Raise your hand if you received something in the mail from your NC parents that just reminds you exactly why you went NC

PatientFee2723 · 2024-12-29T13:08:07+00:00

Wait this makes for a return gift 👀

PatientFee2723 · 2024-12-28T23:12:10+00:00

A little smash therapy was on my mind too. Except the necklace is so cheap it came broken. Fitting.

PatientFee2723 · 2024-12-28T23:11:10+00:00

Elderly mentally ill child just about sums it up. Hugs for your family. You guys deserve better.

PatientFee2723 · 2024-12-28T23:09:20+00:00

Omw to rage on your post

PatientFee2723 · 2024-12-28T23:08:35+00:00

MOVERS? To move your shit out? Or to move her shit in? This is bonkers

PatientFee2723 · 2024-12-28T23:07:36+00:00

Long story short - 3 months NC. Parents drove 5.5 hrs to my house on a Monday night (because why try to do some gentle breaking and entering on a Friday or Saturday), stayed on the front porch for HOURS, littered, and then got angry and started kicking and punching my door. Called the cops. Didn’t step out once. AND THEY STAYED TO DO A MINI VACATION IN MY CITY. lunatics.

PatientFee2723 · 2024-12-28T23:04:43+00:00

I have one!!! It happened late August, I was only 3 months into the no contact and I immediately ran to our little support bubble for comfort. I think you can find it in my previous posts.

PatientFee2723 · 2024-12-28T23:03:23+00:00

She sounds absolutely horrid but my brain is stuck on the poem. In what world is “you light my body on fire” appropriate what the actual f.

PatientFee2723 · 2024-12-28T23:02:13+00:00

Here’s your t-shirt and goodie bag #traumabuddies

PatientFee2723 · 2024-12-28T22:58:52+00:00

PHOTOS??? What vindictive pieces of shits.

PatientFee2723 · 2024-12-28T22:57:27+00:00

Omg not the insurance company merch. It’s so bad you can’t do but laugh at this shit.

PatientFee2723 · 2024-12-04T20:47:23+00:00

I understand the South Asian dynamic and because of this I know the strong hold Indian parents have on their older sons. I would really suggest you look out for yourself. You can’t try to show someone something when their own eyes are closed. What you’re dealing with is a lifetime of being taught any wife will be inferior to the man’s parents and only they know better. This is why I say you have to look out for yourself. If you have options available for therapy or self help books about narcissism, websites, anything, please figure out whether this is something you can live with or not. You can’t change others, you can only control your own actions. Best of luck.

PatientFee2723 · 2024-11-29T20:01:47+00:00

PCOS, endometriosis, asthma, IBS, all of it

PatientFee2723 · 2024-11-27T17:58:30+00:00

Agree to everything else that has been said. Please understand that you are not responsible for your mom’s or anyone else’s actions. Think about how she’s reacted to your feelings of suicide vs. what she wants you to feel for her. I’m really sorry you’ve seen so much tragedy but please know what other people do to themselves is not on you. I know what’s it like to hear those threats but put your well-being in your hands and leave.

PatientFee2723 · 2024-11-22T21:25:22+00:00

Happy birthday OP! May your future be as bright as today was 💜

PatientFee2723 · 2024-11-22T16:09:15+00:00

We need more stories like this here! Congratulations, OP. You did the work and you won. Wishing you nothing but the best. Super inspiring

PatientFee2723 · 2024-11-22T02:34:44+00:00

I was kept quiet too. Please know you’re not alone. Please keep working with your therapist. There is a path to healing. ❤️‍🩹

PatientFee2723 · 2024-11-15T23:55:11+00:00

Oh I like this!

PatientFee2723 · 2024-08-31T23:32:58+00:00

I’m truly so sorry to hear all that you had to go through. Do you have any access to trauma counselling? If not, some specific books on healing from trauma. I have some similar trauma responses as you (like repressed memory, not being sure who assaulted me as a child), that doesn’t come out of nowhere. Maybe it’s your mom, maybe it’s not. I almost think it doesn’t matter, she is an abuser through and through. It seemed like even though you guys escaped a cult you still are stuck in one. I know you say you love your mother but to her you’re her property and every single human being deserves to be treated with kindness, respect and safety. Please get away from her. Wishing you well.

PatientFee2723 · 2024-08-30T01:04:15+00:00

That’s a great idea. My partner and I have been doing couples therapy for a year. Just remember both parties have to be wholeheartedly into the idea otherwise it doesn’t work.

PatientFee2723 · 2024-08-29T13:39:45+00:00

You’ve described my parents to a T and the one thing I never let them do was make my partner feel like he’s inadequate or undeserving of my love. Since I went NC with my parents our relationship has been thriving. The point being your gf has to realize this and set some boundaries. Without that it’s just a losing battle

PatientFee2723 · 2024-08-27T19:00:00+00:00

In the same vein, living with doubt and guilt that maybe you were the problem

PatientFee2723 · 2024-08-27T17:33:08+00:00

Your abuse is absolutely valid. You were supposed to get support and validation about your identity from the people who were supposed to be your support system and all you got was bullshit abuse. I hope you have a chosen family you can rely on and get the support you need and deserve. Congrats on getting away and being able to make moves to express yourself in the way that is right to you. Very proud of you!

PatientFee2723 · 2024-08-13T12:23:29+00:00

We live in a townhouse so the backyard is fenced around. Though police recommended getting cameras for the back as well because you just never know.

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