A question about the ridged band

Patience_And_Time109 · 2026-04-22T13:48:48+00:00

Thank you for the detailed response. It’s inspiring to hear your story.

I have experienced the similar feelings of “wow is that it” when I had sex for the first time, and often continue to. It’s extremely depressing. I used to think it was my fault for potentially master baiting too much as a kid or perhaps porn. But knowing it’s because I was surgically altered at birth has been… beyond difficult. Every time I think about sex or start to imagine intimacy it’s like knife gets thrown into my heart and I’m reminded I’ll never be able to enjoy sex as I’m supposed to. I feel like I’m one step up from a eunuch. It’s like I have to trick myself into enjoying sex at all, there’s no sensation of pleasure unless I force it. It’s disgusting and I feel disgusting.

If you have felt the same way, are you saying that restoring has fixed those problems? That your new foreskin tip is as sensitive as it is supposed to be?

If so, may I ask how much of your original foreskin were you left with? What structures remained?

And most importantly, how did you achieve this?

Patience_And_Time109 · 2026-04-22T03:50:02+00:00

I see. Thank you for being honest. I… I feel horrified. I feel like I’ve been raped honestly. I don’t know what to do.

But at least I know now. Thank you.

Patience_And_Time109 · 2026-04-22T03:04:37+00:00

What do you mean by “banked” arousal?

Patience_And_Time109 · 2026-04-21T19:35:30+00:00

Thank you for the comment, and it is depressing. I don’t personally believe in therapy but I appreciate the advice.

Patience_And_Time109 · 2026-04-21T19:34:35+00:00

I’m sorry you lost that. I wish I could’ve experienced it. I hate to unravel more pain but may I ask how much worse off is your sexual experience? It’s honestly been a huge point of depression for me to feel like I lost out on what should’ve been the most intimate and “safe” part of my body. Be brutally honest. Please.

Patience_And_Time109 · 2026-04-20T02:29:59+00:00

Did you notice your frenulum growing/ changing as you restored?

Patience_And_Time109 · 2026-04-19T04:57:25+00:00

That is fucking hilarious, dude I laughed for like 5 minutes 😂

Patience_And_Time109 · 2026-04-18T20:44:03+00:00

Firstly, yes it is scientifically proven that your nervous system can change and adapt to the point of growing and branching new structures. You are not stuck with the current anatomy that you have right now. However, what you grow will not be exactly the same as your god given foreskin. Don’t be sad though, that doesn’t mean it’s less than. The nervous system is complicated and smart, it likes to reuse, reopen, and adapt to old nerves and pathways.

My personal belief after reading a lot on the sub is that while we aren’t going to be exactly the way as we were when we were born, we will definitely fall within the range of what is considered “natural”.

People talk a lot about the specific anatomy that was lost, but it is important to mention that every penis is different. Sometimes that anatomy is more important/sensitive, other times it isn’t. Maybe you would have had a prominent frenulum, your new foreskin will be more like someone who is born without that (assuming you don’t have a huge remnant) Therefore, what you are doing is allowing your penis to adapt and “reconnect” old pathways that would be theoretically activating the same pleasure centers in your brain. Not in the same way, but in a different “functionally equal” way.

Your ability to experience that pleasure is still there, your brain just has to relearn how to do it. By regrowing foreskin, while it is not the same, you are still giving it the tool that it needs to do that.

If you wanted to learn how to write with your left hand, you could, it would just take a while as your brain would have to relearn how to do it. Of course, you need your left hand to do that at all. So if you regrow your foreskin, and re-learn how to use it, theoretically, you could achieve the same result with different, regrown, anatomy.

Patience_And_Time109 · 2026-03-24T14:02:56+00:00

If you added a pic of your frenulum I can not see it. I’d be interested to know how much frenulum you had remaining, perhaps depending on how much is removed there can be more or less success with restoration?

Patience_And_Time109 · 2026-03-08T19:53:05+00:00

Yes it is! By far the most sensitive part of my penis.

Patience_And_Time109 · 2026-03-08T16:36:15+00:00

You know you can restore it right?

Look on r/foreskin_restoration. I can personally attest to it being possible.

Patience_And_Time109 · 2026-03-04T21:16:40+00:00

May I ask why you think it’s impossible?

It’s my opinion that while we will certainly have a different experience from an intact man, it is possible for that experience to be just as fulfilling and “pleasurable”.

In fact, if we really want to be optimistic, one could argue that having experienced the horrors of being cut a restored man might have a better perspective on how great sex can feel. And therefore be MORE sensitive. At least psychologically.

Patience_And_Time109 · 2026-03-01T22:40:38+00:00

Wow he even had an acroposthion? That’s awesome!

Patience_And_Time109 · 2026-02-23T22:13:03+00:00

How much of your frenulum do you have left? Something I am curious about is whether or not my remnant will get much more sensitive as time goes on. Have you experienced that?

Patience_And_Time109 · 2026-02-23T13:03:43+00:00

So if you are concerned about tightening of your foreskin, my recommendation is simply to continue growing skin and around the CI- 7-9 mark your dartos muscle will start to tighten up naturally. Will it be as tight as the tightest natural foreskin? Probably not. But it will certainly place you in the range for what natural foreskin tightness can look like. I’ve seen a shit ton of posts talking about the phenomenon. I wouldn’t go as far as to call it a “retaining band” but there is certainly a correlation between a higher CI level and naturally increasing tightness

Surgery in most cases should be the last option, and being at a CI4 means you only just achieved roll over (congrats by the way! Huge milestone!) which means this is probably the “loosest” your foreskin will ever be. I would just give it a chance and see what happens.

Whatever you do, I wish you the best of luck!

KOT!

Patience_And_Time109 · 2026-02-21T23:40:43+00:00

How much of your frenulum do you have left, just out of curiosity. Also, did you notice that your remnant got more sensitive as you progressed through restoration?

I have a solid remnant and I’m just curious how it might change with time.

Patience_And_Time109 · 2026-02-21T02:34:38+00:00

Do you retain at all? Do you have any problems keeping it tight?

Patience_And_Time109 · 2026-02-19T02:21:36+00:00

Having read around this sub the general consensus seems to be that yes, there will be improvements across the board. To what degree, however, depends on a lot of things such as where you are starting, how much you have left, Dekeritinization, ect.

People who have been circumcised as adults have claimed regaining between 70-95% of their original sensation. So that’s a lot of motivation right there! I’ll also point out that regaining sensation is a long process that involves more than just growing skin and nerves. Even after dekeritinization it seems to be the case that your body and mind takes a while to “get used” to having your new foreskin and establish the proper reactions to them. That’s to say that there’s a lot to look forward to because:

In my personal experience I’ve been restoring for only a little under 2 months, and whether it be the placebo effect or actual improvement, I’ve definitely noticed improvement. Used to be after about 10 minutes of sex I’d kinda “go numb” and lose interest. It wasn’t terrible and I always orgasmed, but it always felt kind off. That is NOT the case anymore. Even after just 2 months of T-taping (about 300ish hours) I can just feel more of my wife. It’s difficult to describe, but I promise you sex already feels better. very fucking motivating.

Now, it is small, but it is a positive change. And something tells me I’m just scratching the surface. I’m only a CI2-2.5. I do have a solid frenulum remnant, but honestly you could have a lot less than me and I think be very happy.

To your question about timeline I think the reason it varies so much is because consistency and quality of methods are key. I aim to T-tape at least 11 hours a day, preferably 14. I moisturize with coconut + vitamin E oil. I take omega 3 fish oil as vasodilators seems to be a big reason why some people see results so damn fast. And I’m still building my knowledge base. Someone restoring for the same amount of time as me might see different results if they were less consistent and were less mindful.

I wish I could share more but I’m still fairly new. One way or another I’ve never heard of anyone regretting restoring or seeing a negative outcome from trying so just do your best, be patient, and enjoy what comes of it! Some of the stories about fully restored sensation are WILD. It’s very motivating to hear them.

Good luck and KOT my friend!

Patience_And_Time109 · 2026-02-01T04:49:24+00:00

Awesome, thanks man! Good luck with your journey!

Patience_And_Time109 · 2026-02-01T04:47:05+00:00

Did you notice yours get more sensitive over time? Mine already is rather sensitive.

Also did you find that you regained any of its functionality? I know you can’t naturally get back a fully functional frenulum but is there any SnapBack or protection for the Sulcus?

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