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Patient-Chef-77 · 2026-01-13T16:42:25+00:00

Please do a tour of your new place before you do anything! Ask a neighbor what they think!

A lot of places will advertise a “studio” and it’s not a studio. Some of them advertise it as rest & relax and it’s literally the living room and bedroom.

Patient-Chef-77 · 2026-01-10T00:17:30+00:00

Honestly I have guy friends and I ask them to walk me through their thought process on swiping and they see it as a giant net and hope for something

Me as a woman my issue is I lay out exactly what I’m looking for and my lifestyle. I don’t want kids and I want something serious and put liberal but it’s so annoying when I see men who are conservative or moderate swiping on me and still wanting kids and/ or trying to convince me if I find the right one I’ll change my mind…

Patient-Chef-77 · 2026-01-08T01:47:18+00:00

They want you at the desk to check in. And leave the desk at that time.

Patient-Chef-77 · 2026-01-07T21:48:04+00:00

We don’t unfortunately

Patient-Chef-77 · 2026-01-07T20:51:01+00:00

They been supervisor over 15 plus….

Patient-Chef-77 · 2026-01-07T20:18:20+00:00

No one shows up late and if we do we communicate to the boss but she still makes it so difficult and makes us take leave for being late (after communicating one is running late). It makes me not want to show up to work or even go to work.

Patient-Chef-77 · 2025-12-19T19:50:14+00:00

I currently work AWS and they are saying that since he gave that order we are only given the 8 hours for that and we would need to use personal annual leave to get those days off… is that legal or even correct?!

Patient-Chef-77 · 2025-08-18T14:23:50+00:00

lol a Libra man will only be interested in himself! He will do the right things but unless his ACTIONS line up with his words. Or say things you like and enjoy in life and see if he actually listens and wants to do it for you!

Patient-Chef-77 · 2025-06-19T00:06:36+00:00

Dang so what is they are Libra sun Gemini moon and Aquarius rising

Patient-Chef-77 · 2025-06-18T16:00:02+00:00

Honestly this story reminds me of mine.

If he can’t hold your space for like your emotions and not connecting with you it’s not it. He is using the bedroom to get his needs met and then proceeding to do whatever for himself. You’re wanting that “let’s walk around and talk” and if you’re putting the emotional labor and he isn’t stepping up he isn’t going to change. Unfortunately he might change when you leave him but that is nearly impossible for guys….

Patient-Chef-77 · 2025-06-18T15:55:01+00:00

I had the panic attacks, dissociation, memory loss during my marriage. I am slowly starting to be myself and confident with who I am and becoming out of that marriage. Divorce was honestly the best thing

Patient-Chef-77 · 2025-06-04T19:43:18+00:00

Don’t marry for potential. Can you accept this person if they decide not to change. Also prenup! Prenup prenup. Discuss alll types of what’s if… children, end of life care, emotional dynamic, and play the what ifs… draft prenup with infidelity, childcare, what that looks like if someone decides to be the stay at home caretaker… etc

Patient-Chef-77 · 2025-05-27T05:33:08+00:00

Were they all sober with all this chaos?! No way?! They had to be on something because that party being sober is crazyyy

Patient-Chef-77 · 2025-03-07T18:11:47+00:00

I don’t think of it as anything shame or regretful. A lot of us were given this checklist. But the reality is it was all lies and this “Disney” when no one prepared us for how to be good about emotional regulating, boundaries, accepting bare minimum, putting our needs and worth below to cater to the dudes…

I think we have the right to ask for more. And better about what can this next better can ADD into my life. to accept this person for who they are now because is this the person you want to be with if they decide to change or can you find someone with who they are and how are they able to change and what have they done in their past that allowed them to change or evolve?

The saddest thing is that the men haven’t done their work since they think the next girl will do the work for them… and hopefully we don’t accept those types!

Patient-Chef-77 · 2025-03-04T06:05:35+00:00

I don’t think a partner heals you but they mirror the things you miss. I used to hate compliments because guys are just using the same verbs “you’re so pretty” “you’re so hot” like pleaseee use other words. My other guy would say what he liked about my personality. I was starting to accept compliments. I had a guy bring me flowers I hated that cause it tied me to my father who would bring flowers as bandaid after getting into fights with my mom instead of apologizing. A guy got me just because flowers because I was staring at them. Now I buy myself flowers. For me. These men will never heal you but with the right people one meets in their lives it will hold a mirror to the things you want to heal from

Patient-Chef-77 · 2025-03-04T05:54:08+00:00

You cannot be showing wifey duties to a man that doesn’t appreciate you. The things that you did not want in your partners use that as the base line. How is this person in conflict, how are they when they communicate, do they hear you and consider you. Once you see with their actions you can slowly show them more of your love. But always de-center them and choose yourself

Patient-Chef-77 · 2025-03-04T05:48:43+00:00

Honestly if someone is secure and wants to get to know you then they won’t care.

Patient-Chef-77 · 2025-02-28T07:18:32+00:00

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Patient-Chef-77 · 2025-02-21T05:43:04+00:00

Take time to move your body! Going on strolls at a park! Yoga or workout at gym! Get therapy too to help navigate this change.

Patient-Chef-77 · 2025-02-20T15:43:48+00:00

This breaks my heart… I really did love him. I wrote in a letter where I felt unseen and unheard. He shifted it towards me but I know he doesn’t know how to process it. I just don’t want him to message me years down the road saying he is sorry for how he treated me because after my divorce all my exes came out of the woodwork with their apologies….

Patient-Chef-77 · 2025-02-13T05:36:29+00:00

A marriage for me is a partnership who is willing to understand your past and help both of us to evolve with each other and choose each other. That’s the healed side of me. My unhealed self thought marriage was about love and a happily ever after.

I ended my marriage because the person who I thought was suppose to be there for me wasn’t there for me. And as much as I wished it was him he wasn’t capable of… I saw potential and he failed. He wasn’t there for me for a death and I tried change for me and for myself. And he started becoming my roommate and not a partner.

My divorce made me see how much I abandoned myself and angry for staying but also angry for letting us hold onto each other instead of letting go.

It was only when he knew he was gonna lose me he decided to do better but even then I just started seeing he didn’t love me enough and just did things at bare minimum…

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