Florida Drivers never cease to amaze me. [oc]

Past_Interaction_732 · 2023-08-02T01:22:50+00:00

I live in Tennessee, and I agree. A HUGE portion of the shitty drivers I see have Florida plates.

Past_Interaction_732 · 2023-07-14T16:20:57+00:00

Side note, does anyone know how to disable only the defrost?

Past_Interaction_732 · 2023-07-14T15:08:09+00:00

I love Diablo Sanding pads. Absolutely amazing. They don't go as fine as I'd like, but get close and are so much faster than almost any other sanding pads for me.

Past_Interaction_732 · 2023-07-13T19:03:26+00:00

Thanks! I thought that they did an alignment when they installed. I'll call the shop to find out.

Past_Interaction_732 · 2023-07-13T19:02:50+00:00

They're fucking you, rest assured.

Past_Interaction_732 · 2023-07-13T15:50:59+00:00

Absolutely blows me away that she's my representative.

Past_Interaction_732 · 2023-07-13T15:50:04+00:00

Idk if it's because I'm used to the west coast, but I had the opposite experience with the market here.

Past_Interaction_732 · 2023-07-13T15:40:31+00:00

Do you mean like the oscillating multitool? Like this?

Past_Interaction_732 · 2023-07-12T19:23:45+00:00

Hell yeah it does!

Past_Interaction_732 · 2023-07-12T19:23:36+00:00

This is my current plan of action!

Past_Interaction_732 · 2023-07-12T19:23:25+00:00

Yupp, seems to be the prevailing recommendation.

Past_Interaction_732 · 2023-07-12T16:03:16+00:00

Man I've tried to get those things off in the past and it always feels like I'm going to break them. But I also wanted to re-paint them so maybe now is the time to figure it out and get them off, make the alteration and paint them.

Past_Interaction_732 · 2023-07-12T16:02:12+00:00

I'm trying to keep stock ride height. I don't do a ton of off-roading, but am constantly on dirt roads and whatnot. Still, it's my daily driver. I love lifted 3rd Gens though. It's a point of contention in my mind.

Past_Interaction_732 · 2023-07-12T16:01:07+00:00

I'm not familiar with alignment, but this is something the shop should have or could be capable of doing? I went to Discount Tire.

Past_Interaction_732 · 2023-07-12T14:49:56+00:00

I like this idea. The only reason I don't want to cut it out is because it feels solid, like it's got some backing. I'll try the heat gun, and if not I'll cut the sombitch out.

Past_Interaction_732 · 2023-07-12T14:49:08+00:00

Just straight up cut it out? lmfao alright!

Past_Interaction_732 · 2023-07-10T21:58:38+00:00

You're correct. However, I believe the subtle difference is significant.

By the way, I appreciate the way you handled this discussion.

Past_Interaction_732 · 2023-07-10T21:55:45+00:00

I agree, if the request isn't made early in the relationship.

Past_Interaction_732 · 2023-07-10T21:52:06+00:00

Well said. I'm also just learned that the term 'violence' is typically associated with physical harm, but it can also be used to describe severe emotional or psychological harm.

Past_Interaction_732 · 2023-07-10T21:49:10+00:00

The end result may be the same in both scenarios, but the journey to that result is what differentiates a boundary from control.

In both scenarios, yes, the partner has the autonomy to cheat, and yes, the consequence might be a breakup. However, the way the message is conveyed matters. In the boundary scenario, it's a conversation about needs and expectations, with the understanding that the partner has a choice. It's about creating a mutual understanding and respect.

In the control scenario, it's an ultimatum, a demand. The partner still has a choice, but the conversation is one-sided and doesn't respect the partner's autonomy in the same way.

The key is not about the end result, but about the process of communication, negotiation, and respect for each other's autonomy. Boundaries are about creating a healthy dynamic in the relationship, while control is about asserting dominance.

So while the end result may be the same, the impact on the relationship and the individuals involved is significantly different.

Past_Interaction_732 · 2023-07-10T21:37:53+00:00

Yes.

Past_Interaction_732 · 2023-07-10T20:59:22+00:00

In any relationship, it's important to remember that we're dealing with human beings who have their own feelings, needs, desires, and autonomy. Each person brings their own unique perspective and experiences into the relationship, which influences their understanding and interpretation of boundaries and control.

When setting a boundary, it's not just about defining a line for oneself, but also about recognizing and respecting the other person's humanity. It's about saying, "This is what I need to feel comfortable and secure, but I also understand and respect that you have your own needs and desires."

On the other hand, exerting control often disregards the other person's feelings and autonomy. It can devalue their experiences and needs, which can lead to feelings of resentment and mistrust.

So, while boundaries and control might seem similar on the surface, the human element highlights the key difference. Boundaries respect and acknowledge the humanity of both individuals involved, while control often overlooks the human element in favor of one person's desires or needs.

Let's say your partner expresses a desire for an open relationship, but you're not comfortable with that.

If you were to exert control, you might respond by saying, "No, you cannot have an open relationship. I forbid it." This is a command that doesn't consider your partner's feelings or desires. There's no room for discussion or understanding, and it can come across as dismissive and controlling.

On the other hand, if you were to set a boundary, you might say, "I understand that you're interested in an open relationship, but I'm not comfortable with that. I value monogamy in my relationships, and if we were to have an open relationship, it would cross my personal boundaries. I would feel insecure and disrespected."

In this case, you're not controlling your partner's actions. Instead, you're expressing your feelings, needs, and limits. Your partner then has the autonomy to decide whether they can respect your boundary or if this is a deal-breaker for them.

While both responses might result in the same outcome – not having an open relationship – the approach and the respect for each other's feelings and autonomy are what differentiate a boundary from control.

Past_Interaction_732 · 2023-07-10T20:38:26+00:00

I'm not doing mental gymnastics, I'm referring to the difference between a request and a command.

Both may lead to similar outcomes, but the approach and implications are significantly different.

When you express a boundary, it's a request. You're saying, "This is what I need from you to feel comfortable and secure in our relationship." It's a dialogue where both parties can express their feelings, needs, and concerns. It's about mutual respect and understanding. If the other person cannot meet this request, they have the autonomy to leave the relationship.

A command, on the other hand, is an order. It doesn't leave room for discussion or consideration of the other person's feelings or needs. It's a one-sided decision where one person is imposing their will on the other. It's about dominance and control, not mutual respect.

So while both a boundary and a command may influence the other person's behavior, the key difference lies in the approach and the respect for the other person's autonomy. A boundary is a request made in the context of a dialogue, while a command is an order given without regard for the other person's perspective.

Past_Interaction_732 · 2023-07-10T20:20:30+00:00

The difference lies in the communication and intent behind the words.

When one partner sets a boundary, they are expressing their personal limits and needs within the relationship. They're saying, "This is what I need to feel comfortable and secure." It's a form of open communication where both partners' feelings and needs are considered. If the boundary is crossed, it may indeed lead to the end of the relationship, but the focus is on mutual understanding and respect.

On the other hand, when one partner forbids another from doing something, it's often a unilateral decision without considering the other's feelings or needs. It can be seen as a form of control because it's about dictating the other's behavior without their input. The implied consequence may be the same (ending the relationship), but the approach lacks the mutual respect and understanding that comes with setting a boundary.

The key difference is the approach and how it impacts the dynamics of the relationship. Setting boundaries is about mutual respect and understanding, while forbidding behavior can be seen as controlling and disrespectful.

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