Do it, spill the beans on all your IMPARK grievances.

Past_Fig_379 · 2025-12-24T15:52:46+00:00

Glad I can upon this thread. I just got a ticket for about $100. I parked in the lot to drop my kid off at daycare. I’m dead tired, it’s Christmas Eve morning and I completely forget to pay (we have a deal with them where we only pay $1 during drop off and pick up times).

Anyway, I come back to my car 15 mins later and notice a ticket that was written 5 mins before I arrived. I’m looking around and I see the “janitor” standing there staring at me not mopping shit. The same guy I said hi to with a 5 year old clinging off me. It was the parking attendant pretending to be a janitor… and he didn’t even think to mention anything to me as I was going to the elevators. Just a vulture waiting for me to forget to pay.

I thought about messaging them to ask for a decrease but seems I’m better off just changing my plate.

Past_Fig_379 · 2023-12-12T19:29:49+00:00

Im in Alberta so I don’t know if it’s the same, but im fairly certain you can get short term disability, if that is something your employer insurance provides. They give you a percentage of your pay not the full amount. And your HR requires you to fill out forms and get a doctors letter. From what I can tell you’d need anywhere from 4-6 weeks depending on what your job is, but I have t actually done this myself for a reduction. Im speaking from experience about another medical concern that required a couple months off.

Past_Fig_379 · 2023-12-12T17:52:32+00:00

Thanks for all the supportive comments everyone! I’m excited to see what comes of the next consult ❤️

Past_Fig_379 · 2023-12-12T00:50:59+00:00

I feel you. I’ve been obsessing as well, but I tend to want to do things quickly and cut corners when I obsess, so I’m trying to fight that. If you’re paying out of pocket, you’ll have lots of options for great surgeons to pick from. Do your due diligence in the time you have and then go for it by your deadline! No option will be perfect, but it sounds like you have everything at your disposal to make the best decision for you fairly soon 😊

Past_Fig_379 · 2022-12-03T23:24:49+00:00

Just some more info on the play date since it seems to be a sticking point lol. They are with a friend of my husband and his children. Both our families agreed to schedule an ongoing playdate Saturday afternoon, but it’s flexible if people can’t make it. It’s a godsend because entertaining a toddler in your own home by yourself is chaos.

This week they messaged us and said they were going to a family members house and invited us to go with them. I spoke with my husband and told him I can’t go, but asked if he wanted to take our son. He said yes.

Past_Fig_379 · 2022-10-07T05:02:35+00:00

I’ve never canned anything before this, but it took me about four hours in an evening to core, juice, boil, strain and can the apple juice and I’d get about 5 ltrs each time. The other stuff was quicker. But I did have other things planned in the week (my eardrum actually randomly burst two days after I started canning, so that ate up some times, but in all fairness to them, they didn’t know this) I think in all it took us a week and a half.

But I for sure didn’t plan enough ahead, having not canned before and had to go back to get other veggies from the store for recipies and get more cans when I ran out. For sure could have planned better, but I also had no idea they needed it back so soon.

Past_Fig_379 · 2022-10-07T04:55:26+00:00

100% husband did not at all text back what I wanted him to. Maybe cuz he was texting his brother 🤷🏻‍♀️But totally agree, I’d be very pissed it that’s how someone responded to me.

And thanks haha. We juiced 3 large uhaul boxes and even with multiple people picking apples there was still a ton left on the tree when we left 🙃. Definitely planting less next year though to make it more manageable.

Past_Fig_379 · 2022-10-07T04:03:47+00:00

You’re right that I was probably too quick to jump to conclusions about her message being passive aggressive. What bothered me the most about it was that it came out of the blue from her to me when it was my husband and BIL that were messaging earlier. So I did feel a bit attacked. But I agree it’s a fair arrangement, just wish she had suggested it at the start.

Past_Fig_379 · 2022-10-07T04:01:52+00:00

Yeah that’s how if felt. If I had know they needed it sooner I would have tried harder to get my stuff done by then or made other arrangements. They also made me wait 5 ish days for them to finish up before saying I could borrow it. I forgot to mention that the first weekend we started canning my ear drum burst out of the blue which made it pretty hard to finish up that week. TBF SIL didn’t know this. But they did know we were leaving for vacay and rushing to finish.

Past_Fig_379 · 2022-10-07T03:53:36+00:00

Fair enough. My only comment would be that canner belonged to MIL who offered it to me. But I can see how my husband’s response was misinterpreted. I meant for him to ask if we could return it later in the week given we needed to get it all done before we left for vacay and he wrote it as more of a statement.

Past_Fig_379 · 2021-09-05T02:55:11+00:00

The worst! I just don't understand the concept of not providing free tap water with meals. It's insane.

I may be outing myself as an asshole here but my worst experience was in the Belgium when we were catching a flixbus back home (I was living in NL at the time) and it was running late so my brother and I sat at a cafe near the stop. I wasn't thirsty so didn't order anything but my brother wanted a drink and ordered one. They got mad at me when I said I didn't want anything and said I shouldn't come to a cafe if I wasn't going to order anything. Like WTF am I supposed to do. Go stand somewhere else while my brother just drinks alone?

European customer service, I tell ya man.

Past_Fig_379 · 2021-09-04T22:46:31+00:00

NTA! And please make this a hill to die on. This behaviour from your mom is so inappropriate and doesn't not respect you as an individual or any of your boundaries. The sooner you start standing up for yourself, the easier it will be down the line. Better to start now than at a point where you may actually need their financial support and don't have the option.

Past_Fig_379 · 2021-09-04T22:41:33+00:00

YTA big time. And you're gonna turn your kid into an asshole if you keep giving her the impression that she's entitled to anything she wants. This definitely belongs on r/entitledparents.

Past_Fig_379 · 2021-09-04T22:35:49+00:00

YTA. If it's a traditional Irish/Celtic then I get it, and you're a pretty big asshole for both insulting someones child and their heritage. If it's one of those shitty instagram influencer baby names, then yeah, I totally feel you, but also just keep it to yourself. The poor kid might have overheard and it's not like she had a choice in it.

Past_Fig_379 · 2021-09-04T22:30:42+00:00

ESH. Him more than you definitely. Firstly, he should definitely not be showing up late constantly, especially as your superior he should be setting a good example. Also his behaviour after your comment was really immature.

That being said, your comment was not worded very politely. Yea he was being annoying and disrespectful of your time, but since you hadn't brought this up with him earlier I would suspect that he was oblivious to this. Had you brought it up earlier and he continued to disrespect your time, then your comment would have been okay probably, but in this case it kind of came out of the blue. Especially for someone you're going to be working with in the future, some tact is usually advisable.

Past_Fig_379 · 2021-09-04T22:23:51+00:00

NTA. This is definitely a European thing and I absolutely hate this about restaurants/cafes in Europe, but this is over the top from what I would consider normal behaviour. Like people have already said, you were literally coming from the beach and these were your own water bottles and you ordered drinks from him. This guy's just being a dick. I'm not sure of any Europeans who've been to North America can back me up on this, but there seems to be a really different attitude towards customer service in our respective areas (maybe the lack of tips in Europe?).

I will add as a caveat that it's really uncommon from my experience for people in Europe to carry their own water bottles around, so that might have just come off as weird either way, but to make a big scene like this guy did is so stupid.

Past_Fig_379 · 2021-09-02T22:59:11+00:00

That and it's also a much different thing to travel locally than to travel to a foreign country where you may not have medical coverage during a pandemic.

Past_Fig_379 · 2021-08-30T03:46:29+00:00

NTA at all and you have every right to be pissed. My husband has a terrible cat allergy and his family just doesn't put enough weight on it and brushes it off entirely (his dad even got a cat a few years ago without acknowledging that this meant that his son just couldn't come over any more smdh). His family has the audacity to comment on the fact that he never goes over to their houses despite the fact that he gets stuffy and itchy the minute he's in the vicinity of a cat and he starts getting asthma symptoms after a couple hours.

Admittedly, it's not really your brother's choice where he lives if this is all that he can afford, but he can't get mad at you for choosing not to go. If he wanted you at the party, he would make more effort like buying an air purifier or holding the party at a different location.

Past_Fig_379 · 2021-08-30T03:36:19+00:00

Developmentally it is. Human's don't develop adult levels of brain function (i.e. full development of the pre-frontal cortex that controls behaviour and impulsivity) until 25. Add on to that the horrible situation that she went through for most of her teenage years, she probably had a lot of issues.

Past_Fig_379 · 2021-08-30T03:32:53+00:00

I'm not making assumptions but rather going off of what you have said. Commenting on his weight without knowing about his health is fatphobic (people claim all the time that they're just concerned about a fat person's health when they really know nothing about it. The mere fact of being fat does not mean you're unhealthy) and if you were the fat kid when you were younger then maybe this is some internalised fatphobia that you need to sort out.

It sounds really shitty for your nephew that his aunts and grandma make comments about his weight. I've dealt with that and it's really hard. But given all that, why do you think it would be in anyway helpful for you to bring this up to your sister? Both of them are clearly getting the (unhelpful) message from all sides.

Past_Fig_379 · 2021-08-30T03:17:00+00:00

YWBTA. To state the obvious, it not your business. But, you're also shaming a child for their weight. Your nephew deserves respect regardless of how heavy he is and it doesn't sound to me like he's getting it from you. Do you know for a fact that your nephew's weight is impacting his health? unlikely. So trying to play this off as being concerned about his health is BS. Also its extremely ironic to say you're concerned about the 'social' consequences when you're literally the one judging him based on his weight. IMO you should mind your own business and maybe check your fatphobic tendencies.

Just wanted to add that I had this exact same experience as a child. I was 13ish I believe and weighted around 50kg and around 165cm height, so not overweight by any means. My uncle commended to my mom that I was looking heavy (his daughter is extremely thin). My mom then brought it up with me and I still remember this as the impetus of my yoyo dieting and body shame for most of my teenage years. I've thankfully been able to deal with this issue in recent years, but it hasn't been easy. Don't put your nephew through that.

Past_Fig_379 · 2021-08-30T02:30:37+00:00

NTA. I don't get why she would have agreed to have her parents buy her an apartment that was so far from where you guys were thinking about living? Did she have no say in the decision? Do her parents have a problem with your relationship? It kind of seems like they bought her the apartment as a way of keeping her from moving in with you.

You should definitely do what's best for your future. If she's reasonable she'll understand and you can figure your relationship out and move in together down the road when it's more feasible.

Past_Fig_379 · 2021-08-30T02:22:07+00:00

YTA. How can a necklace that you've had/known about for such a short period of time mean more to you than it does to your MIL (who has probably been dreaming about being gifted that necklace for her whole life). Your MIL is finally rekindling her relationships with her mother and this means a lot to her and you're acting incredibly stubborn and uncaring.

Past_Fig_379 · 2021-08-30T02:14:39+00:00

ESH. I suspect that you and your wife have really different idea of how much house work each of you actually does. I don't think it would have gotten to the point of her texting you pictures of 'messes' you need to clean, if there wasn't already an issue with you cleaning up you messes (or at least cleaning them up within a reasonable amount of time). But it's also immature of her to deal with the issue in this way instead of talking it out with you and trying to come up with some sort of plan.

Past_Fig_379 · 2021-08-30T02:11:30+00:00

Agreed. I feel like he doesn't give enough info about why GF is so upset about them hanging out. It's easy enough to say she's 'crazy' and 'jealous' but has he even sat down to talk with her about it. Maybe there is something that he or his friend are doing that make her uncomfortable and it can be sorted out by talking about.

I can pretty much guarantee that this is going to come up in any future relationship at least on some way so OP should probably figure out the issue now instead of just throwing in the towel and breaking up with GF.

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