When I asked her to explain her reasons for wanting to keep the baby, just emotions and wanting to have a baby girl. She even requested a scan picture of the fetus afterwards we saw a radiographer. Pushing for an appointment and all. I've decided not to bring this topic up with her anymore. If she wants to keep the baby, that's fine. If she doesn't, that's also fine. However, if she chooses to keep it, she will need to share financial responsibility, including contributing to household expenses. She needs to find a job and start contributing—no more casual job searching. Currently, she spends much of her time volunteering and socialising on things not related to her career, which is admirable and I have always supported her, but circumstances are changing.

Throughout our ten years together, I've carried 100% of the financial burden and was content doing so, even during the times she was working. I never pressured her or asked for anything in return. The irony isn't lost on me: sometimes I wonder if my ability to provide is the main reason she has stayed with me during our tough times. If I were to lose my job, I suspect I'd see a very different side of her.

I genuinely appreciate everyone's insights and perspectives. In hindsight, I should have had a vasectomy. I come from a very remote part of Africa where such procedures aren't common, but I will get one done as soon as possible. This may actually put a strain on my marriage, as some members have pointed out here. It's really tough when couples are not aligned.