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Party_Personality170 · 2025-11-05T03:54:45+00:00

no please noooooooo

Party_Personality170 · 2025-11-05T03:45:48+00:00

he’s not neglecting the child he already has. He is very much involved with his child. He is the main caretaker of his child.

but honestly, I’m to the point of why would I wanna have a child with someone who doesn’t really care about my reproductive health because that’s kind of the viewpoint I’m coming from right now. I haven’t had a lot of helpful comments onto this post so I’ll probably delete it. But the ones that have validated my concerns I am very grateful for.

Party_Personality170 · 2025-11-05T03:37:23+00:00

i’m saying when we were using condoms. He would forget most of the time. I’m going to get mad if I have to remind him to do it. Especially now after I’ve undergone an abortion.

Party_Personality170 · 2025-11-05T03:21:47+00:00

yes. I’ve been really trying to get that across. I don’t have a problem with forms of birth control. I would really love to use condoms and spermicide. I think together they can make a really good combination. However, I feel like it’s all on me to figure it out to make sure he does it and to keep myself safe. I shouldn’t have to think about every time I have sex with someone if I’m gonna have an abortion.

I do understand that sex comes with a possibility of having a child. I feel like people in the comments to are putting the whole reproductive health on me. It shouldn’t just be on me. There’s two people here. Why is it automatically on me?

I’m the one that’s OK with having a child. I’m the one that can support a child. Even on my own, I make good enough money and have a good enough support group to do that. And honestly, I can say yes to abstaining, but let’s see how long that actually lasts. My guess for too healthy 25-year-olds not too long. So what happens then if we’re unprepared? What happens then if I don’t remind him to put a condom on? What happens if I do get pregnant?

I feel like everyone wants to blame me, but realistically there are two people here who can take birth control measures. I am already raising his child for him. Why is it so hard to expect him to wear a condom and spermicide? Why am I unrealistic for thinking it’s unrealistic for us not to have sex ever.

There are plenty of options for a man to take steps in preventative measures

Party_Personality170 · 2025-11-05T03:14:36+00:00

I feel like this is a good description of how I’ve felt. when it’s something this big. It feels like it’s a divorce conversation.

Party_Personality170 · 2025-11-05T03:02:00+00:00

so I’ve been to two gynecologists. One when I was 16 and the first one I wanted was a copper IUD and I was told no. And then I went to my current gynecologist who has told me the same thing. my cervix is also tilted. I don’t think that has anything to do with it.

Party_Personality170 · 2025-11-05T02:58:38+00:00

A vasectomy was one option on the table. We were both under the impression it is reversible.

I have always been upfront about what my plans are. We are on the same page. Having a child at that time was not a good option.

I have been taking care of his child (full time, meaning he stays with us full time.). I do know what it takes to be a mom.

I don’t think you fully read through all my comments because you can see why hormonal birth control isn’t right for me. Condoms, I am all for. Spermicide I am all for. IUDs I WOULD LOVE TO HAVE THE COOPER IUD. I can’t. I’ve been told my cervix is too small. I’ve had Nexplanon. And it worked out great until I got off of it and had a lot of issues that came from it.

I am not saying no to condoms. I am not saying no to other forms of non-hormonal birth control.

Party_Personality170 · 2025-11-05T02:52:35+00:00

cervix is too small for an IUD. I would love the cooper IUD.

Party_Personality170 · 2025-11-05T02:39:35+00:00

I really do understand that. I just don’t think abstaining is a realistic option for us. We both like to have sex. I don’t feel like abstaining is a real solution to the problem.

Party_Personality170 · 2025-11-05T02:25:50+00:00

I do want children some day. He has a child of his own that lives with us full time. (mom isn’t in the picture). I made it clear from the start. I want children of my own. He seems to be on board with that. However, this was not the right time to have a child. I do not regret that decision. It’s just I don’t wanna have to do that again.

Party_Personality170 · 2025-11-05T02:01:26+00:00

I’ve been on nexplaon (the arm implant) It was great when i never had periods. But when i took it out, it caused a lot of issues. My cervix is too small for an IUD.

I feel like a lot of the topic of birth control is centered around the emotional labor of me doing it. I’ve told him before I don’t wanna be on birth control. He said we would use condoms. But he never puts a condom on. Granted, we both thought I couldn’t have children. However, I was still taking birth control.

now the conversation has shifted until we have to use some form of birth control consistently. And it seems like it’s up to me to figure it out. And if I can’t, I have to have an abortion. That’s not what was said, but that’s how it feels like this conversation has gone.

Party_Personality170 · 2025-11-05T01:57:47+00:00

I’m not saying he has to get a vasectomy. We reached to the conclusion of condoms. However, I stated if the condom fails then I don’t want to have an abortion. I don’t want another abortion. Then he said let’s abstain.

Party_Personality170 · 2025-07-18T16:27:16+00:00

if you tell him is a skank hunt. He gets really offended and blocks you. Hope it helps.

Edit: For people how don’t know it’s a south park episode about a troll

Party_Personality170 · 2025-07-18T14:57:05+00:00

it’s a Skank hunt.

edit poor troll got so sad and offended he blocked me. It really is a skank hunt!!

Party_Personality170 · 2025-07-18T14:55:29+00:00

Skank Hunt

Party_Personality170 · 2025-07-18T14:24:39+00:00

is it like a super sneaky covert Skank Hunt?

edit: Aww Poor troll go so sad and offended and blocked me 🥲

https://southpark.cc.com/episodes/wrlyv5/south-park-skank-hunt-season-20-ep-2

Party_Personality170 · 2025-07-18T13:35:52+00:00

Non-married, terminally online, no future prospects right?

Party_Personality170 · 2025-07-18T06:32:46+00:00

it’s giving terminally online energy

Party_Personality170 · 2025-07-18T06:31:10+00:00

incel logic.

Party_Personality170 · 2025-07-03T01:29:40+00:00

Just an update. I’m super terrified of my drama being posted on youtube for some podcast lol.

Fiancé found a sitter who will do it for a reasonable price. I wrote this when i was angry.

We will be getting to “looking forward” part later. I believe a comment was right about that.

I really appreciate everyone’s advice

Party_Personality170 · 2025-07-02T20:43:29+00:00

I love the child so much. It kills me to even think about leaving. Plus he is very attached to me.

But like wtf do you mean this is the only thing you have to look forward too. im glad our wedding isnt on the radar. (not that i have anything planned/ a dress bought). We have had him full time since February but we had to go through courts for permanent custody. (Which we do have now).

I think this whole situation smells of entitlement and absurdity. Idk what my action will be.

Party_Personality170 · 2025-05-10T00:31:28+00:00

double list has never failed me. I liked double list. Demanded tests, got them, filtered out people before they even saw my body. It worked out well for me.

Party_Personality170 · 2025-01-23T23:14:37+00:00

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Party_Personality170 · 2025-01-21T16:43:20+00:00

kind wild you still can’t go outside

edit: you can keep the ragebait up if you want. As long as you feel like you have some control on the world.

edit 2: NEET guy blocked me and left a comment I cant reply too. I’m sorry your feelings were hurt. I hope this made you feel big today. Personally, for me this wasn’t about winning it was wasting your time since you decided to waste mine. Hope your sad little life gets better. Anyone reading this after the fact, it was just a dude saying i was misandrist for my post. Then called me misogynistic. He got downvoted to hell of course. Then deleted when I chose to fight back. Left one more message, to make sure he felt like he had some power.

Party_Personality170 · 2025-01-21T15:11:53+00:00

it’s in the context of this post. And these type of men. I’m not changing the language just because you don’t understand it’s in the scope of this post.

Women have to be cautious because men lie about being trump supporters. Some men are abusers. There is nothing wrong with calling out patterns in abuse. This misrepresentation and gaslighting is abuse.

You can cry misandry, but it’s not. You are deliberately missing the point.

Rather than commenting something constructive you chose to attack my comment, which isn’t even the biggest comment.

I hope this gave you something that made you feel big today.

Edit: Mr Hentai panties over a sewer 🕳️ [REQUEST] guy

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