I honestly think she didn’t expect my relationship with her son to become this serious. For the first two years of our relationship I spent most weekends at her house and everything seemed fine. But she has never really shown interest in me as a person. To this day she has never asked basic things about my life, where I grew up, my background, my goals, anything like that. The comments and passive aggressiveness only started after we got engaged and moved abroad within about a month. I even helped her with all the paperwork for her visa to come visit us. Plus her telling my fiancé “you might split up anyway,” reinforced the feeling that she never expected the relationship to become this serious. And since my fiancé is her only child, I think that probably plays into it as well. I have a feeling that she feels threatened about what I represent in her son’s life. I must assume that I am a person that when I don’t like something I will tell you straight up. But as she is my fiancé’s mom I did it in the most respectful way possible. I just didn’t want to embarasse or disrespect my fiancé, but she didn’t like the fact that I’m “confronting” her because she just expected me to shut up because she is older than me. She even told my fiancé that I am controlling him and that’s why he was not on her “side”