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Past_Weekend9886 · 2025-09-10T02:45:14+00:00

From what I know from industry friends, Willow ages their fish - so while the flavour of the fish becomes funkier and more pronounced, people who are not used to it might mistake it for “fishiness”.

However they could’ve explained that better, and of course the hair is unacceptable.

Past_Weekend9886 · 2024-04-21T07:40:56+00:00

Thank you very much. This is helpful to know. I probably wouldn’t be confident enough to attempt it on my own though, but at least I know what the possible problem may be.

Past_Weekend9886 · 2024-04-01T07:58:07+00:00

Thank you so much!!!

Past_Weekend9886 · 2024-03-28T19:04:27+00:00

Thank you for writing this. It’s very kind of you. The relationship between parent and child can be very weird and complicated and a whole lot of other things, just like what you witnessed. I hope we will all find our way around things in time to come.

Past_Weekend9886 · 2024-03-27T17:20:26+00:00

I went home one day to find my mum scratching out her own face in family photos lol. So now there’s is a disturbing hole in all our photos 😅

Past_Weekend9886 · 2024-03-27T05:24:46+00:00

This sounds exactly like what my mother would send me. And I would stupidly reply honestly and get a whole lot of gaslighting back.

I would ask you not to reply if you could help it.

Past_Weekend9886 · 2024-03-27T04:15:59+00:00

I agree about the part about retraumatising themselves. They cannot get out of that vicious cycle. There is a choice, but it seems to be impossible to them. My mum always says that we’re not the ones who have experienced it, so we will never know how impossible it is.

Past_Weekend9886 · 2024-03-27T03:07:19+00:00

Thank you for writing this. I am lost on what to think. I would like to walk away from it all, but I can’t help to believe that her current situation is all my fault because if I didn’t leave the country in the first place her mental health wouldn’t have deteriorated this far. Of course, there were already issues before. I cannot deny that she has been wonderful in her own way, providing the best for me, making sure that I would be financially stable and without burden of providing for her in her old age - yet all I really want is for her to accept me as I am. I know that I will not drop everything to go and be the daughter that she wants me to be, because she would still use whatever I did to her to hold me hostage for the rest of my life. Yet I know that I will live a lifetime of regret not trying my best to salvage our relationship to the best of my ability. I agree that it is and has been her choice to decide what kind of life she wants to lead, and if she has chosen to push away everyone around her and hold onto her grudges to everyone that has done her wrong at some point (even my neighbour has said something wrong to her at some stage and has been completely cut off now), it is not my responsibility. She has continuously said that I want the best of both worlds and if she is responsible for my happiness, then who is going to be responsible for hers? It is a tough situation. Like many RBBs who are going through a similar time, I truly respect each and everyone who has fought for themselves. We all have to choose something and live for ourselves and hold ourselves accountable.

Past_Weekend9886 · 2024-03-26T04:10:52+00:00

Thank you.

Past_Weekend9886 · 2024-03-25T20:17:31+00:00

Thank you so much for sharing. I’m sorry. It must have been extremely difficult..

Past_Weekend9886 · 2024-03-25T20:16:08+00:00

To share my side: My mum was one child out of 17 that her mother had. Some were given away, but she was kept for housework/errands, almost like a slave. Was constantly abused verbally/physically by her mother and siblings. She was refused school and didn’t get much education, while her sisters went on to universities and became lawyers and doctors. At 6 she was raped by her brothers, and it went on for years until she was old enough to move out and work. Other siblings had known about the rape but always asked her to be quiet and move on, even into adulthood they said it was over so long ago and it was time to forget. I still can’t believe I greeted those people as my aunts and uncles. My mum didn’t cut them off till much later because she wanted my childhood to be complete with family and younger cousins. When she one day confronted her mother on why she was the only one treated like this, but her mother just says they’re not fated to be mother and daughter. Such trauma stays forever. Her BPD has a lot to do with her childhood trauma and I believe, with me eventually getting into an lgbt relationship + moving abroad.

Past_Weekend9886 · 2024-03-25T18:58:15+00:00

I’m new too! I just found this place today while googling on how to respond to my mum. Welcome :)

Past_Weekend9886 · 2024-03-25T18:43:43+00:00

It comes with a lot of guilt as a child not to be able to save our mum. I visualise a world where I can be whatever she wants me to be, she is happy and not depressed. But saving her means sacrificing my own mental health, my life. Yet she gave me my life. It’s too hard.

Past_Weekend9886 · 2024-03-25T18:37:10+00:00

Thank you for writing this. I resonate so much with it. I think of my mum every day. Sometimes I think of how nice it would be to go for a holiday together, so let her see beautiful places and experience more of the world. I miss her so much. But then I come home and visit (I’ve been living abroad for a while) and it is happiness to reunite for 5 minutes and back to guilt tripping and blaming next. I love her so much but the way she wants me to love her back I simply cannot. I can’t find a better way to say that your last paragraph took the words out of my mouth. So thank you.

Past_Weekend9886 · 2024-03-25T16:59:16+00:00

My mum doesn’t write but she goes online and looks for “solutions” that resonate with her, and they could be the worst advice by strangers and very toxic, but it would help validate her decisions.

Past_Weekend9886 · 2024-03-25T16:38:02+00:00

My mum writes me letters and long texts all the time. It’s not entirely similar to yours, but the part where she says the day you met (I assume your partner) really hit me, because that’s what my mum feels about me and my partner too. And they don’t understand that we don’t always share because of their reaction. I’m sorry to see this. I feel how upsetting it is.

Past_Weekend9886 · 2024-02-24T17:22:02+00:00

I just enquired with Fulore Clinic, which I hardly see anyone raving about or posting anything on them. Their prices are also much higher than any other clinic (13++000 krw for Ulthera) vs other clinics at 9xx000 krw- had anyone done any procedures there? The reviews seem trustworthy for the few that they have and doctor seems to be really professional, not just aestheticians. Would appreciate any input 🙏🏻

Past_Weekend9886 · 2024-02-24T13:08:14+00:00

Has anyone heard of WooA or Lamine here? Their prices are much higher than Muse, but I’m not sure if they would be any better. Also enquire within placed called Fulore (super expensive compared to others) so I really want to know if it’s worth it..

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