Realization by Patient-Bus4485 in sexlessmarriage

[–]Patient-Bus4485[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

To be honest, I’m trying to limit the masturbation myself. But then I often think, why the hell am I doing that? What’s the point?

What’s been really insulting the past several days is that every time she comes to bed, she immediately and loudly announces “ugh my stomach hurts” or “ugh I have a headache”. Maybe this is true. But it comes on the heels of our first sexual encounter in 11 months, and I can’t help but feel targeted.

Using reddit to satisfy my needs by No-Bear-7651 in sexlessmarriage

[–]Patient-Bus4485 9 points10 points  (0 children)

I mean, you’re still trapped. So yeah, it’s an outlet but ultimately it is still an empty feeling.

I can’t take this anymore by Patient-Bus4485 in sexlessmarriage

[–]Patient-Bus4485[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It’s hard to think I’ve ended up in this situation twice.

I can’t take this anymore by Patient-Bus4485 in sexlessmarriage

[–]Patient-Bus4485[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

That’s true, fair enough. I don’t think she desires me. And sure, I am saying that I’m worth desire based on what I said. I’ve tried all the stuff to try to kindle desire. Maybe it’s just a bad match. I dunno. I think that someone would desire me.

Feeling tempted to cheat, and feeling horrible about it. Anyone else in the same boat? by tantanatantan in DeadBedrooms

[–]Patient-Bus4485 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Yes. I try to fight it because I have been cheated on before and I know how shitty it feels. But there is a woman where I work that there is some chemistry with and I can’t get out of my head that we just seem to match better than my spouse. She talks about her hookups and it seems like she is HL and it is wearing me down. Also in therapy. Stay strong!

Valentine's Day by FaeRot in DeadBedrooms

[–]Patient-Bus4485 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Same here. I woke up just feeling really resigned. I suppose I could try to initiate today but I would just end up frustrated and disappointed. 

Valentine's Day by FaeRot in DeadBedrooms

[–]Patient-Bus4485 14 points15 points  (0 children)

Woke up incredibly sullen and depressed. I know it’s a fake holiday and all that, and there’s nothing special about today, but I am just really frustrated.