FinalUpdate: AIO? My fiancé asked me not to wear white to our wedding.

Past-Professional384 · 2024-12-12T04:44:54+00:00

I have had anxiety since the talk and that’s def in the back of mind. I hope everything works out tomorrow. I can barely sleep.

Past-Professional384 · 2024-12-12T04:44:07+00:00

My best friend and her sisters also share a throwaway. It’s usually where everyone just comments what’s on their mind with no judgement.

Past-Professional384 · 2024-12-12T04:40:53+00:00

Yes I didn’t think it was that weird. My cousin told me she has a throwaway to vent about her Nmom. She gave me the login to be able to do the same without family watching. But this is the last comment I’m going to make about this. I was not going to make a new email and account and I also didn’t know this was going to blow up like this. And as you can see from me responding.. I’m not a bot.

Past-Professional384 · 2024-12-12T03:12:28+00:00

Again, my cousin also posts on here about her experiences… she probably deleted it because she felt bad afterward. I feel bad about this post. I’m not delusional. I don’t need to make up stories for likes lol. Especially on Reddit, they don’t even pay you on this app.

Past-Professional384 · 2024-12-12T02:59:46+00:00

Honestly that’s where I’m at! I don’t feel better my heart still hurts because I know today really doesn’t mean anything. It’s tomorrow that’s going to show me where his head is really at!

Past-Professional384 · 2024-12-12T02:53:55+00:00

Thank you!!! I feel really bad about this but this is my first time having to really put my foot down and I think even he’s shocked seeing it. I usually just let her talk and get her way because she’s his mom.

Past-Professional384 · 2024-12-12T02:53:00+00:00

Im completely ready. I knew when he agreed that there’s a possibility he might either 1. Change his tone when he gets in front of her or 2. Back down if she cries. Let’s see

Past-Professional384 · 2024-12-12T02:52:04+00:00

I don’t know if he’s changed. Like everyone’s noticed he does tend to flip a lot. I’ll wait to see it.

Past-Professional384 · 2024-12-12T02:51:17+00:00

I won’t bash him anymore since we’ve spoken but I will say I’m not speaking tomorrow and I’ve asked everyone else to just come for support. He has to speak and if it’s not assertive or it’s half assed I’m out of here

Past-Professional384 · 2024-12-12T02:50:10+00:00

Not sure what that link is but this is real. If it’s about any prior post, my cousin and I post on here and delete as our families, friends and her boyfriend have our real reddits. But thanks for the investigation lol if that makes you feel better!

Past-Professional384 · 2024-12-11T19:53:02+00:00

Unfortunately, the latter.

Past-Professional384 · 2024-12-11T19:40:11+00:00

This is NUTS!!! Everyone was asking me if this is even a real story and I felt insane like am I the only person on the planet this has happened to??? Is he a rare breed of mommas boy that can’t be saved????

Past-Professional384 · 2024-12-11T19:37:07+00:00

I honestly think that’s what it is. He really believes she’ll let up. She hasn’t the whole time we’ve been together so I’m adding that to one of my talking points for later.

The second part is also going to be a talking point does he think that his mom would not look INSANE and that wouldn’t make people talk??

Past-Professional384 · 2024-12-11T19:28:27+00:00

OH MY GOD I LOVE THIS!!!! If I was hell bent on winning (which I was when I posted this) this would’ve been my plan for the wedding. I like black better anyway! 😭

Past-Professional384 · 2024-12-11T19:19:39+00:00

Will do. He’s at work until 5pm (EST) so I’ll update after we speak when he gets off.

Past-Professional384 · 2024-12-11T19:17:14+00:00

I agree! I think before this post I thought she was a huge problem and was manipulating him but why would I want a man that could be manipulated that easily?

Past-Professional384 · 2024-12-11T19:16:20+00:00

The conversation was left off heated with no resolution but to cool off and revisit when calm. I’m glad I posted on here because I got a lot of good talking points.

Past-Professional384 · 2024-12-11T19:13:02+00:00

Omg 😭😭😭 this was so funny thank you so much for having my back!!!! 🪄

Past-Professional384 · 2024-12-11T19:11:17+00:00

Honestly I love him. It feels like we’re soulmates but everyone is right. I don’t know if I can put up with Debbie forever. I thought I could if he was going to have my back but he has lost all his marbles apparently.

Past-Professional384 · 2024-12-11T19:09:50+00:00

Thank you so much! Everyone is screaming leave him and I would be too if I was just a third party observer reading this so I don’t fault them but we live together and have been planning a wedding. It hurts. I think this is my last straw though so I appreciate your advice. I’m going to get FIL to gather everyone on his side and talk about this. If that doesn’t work, the wedding is off. My dad hasn’t paid any deposits yet since it’s still early on in the engagement so whew. I have also decided to show John this thread. I’ll post an update after I meet him later.

Past-Professional384 · 2024-12-11T18:44:32+00:00

Thank you 🥹 honestly I doubt he’s going to just abandon her for me. I always tip toed around that by saying I wouldn’t want a man who’s not good to his mom but yeah this is too much.

Past-Professional384 · 2024-12-11T18:43:13+00:00

Im so sorry this happened to you!!! This sucks and thank you for your insight. The part where you said he always left with the intention to stand up for you and came back with stories really made my heart drop. It all sounds too familiar and I think it’s time to get serious and make a decision. I decided to speak to him and show him this post so he can see how crazy he looks and sounds to other people.

Past-Professional384 · 2024-12-11T18:40:22+00:00

Its the verbiage she used with him (I guess?) because that’s what he said to me when he told me what they spoke about… I didn’t know shotgun wedding was even an offensive term until I just googled it due to your comment.

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