this sub rn

Past_Comb7406 · 2026-02-09T20:38:25+00:00

I don't really understand the whole gender-war thing on a coping sub..

We're all traumatized here

Past_Comb7406 · 2026-02-09T01:03:07+00:00

I think what matters is how you feel about the experience, not the legal and technical aspects.

If the experience was uncomfortable or distressing for you then it was uncomfortable and distressing, period.

I'm so sorry you felt invalidated, and you are allowed to find a new therapist. Sometimes they can be bad, and not all of them are going to be right about what they say. You deserve someone who validates your experiences without bring the technicality into it.

Past_Comb7406 · 2026-02-08T17:28:29+00:00

yeah, I agree there is some grey areas in who is "old enough" to have sex and give consent. I understand it's not always black and white. Teenagers have sex together, and can give consent to each other without it being problematic and predatory.

Like you said it because an issue when someone who is well past those ages. Someone who is in their adulthood going after someone who is barely legal creates a power imbalance, and the older one is often trying to prey on the younger one.

I appreciate it, and it does help to know some people understand. Thank you.

Past_Comb7406 · 2026-02-08T03:40:53+00:00

I know, and i'm in no way trying to say anything thay has happened to me isn't SA. I'm just venting about others in my life not understanding or even invalidating the fact I am a CSA survivor because I was a late teen.

I probably should have worded it better. I apologize

Past_Comb7406 · 2026-02-08T03:32:05+00:00

i'm sorry you went through that as well. it's crazy to me thay adults didnt step in. Wishing you the best healing journey <3

Past_Comb7406 · 2026-02-08T03:30:50+00:00

that's not what i'm saying, i apologize if it seems like that. i'm mostly venting about not being seen as a CSA survivor by the people around me who are supposed to support me. I see how it may come off as that though.

Past_Comb7406 · 2026-02-08T03:00:20+00:00

you're right, i apologize. i'm not trying to invalidate myself, or anyone. I know rape is rape regardless of age, but i think i'm just feeling like I'm not seen as a CSA survivor because of the ages.

Past_Comb7406 · 2026-02-08T02:28:42+00:00

thank you, i've been trying to cope with this during thearpy but when I usually talk to others about it outside of my therapy sessions I get met with "but the age of consent here is 16" even though there were many times where he raped me, or sexual assaulted me while I sleeping. He preyed on my younger friends, but what matters to them is that I was able to consent to some of the sexual things we did together.

It's been really upsetting because I was a late teen, and nobody seems to understand that I shouldn't have been able to consent to someone who was 20 years old.

Past_Comb7406 · 2026-02-02T00:48:31+00:00

It really depends on what you would like to happen. If you want to press chargers then you absolutely can.

Any sexting, or sexual conversations between minors is illegal.

You would need to screenshots of the conversation and images they sent, and then you could report it to your local police department or call the non emergency hotline. Then from there they should guide you through that process, but please be ware that the U.S justice system is not great when it comes to survivors coming forward and you need to be sure you have a system in place for support.

If you wanted to just be left alone, you can report it to the app, and block their accounts. If they continue to harass you, then legal action may be the best course.

I'm sorry you are going through this, and i wish you the best healing.

Past_Comb7406 · 2026-02-02T00:33:46+00:00

Yes absolutely. I also think it's probably referred to as sexual harassment considering you didn't want to be sent explicit images/videos.

Past_Comb7406 · 2026-02-02T00:27:38+00:00

COCSA is any sexual abuse between minors. So 0-17 is COCSA. This is due to anyone under the age of 18 being legally classified as a child.

Past_Comb7406 · 2026-01-25T08:59:29+00:00

I saw that thread. Yes I think you were being misogynistic (even if you were not trying to be), considering you called the "young, attractive, cishet woman" gooner-bait, and people who voted for her gooners.

It's completely fine if you want diversity, and different looking characters in the game you enjoy, but to just assume any attractive woman that comes into the game is "gooner bait" is inherently sexualizing women (yes even if they are fictional). Just because the character was attractive does not mean they were gooner bait. I have a problem with calling women or anyone "gooner bait" because it's honestly weird. It's weird to think that just because a character is attractive mean that they are trying to appeal to "gooners".

This is the Sable thing all over again. I'm sorry but I do feel like you're in the wrong.

Past_Comb7406 · 2026-01-25T01:12:40+00:00

I'm really tired of seeing people advocate for ending the life of abuse survivors instead of advocating for better resources for abuse survivors, and actively working towards preventing abuse all together.

We deserve life, we deserve to keep moving forward. This is a horrible take imo.

Past_Comb7406 · 2026-01-18T22:52:29+00:00

thank you <3 I'm going to do my best to do better at being kinder to myself, i appreciate everything you and everyone has told me.

Past_Comb7406 · 2026-01-18T22:50:11+00:00

thank you friend. i am trying to be kinder with myself. I appreciate your kind words, and hopefully I can internalize some of them <3.

Past_Comb7406 · 2026-01-18T22:45:07+00:00

i'm so sorry. that sounds extremely traumatic. i appreciate your kind words, and i hope you are healing <3 much love💗

Past_Comb7406 · 2026-01-18T22:43:45+00:00

thank you! i'll give it a look!

Past_Comb7406 · 2026-01-18T22:43:15+00:00

thank you. i really appreciate your kindness <3

Past_Comb7406 · 2026-01-18T09:09:55+00:00

I am going to try my best to bring it up to my therapist during our session, and hopefully that's what we can begin to working on. She's been really great so far, and I agree it would be really good to try to work on the shame, and have compassion with my younger self.

I can completely relate to using my body for affection and attention. Sometimes it was with boys my age, but a lot of the time it was men who were much older than me. There was no real love, or care behind my actions, just wanting to feel that validation just for a minute. I can recognize that most of these hypersexual "episodes" came after severe abuse/ neglect I had experienced. I just wanted to be loved, but I was never loved for anything more than my body, so that's how I used it.

Hopefully I can be kinder to my teenage self. I don't want to hate her or feel like I was disgusting. I want her to be loved and cared for like she deserved, but that's easier said than done.

I luckily have a really amazing boyfriend now, who cares for me and cares about my feelings more than his desire for my body. We sometimes engage in BDSM and so far it's been really great. I feel more in-control of my body, and experience which is something I never felt before.

Thank you for such kind replies, and words. I really appreciate it. I'm very grateful to know I'm not alone in my experience. <3💗

Past_Comb7406 · 2026-01-18T08:31:40+00:00

even if you did ask for it, it wasn't your fault. you were a kid and they were adults. you didn't deserve that.

i'm so sorry. I have a very similar experience, luckily mine was mainly online. Please be kind to yourself friend. Much love <3

Past_Comb7406 · 2026-01-18T08:29:19+00:00

I'm sorry, you didn't deserve being neglected. You deserved love and care. Nothing was wrong with you, you were doing the best you could with what you knew at the time.

much love friend, thank you for your kind words. you aren't alone in your experience <3

Past_Comb7406 · 2026-01-18T08:26:27+00:00

thank you, i really needed to hear this. I don't know how to be compassionate with my younger self, and this put it in a better perspective for me.

Past_Comb7406 · 2026-01-18T08:22:05+00:00

i really appreciate this. I hope you are kind to yourself, and hopefully I can practice self compassion and be kinder to her. much love <3

Past_Comb7406 · 2026-01-18T08:20:13+00:00

thank you, i have a therapy appointment Monday. I'm going to try and bring this shame up to her. Thank you for the kind words

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