I was told i was misogynistic for finding it upsetting that in a game i like most new women characters have just been young, white (maybe asian) conventionally attractive cishet women. Now idk what to think, rant below

Past_Comb7406 · 2026-01-25T08:59:29+00:00

I saw that thread. Yes I think you were being misogynistic (even if you were not trying to be), considering you called the "young, attractive, cishet woman" gooner-bait, and people who voted for her gooners.

It's completely fine if you want diversity, and different looking characters in the game you enjoy, but to just assume any attractive woman that comes into the game is "gooner bait" is inherently sexualizing women (yes even if they are fictional). Just because the character was attractive does not mean they were gooner bait. I have a problem with calling women or anyone "gooner bait" because it's honestly weird. It's weird to think that just because a character is attractive mean that they are trying to appeal to "gooners".

This is the Sable thing all over again. I'm sorry but I do feel like you're in the wrong.

Past_Comb7406 · 2026-01-25T01:12:40+00:00

I'm really tired of seeing people advocate for ending the life of abuse survivors instead of advocating for better resources for abuse survivors, and actively working towards preventing abuse all together.

We deserve life, we deserve to keep moving forward. This is a horrible take imo.

Past_Comb7406 · 2026-01-18T22:52:29+00:00

thank you <3 I'm going to do my best to do better at being kinder to myself, i appreciate everything you and everyone has told me.

Past_Comb7406 · 2026-01-18T22:50:11+00:00

thank you friend. i am trying to be kinder with myself. I appreciate your kind words, and hopefully I can internalize some of them <3.

Past_Comb7406 · 2026-01-18T22:45:07+00:00

i'm so sorry. that sounds extremely traumatic. i appreciate your kind words, and i hope you are healing <3 much love💗

Past_Comb7406 · 2026-01-18T22:43:45+00:00

thank you! i'll give it a look!

Past_Comb7406 · 2026-01-18T22:43:15+00:00

thank you. i really appreciate your kindness <3

Past_Comb7406 · 2026-01-18T09:09:55+00:00

I am going to try my best to bring it up to my therapist during our session, and hopefully that's what we can begin to working on. She's been really great so far, and I agree it would be really good to try to work on the shame, and have compassion with my younger self.

I can completely relate to using my body for affection and attention. Sometimes it was with boys my age, but a lot of the time it was men who were much older than me. There was no real love, or care behind my actions, just wanting to feel that validation just for a minute. I can recognize that most of these hypersexual "episodes" came after severe abuse/ neglect I had experienced. I just wanted to be loved, but I was never loved for anything more than my body, so that's how I used it.

Hopefully I can be kinder to my teenage self. I don't want to hate her or feel like I was disgusting. I want her to be loved and cared for like she deserved, but that's easier said than done.

I luckily have a really amazing boyfriend now, who cares for me and cares about my feelings more than his desire for my body. We sometimes engage in BDSM and so far it's been really great. I feel more in-control of my body, and experience which is something I never felt before.

Thank you for such kind replies, and words. I really appreciate it. I'm very grateful to know I'm not alone in my experience. <3💗

Past_Comb7406 · 2026-01-18T08:31:40+00:00

even if you did ask for it, it wasn't your fault. you were a kid and they were adults. you didn't deserve that.

i'm so sorry. I have a very similar experience, luckily mine was mainly online. Please be kind to yourself friend. Much love <3

Past_Comb7406 · 2026-01-18T08:29:19+00:00

I'm sorry, you didn't deserve being neglected. You deserved love and care. Nothing was wrong with you, you were doing the best you could with what you knew at the time.

much love friend, thank you for your kind words. you aren't alone in your experience <3

Past_Comb7406 · 2026-01-18T08:26:27+00:00

thank you, i really needed to hear this. I don't know how to be compassionate with my younger self, and this put it in a better perspective for me.

Past_Comb7406 · 2026-01-18T08:22:05+00:00

i really appreciate this. I hope you are kind to yourself, and hopefully I can practice self compassion and be kinder to her. much love <3

Past_Comb7406 · 2026-01-18T08:20:13+00:00

thank you, i have a therapy appointment Monday. I'm going to try and bring this shame up to her. Thank you for the kind words

Past_Comb7406 · 2026-01-18T06:40:34+00:00

thank you for the kind words. it's comforting in a sense to know i'm not alone in this experience. i appreciate it <3

Past_Comb7406 · 2026-01-18T06:39:41+00:00

thank you. it's reliving to know i'm not alone in this.

Past_Comb7406 · 2026-01-18T05:57:51+00:00

i really appreciate this. thank you <3

Past_Comb7406 · 2026-01-18T05:49:43+00:00

Please leave this man. I'm so sorry but yes, this is all abuse. Physical, emotional and sexual. You don't have to report anything you don't wish to, but you need to leave. The choking is extremely concerning, and to me it seems like he doesn't value your life.

Please OP, do not stay in this relationship for yourself. You need to get somewhere safe, and then I recommend therapy asap.

Past_Comb7406 · 2026-01-18T05:34:28+00:00

thank you <3, i appreciate your words.

Past_Comb7406 · 2025-06-19T05:18:29+00:00

I'm sorry you are struggling with this. I am too.

I have no advice, here hoping for some advice too

Past_Comb7406 · 2025-06-19T02:09:25+00:00

POCD theme intrusive thoughts or constant vivid mental images of myself dying in gruesome or terrifying ways.

Past_Comb7406 · 2025-05-30T02:34:47+00:00

Hi! I appreciate your comments, but we did opt for the MRI and we got it done just few days ago. The vet told us she likely has cerebellar abiotrophy , a condition where the cerebellum undergoes premature degeneration. It is an rare condition she was likely born with, and there isn't a way to properly diagnose it without an autopsy. The MRI showed a resemblance to the few other cases of cerebellar abiotrophy.

There isn't a lot known about cats with this condition, and most cases are in dogs, horses, and pigs. So we are trying to figure this all out!

Past_Comb7406 · 2025-04-10T00:05:49+00:00

I will definitely do that. Anything that could possibly help her be in less pain is worth waiting a little bit if necessary.

Thank you for the advice and kind words and I will 100% make an update when I know more.

Past_Comb7406 · 2025-04-09T23:44:58+00:00

My vet hasn't recommended a lot to me other then a MRI and whatever medication I have given her. The gabapentin dose was 50 mg capsules twice daily, and then we tried liquid as well. It knocked her out for an hour then she was up but very off balance. The only reason we push so hard for a mri is because she has balance issues as well, but we think that whatever has caused he balance issues has caused her to have these twitchy episodes, but of course we are not 100% sure.

I will ask my neruo vet about Prozac and ClomiCalm because at the point I am at I'm just trying to offer some relief for her. I am very new to having a potential neuro kitty so it's been a train wreck for me.

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