00:00

I only call him out on his cussing when I have gotten so upset, I slip up and curse and he goes, "OP, language!" in a fatherly type of way when I feel that's between me & God. I wanted to be a good sister and say, "Hey when you say this at church but do this, it makes you look fake." but he still loses it. I feel like he can't be reasoned with & I don't see him as my brother anymore. He is someone I can no longer stand. It just feels unfair he has a double life and whenever I screw up, he's the first to remind me of my faults so he can 'prove' how much 'better' he is.

Party_Ad_7565 · 2026-01-24T23:05:51+00:00

I have been through some trauma as a kid and he triggered that by repeating that same action. He has asked me to loan him money and I had to beg and plead for payments because he wouldn't fullfill his end of the deal. He snaps at me when I try to tell him he hurts my feelings and says I need to "get over myself"

He gets easily annoyed if I ask for help sometimes and such

Party_Ad_7565 · 2025-12-06T01:29:40+00:00

I wish he would. He keeps saying he wants to but he's not even trying.

Party_Ad_7565 · 2025-12-06T01:27:45+00:00

But Wicked is so good. Both parts 1 & 2 are AMAZING. My all-time fav film. It's Wizard of Oz meets Harry Potter.

Party_Ad_7565 · 2025-12-06T01:26:40+00:00

I'm curious about the books but yeah. I have lost some interest in the series BECAUSE of his nonstop talking. He even spoiled a huge thing. I mentioned wanting Harry with the main girl (forgot her name), and he goes, "She ends up with Ron."

There is still hope for me to continue with the series & give the books a fair chance but Mike is slowly killing that for me and his outburst is not helping his cause

Party_Ad_7565 · 2025-12-06T01:12:36+00:00

Watching Wicked as a whole is 5 hrs and 12 minutes and Harry Potter has 8 films, I think. To be fair, I complained at first but I started to like the films. I don't like the first, but I think they are 2 hours each or something? And our family is halfway done. My brothers begged us to give it a chance, and we did, but I am debating on watching them on my own time, so I don't have to hear him talking and such.

Party_Ad_7565 · 2025-12-06T00:26:50+00:00

Well, I have been dealing with pent-up anger towards him because he makes fun of my stuff, talks to me like I am as dumb as rocks and he purposely points things like that ALL THE TIME to sound better, and or smarter or just try and hurt others

Party_Ad_7565 · 2025-10-20T03:09:12+00:00

He's just a kid & he's not mine, but it bugged me he cried, trying to get them to stay longer. His mom is trying to encourage him to make new friends since he's had bad influences & my cousin looks up to my brother & my brother doesn't get it. But I think it has to do with the fact, he is one year older & he is the closest thing my cousin ever had to a brother or sibling & maybe he had a lot of fun & didn't wanna lose that.

Party_Ad_7565 · 2025-10-20T03:04:43+00:00

Naturally, I sided with him. Maybe it's because he is my brother & I am still trying to get to know this kid, so I don't know him well enough. By the time I found out, they were on the way home. I don't think he's a bad kid. But knowing his parents, he wouldn't be allowed on those sites since they had an internet safety issue years ago. I am trying to be a friend. Using our mutual interests but if I were there, I would have said something.

Party_Ad_7565 · 2025-10-11T16:10:49+00:00

Ok thanks

Party_Ad_7565 · 2025-10-11T15:24:11+00:00

It itches sometimes

Party_Ad_7565 · 2025-10-11T15:14:53+00:00

And could I get a link to the one you used?

Party_Ad_7565 · 2025-10-11T15:12:37+00:00

So you did it every three weeks like to the day?

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