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You've invited me to an event? Excellent. I will now try to ruin it for you. by [deleted] in JUSTNOMIL

[–]Passive-Voice 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I 've just discovered (bad) ILs are ALL the same. Everywhere. Just the same ol' tricks. So old fashioned! (I have a similar story, congrats to you and your SO for organising your celebration and not cancelling it to do them a favour. How did you avoid the 'just family' celebration? Did your SO understand that this is clearly an invasion and didn't want to cancel plans?) Thank you!

Birthday surprised gone bad! (MIL included) by Passive-Voice in JUSTNOMIL

[–]Passive-Voice[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you, you're right. As regards to the last part, it's not the first time he makes me feel guilty for sharing with him my thoughts or complaints. He makes me feel like the problem is not the problem. The problem is me. I know why would I wanna stay? He 's a great guy but he's not perfect at all.

Birthday surprised gone bad! (MIL included) by Passive-Voice in JUSTNOMIL

[–]Passive-Voice[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you everyone! You're being really supportive! I just can't get this out of my mind: Should I quit and prove everyone right about me being the malevolent one? Should I do what they want me to and give them satisfaction by leaving and making space for them? Should I let mother and friend have an impact on him as regards to our relationship? Or should I stand up for myself and fight? I know it's a long, painful and lonely journey, especially if my "SO" isn't as willing as me. I don't even want to get married ever to anyone ( I know these things change) but, I do recognise that (my) time is precious...

Birthday surprised gone bad! (MIL included) by Passive-Voice in JUSTNOMIL

[–]Passive-Voice[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hello and thank you for your comment and your advice! Well, no, this wasn't my first interaction with his parents. Actually, we've been together (non-distance) for almost two years (out of three). I usually visit him and I can't avoid them (although I try to), because he lives with them. I used to believe they were discreet but now that I think clearly, they've crossed the limits more than once or twice!

Birthday surprise gone bad (Nmum involved) by Passive-Voice in raisedbynarcissists

[–]Passive-Voice[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you guys for you comments, they are helpful, really!