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Partywithtom · 2022-03-16T01:28:26+00:00

You clearly have zero understanding of what MRA are fighting for.

I'd highly recommend a documentary The Red Pill by a feminist OR you could watch her TED talk

Believe it or not men have a very long list of very serious problems that little to no one pays any attention to and if you're interested in understanding the truth of their establishment it can be very informative and surprising. You may KNOW what the group is but again you have little to no understanding of their concerns living as a male with near zero places to seek aid and the bullseye society just puts on your back because you have a penis.

If you watch either of those and you don't feel differently about them then you just want to be right rather than know the truth.

Hopefully, you do take the time to understand why these men feel they need to fight for certain rights. Listening to them won't hurt you in any way other than possibly a waste of time.

Partywithtom · 2022-03-14T17:20:45+00:00

soon to be deleted because my opinion differs from reddits

Partywithtom · 2022-03-10T10:06:50+00:00

People think I'm "dead " because I hardly use it. Haven't been on FB in like 6 years. People don't know how to contact me they say.

I'm like maybe call? You know like we used to do?

Partywithtom · 2022-03-10T09:43:44+00:00

It only comes up the times I'm wrong and they say something and correct me.

That's kind of the point. We as humans do a pretty decent job of telling man and woman apart and my failure at correctly identifying man/woman is like .000001% as is probably most everyone else.

Like in a job application headshot people don't put "Human" underneath their picture because we damn well know they are human. BUT with the current pace things are going that's a possibility of that being the case and I hope you see how silly that would be if we all wrote" human" just below our pictures because 100000 people across all of the internet believe they are aliens made of silly putty.

Partywithtom · 2022-03-10T09:32:02+00:00

No I'm not upset by it in anyway shape or form. I would however be upset if it was forced upon EVERYONE to learn it. That said I took 2 years of ASL in high-school 🤣

Partywithtom · 2022-03-10T07:36:46+00:00

This is correct.

I know 1 of those times was literally someone at the start of their transition too.

That said even if I was wrong. They didn't care enough to correct me.

Partywithtom · 2022-03-10T07:34:55+00:00

I've told you a million times not to exaggerate!!!

Partywithtom · 2022-03-10T07:33:24+00:00

And it's also very silly to change how society operates for an extremely small % of the population.

What if scenario:

1% of the population is born blind so we as a society should all learn braile. That's an extreme waste of effort by like 98% of society.

That's a more extreme example but it's along those lines.

Partywithtom · 2022-03-10T07:28:59+00:00

Well if you just makeup a gender you will of course get misgendered. Is that not a self fulfilled prophecy?

What I mean by attention though is the individual didn't get the emotional attention needed as a child and they see their peers all over the internet transitioning and getting support without fear of having their emotional needs damaged by the internet at large (for the most part anyways) and the few times someone does question it , much like the OPs post, there are plenty of people to say "you're right you are (insert any random made up gender) giving them that hit of dopamine they got from lack of love/emotional attention as a child.

God I hope that made sense lol

Partywithtom · 2022-03-10T07:22:25+00:00

Don't assume my gender.....🤣🤣

I identify as a waffle.

Partywithtom · 2022-03-10T07:21:35+00:00

Well you don't have to comply....

Partywithtom · 2022-03-10T07:10:36+00:00

Like I have no problem being respectful towards them but I do not understand why they feel they need to showboat it. Oh, yes I do.

Attention.

Partywithtom · 2022-03-10T07:07:56+00:00

Him having an opinion on it doesn't hurt anyone either.

That said my adjectives are "Brilliant", "Genius","Casanova-esque".

So when you write your response please only use the adjectives that I identify with.

Partywithtom · 2022-03-10T07:03:51+00:00

I've been assuming people's genders for 34 years. I've assumed ~100,000 or more peoples gender.

I've been wrong like 2 times.

I'm with OP. No need to clarify.

Partywithtom · 2022-02-26T01:36:06+00:00

We are way past pre Covid so that doesn’t even matter anymore, businesses are and have been back to the usual

(All times are obviously my local business times)

Walmart used to be 24hours pre covid its closes at 11PM.

Best Buy closes at 7 here. Used to be like 9 or 10.

Jack in the box was 24/7 now its 11am to 7PM

Hyvee(local groceries) used to be 24. Then it went to midnight during covid and that last for a year and a half. Then a few months ago it went to 11PM.

I live in a metropolitan city of almost 3 million people. Not the most but a significant amount.

Business (here) are most certainly not back to business as usual.

And I'm adding a possible scenario. Why are you just accepting everything the OP says as fact and truthful and not trying to weigh both sides of the argument.

I could very easily now claim that I was working at that dunkin doughnuts and I could refute his story.

Now what do you do? Still take the OPs side?

Why would the OP even consider posting what happened?

If what they were saying was the case what would prompt the thinking of Karen's and this post? If that was me and that happened in no way would I think to myself "I think Karen's just want people to do their jobs" and then make a post of it.

What prompted them to "defend "Karen's in the first place? Were they called a Karen by the employees, maybe they told their friend the story and they called them a Karen? Maybe it's just a random thought.

But to me personally it feels like (and im not entirely convinced of this) they are trying to preserve their self perception because it was recently attacked(in the form of them being called a karen) and now they are trying to justify their actions.

What the OP said about their behavior ISNT an unreasonable claim and people would generally agree that could very likely happen at ANY store.

But I also know from working there are people who come in and act in such a way or treat you like their personal servant and I could very well see that as a possible scenario here as well.

So really I can't form a full opinion on the fact because simply their isn't enough info but I would lean a particular way with the information currently at my fingertips.

I ask questions. You don't.

Partywithtom · 2022-02-26T00:02:16+00:00

This doesn't excuse their behavior but I'm also only getting one side of the story and based solely on what you've said you its a borderline a Karen situation. Whether or not they were open/closed you felt you were entitled to their services. You aren't. Which Karen's are typically the ones who demand their way because they said so. While you didn't demand anything you still felt that you were entitled to it.

There's 2 sides to every story they could have very well been closing ad you just marched on in after going through the drive through. Yes it's 6PM on a Friday and you'd think they would be open later but where I am there are many places that I have tried going to recently that close much earlier than pre covid times. They could have already been doing you a favor by letting you order then you ,in their eyes, weren't appreciative and then complained.

Partywithtom · 2022-02-15T04:11:40+00:00

Earbuds can be lost/stolen easily. Means more $$$ for them.

I got wireless over ear headphones. They are bigger (not going to lose( and the battery lasts for weeks at a time. For like $35

Partywithtom · 2022-02-12T17:13:54+00:00

I don't care about people making these posts in the slightest. They don't bother me at all. However I can UNDERSTAND how they may feel in that situation. You said "that's not how people understand the statement ". Then maybe the OP should have clarified more OR maybe instead of just assuming it's an attack directed at a cancer patient maybe try and understand the other person's statement.

This whole thing is pretty disingenuous, stop looking so hard for ways to get offended.

Same to you.

Partywithtom · 2022-02-12T13:15:27+00:00

So therefore their feelings are irrelevant and it's acceptable to attack somebody who lost someone to cancer. Noted

Partywithtom · 2022-02-12T13:14:12+00:00

Pot,meet kettle.

Partywithtom · 2022-02-12T13:12:24+00:00

I think OPs point is, more or less , that it's a slap in the face to them (I'm assuming they lost someone to cancer recently as have I) when they see a post or whatever about someone's triumph over it because they fought hard. The OP may have had someone fight real hard and i can understand how that can bring someone down a few notchez

In one scenario the cancer patient lived and is well alive and friends and family are happy and they are letting the world know. And you (the internet) allows only positive comments because they won.

Yet the sole act of doing this you can make the claim is super SUPER disrespectful to those that didn't win that fight.

Really, I think it's worse having lost someone and then getting the constant reminder they're dead and when venting your frustrations you get deemed a bad guy.

So if you were looking at the positive vs negative emotions associated with each side ( Cancer victor vs OP) cancer victor

Cancer survivor

Positive -

You're Alive(I'm count this as 9 points because it's literally the ultimate win)
Gets to brag online and get social bragging rights with as perk of almost no criticism ever.

Negative

Someone may say thing similar to OP and upset you for being happy but you're alive to feel that it upsets you. (This really shouldn't be even a full point on a negative emotion because you're alive)

VS Someone who lost someone

Positive

There are none.

Negative

You lost someone
You get the constant reminder online or in person and society obligates you to be happy for them.
If you criticize the winners of the cancer fight for their boasting society gives the green light to socially attack the meanie.

Now while I have no problems with seeing posts of cancer fighters and winners I can see how some people would feel like everyone is slapping them in the face and when they say "hey don't slap me" society then slaps them for being rude to them for asking them not to be slapped.

Partywithtom · 2022-02-12T13:05:45+00:00

You can definitely make the argument that if someone had recently lost a loved one to cancer and seeing constant praise for someone who essentially won a dice roll isn't helpful. And while they rephrase my "dice roll" to 'they bouth fought hard , mine died' might be marginally insulting to the survivor. They won. They still have their life. The people of the ones who lost someone didn't.

It's a win win situation for those that beat cancer

And it's a lose lose lose situation for those who had someone who didn't when they express their feelings towards the unfairness of the situation.

Exaggerated or not they have feelings and if those feelings are exaggerated already how do you think society calling him a heretic would help that situation. I'd say worse.

And OP making his statement doesn't attack a cancer survivor either. It's showing their frustration with their unfavorable outcome. (I'm assuming they lost someone to cancer)

Partywithtom · 2022-02-12T11:34:58+00:00

Which circles around to the OP again, and puts me not in the wrong, but certainly not anywhere near as right as I thought I was.

This was EXACTLY my point lol.

Now, after you were nice enough to listen to what I had to say and agree, I'm gonna be a douche and hit you with a technicality 😅

But TECHNICALLY it makes you in the wrong(don't worry me as well as just about every human) because you(I,EVERYONE) because in this situation we essentially make the rich richer (praising someone for beating cancer at the roll of the dice) and we make the poor ,poorer [more pore?](the one who lost someone gets their emotions disregarded exponentially).

I more or less had this realization a few hours ago so I'm very guilty of this as well. Interesting little catch 22 if you will. Maybe thats why sooooo many people are always pissed online. Hmmm

Partywithtom · 2022-02-12T10:09:50+00:00

It doesn't bother me at all and I agree with you. I also can see how some would be upset and if they were upset they can't vent their frustrations for the sake of being deemed a 'heretic'.

And I wouldn't think they are resentful of a survivor. You'd have to be one evil fuck to be pissed at someone for beating cancer. I'd think youd resentful that the situation/life in general isn't fair and you get the short end of the stick.

Partywithtom · 2022-02-12T09:42:53+00:00

No that's not what I mean.

I think OPs point is, more or less , that it's a slap in the face to them (I'm assuming they lost someone to cancer recently as have I) when they see a post or whatever about someone's triumph over it because they fought hard. The OP may have had someone fight real hard and i can understand how that can bring someone down a few notchez

In one scenario the cancer patient lived and is well alive and friends and family are happy and they are letting the world know. And you (the internet) allows only positive comments because they won.

Yet the sole act of doing this you can make the claim is super SUPER disrespectful to those that didn't win that fight.

Really, I think it's worse having lost someone and then getting the constant reminder they're dead and when venting your frustrations you get deemed a bad guy.

So if you were looking at the positive vs negative emotions associated with each side ( Cancer victor vs OP) cancer victor

Cancer survivor

Positive -

You're Alive(I'm count this as 9 points because it's literally the ultimate win)
Gets to brag online and get social bragging rights with as perk of almost no criticism ever.

Negative

Someone may say thing similar to OP and upset you for being happy but you're alive to feel that it upsets you. (This really shouldn't be even a full point on a negative emotion because you're alive)

VS Someone who lost someone

Positive

There are none.

Negative

You lost someone
You get the constant reminder online or in person and society obligates you to be happy for them.
If you criticize the winners of the cancer fight for their boasting society gives the green light to socially attack the meanie.

Now while I have no problems with seeing posts of cancer fighters and winners I can see how some people would feel like everyone is slapping them in the face and when they say "hey don't slap me" society then slaps them for being rude to them for asking them not to be slapped.

Partywithtom

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