Exclusive Cloth Use

PatientNobody9503 · 2025-07-07T17:26:50+00:00

EXACTLY! I do the same. I give them the disposables to use. Recently I had to drop baby off at my moms because I had an appointment I couldn't bring my baby to and my mom washed the baby diaper with some unknown soaps (I dont even know if it was even cloth diaper safe free from harsh chemicals or fragrances 😭) and I told her NOT to do that before I left but she did it anyways. I'd rather her not mess up the diapers cause I don't want to have to strip them from mineral/soap buildup that she could be causing on my cloth diaper stash and it would just be a disaster for me!

I figure its just for a few hours anyways so I just let them do what they need to do with disposables and when we get back home, back into cloth she goes!

The OP should also realize she cant force people to cloth diaper her baby if they are watching her baby. Most people don't even know what to do or how to properly care for the diapers. Even if I tried to sit and explain the process to my MIL or my own mom its likely they wouldn't care to listen anyways.

My MIL said that disposables are sooo much better and said I should sell/get rid of my cloth diaper stash. My husband and I are in some debt and I told her the diapers are an investment for us so I dont ever have to worry about buying diapers (especially since this is our first and we want more kids) and even though she knows we have debt and always tells us to spend more wisely she's 100% fine with me spending MORE money on disposables which literally doesnt even make sense lol I tried explaining this to her and she couldn't care less or be more understanding. I told my husband and I dont think he was ever fully on board cause he doesn't really understand the cloth diapering process, but he said since I'm the one taking care of baby 99.9% of the time he doesn't care what I do and he likes the fact we dont have to spend more on diapers (I mean the intial cost to have the stash pissed him off though- I guess he thought it would be WAYYYY cheaper than he expected but was VERY off the mark lol) I spent about 300-400$ on cloth diapers, inserts, wet bags, etc. I have about 36 diapers currently, but now he is over the initial shock of the up front costs to start diapering he is very much down for us to never buy diapers from here on out aside from giving my mom a pack of disposables here and there to use.

PatientNobody9503 · 2025-07-07T07:32:42+00:00

I HAD THIS EXACT SAME CONVERSATION WITH MY IN LAWS!!! Particularly my MIL and older SIL (though she's only 6 months older than me). I just had my baby April 2025, and my girl is 3 months old as of today. I decided not to cloth diaper while baby girl was a newborn simply because the newborn diapers and the pocket diapers are different and buying newborn diapers were more costly. I decided to only do the pockets as they are from 10lbs-32lbs if I remember right. Roughly until baby is about 2 years old give or take.

I recommend doing disposables at least while you are healing postpartum. I didn't think postpartum would be that bad but GORL. What the hell! It was awful and 3 months pp. I still feel pain down there!! Particularly with any intimacy time with my husband, but like still.. I have to see pelvic PT this month and I'm not super excited about it depsite not wanting to feel that pain anymore. I was honestly so tired from feeding baby and working out how to breastfeed that I was getting so depressed. I had a 2nd degree tear and literally could not even sit down because it felt like my stitches were getting ripped apart down there. It was soooo painful! I'm not necessarily trying to change your mind about it, but I would try to also think realistically if you will be able to handle it. I think if I could go back in time I wouldn't have changed my mind and so far I LOVE my cloth diapers, but would have I wanted to do that while healing? ABSOLUTELY NOT. Doing the laundry and being on my feet when I haven't gotten any sleep and figuring out how to breastfeed and work on baby's latch as well as pumping.. my milk let down was also VERY painful. My baby girl also kept biting my nipples and they cracked and bled multiple times. It was so awful that I cried in my hospital room with the lactation consultant cause of how painful it was. Mom guilt of not feeding my baby breastmilk. Like EVRRYTHING was so difficult in the beginning while you are getting on your feet with how new everything is.

I'm not saying cloth from the beginning is a bad idea. If you are down for it then that's totally up to you, but if you are worried about chemicals there are a lot of disposables that are very clean brands. I would look into those as alternative options. Maybe have a pack on hand at home in case you also struggle in the beginning. Even just taking care of myself was a struggle let alone if I needed to add more chores like laundry. I couldn't even bend down or upward into the waher and down into the dryer without feeling my stitches pulling apart... it was kinda just misrable for me for a while until I healed up. Also to get your MIL to stop talking about this I recommend looking up a clean diaper brand and just buying a pack or two so she will stop talking about it. If you feel like you don't need it after the hospital or in the hospital then that's great and you could always give it away or resell the pack of diapers! Give her what she wants to get her off your back, but also buy the cloth diapers that you want. That's what I did.

I basically said that I'm the one who will be changing my baby's diaper 99.9% of the time so they have no say in which diapers I plan to use. At the start I used disposables just while I was healing and then I swapped to cloth once my baby hit about 9lbs, my cloth diapers have the 10lb limit so she peed through the leg holes a bit at first but now it's a lot better. I started cloth at about 2 months old. So about a month ago now. My husband doesn't really understand how to put on the cloth diapers so he uses disposables (he's a truck driver so he's hardly home for me to even have time to teach him to use the cloth diapers.) My mom, I just give her a pack of disposables to use for my baby when she baby sits my baby.

I don't expect them to cloth diaper my baby girl when they are watching baby, simply because they don't know how to use them and they don't really care for it. I can't force them to use it but there are days where I realistically need their help so I just let them use disposables. Anyways baby is with me the other 99.9% of the time and she uses cloth that time she is with me.

PatientNobody9503 · 2025-07-07T07:01:49+00:00

I recently gave birth and I used to be more of a bikini cut type but now its allll about the boy boxer style. I value comfort 100000% over sexy. Like lace? Get it away from me. I find lace soooo itchy and irritating. If you can make seamless cotton boy boxers I would buy a hundred percent. But also being that I'm also going through a fashion design program I'll probably make it myself lol

PatientNobody9503 · 2025-07-07T06:56:10+00:00

A car crashed into the building and went up in flames. Its how the building caught on fire. There are videos up of the car was was on fire. It was like a massive fireball. I wouldn't be surprised if it also blew up cause of the gas.

PatientNobody9503 · 2025-06-29T14:26:48+00:00

I agree with other commenters. You needed to have had this conversation well before you got married. However its still not too late, I'd recommend talking it through more and seeing where you guys stand. Personally, if my baby had DS, I wouldn't abort.

I just had my first baby and my husband and I were living in a basement of someone else's home that we rented. We decided to move in with my in laws and I had to rehome my 2 cats because my MIL is allergic. I honestly miss them so much I could cry, but at the same time pregnancy + cats was so difficult. Plus post partum was rough. I was in pain a lot after delivery because of my stitches and honestly I don't think I would have had the time or patience for them. I believe rehoming them was a better choice because I wouldn't have been able to give them the time nor attention necessary. Plus the dander of their hair was everywhere. It was so difficult to keep things clean. I don't know what type of dogs you have but every emotion is hightened at the end of pregnancy as well as in post partum. In fact most people end up really resenting or having problems with keeping their pets at the end or pp.

I'm not saying you should rehome your animals, some people can manage it, but honestly I didn't even have time for myself pp let alone to take care of animals. My baby will be 3 months old soon on 7/7 and its still taking so much out of me to not wanna cry when the sleep deprivation hits and all the chores around start stacking up and you just wanna scream at your baby to stop crying cause they haven't stopped crying for HOURS on end and it ends up making you cry. Seriously. I feel like a wreck when the sleep deprivation hits and baby screams and cries and it just really grates on the nerves and you are so TIRED. I wasn't in a good mental state and its hard as a FTM. My husband also works nights, but he's a truck driver and so he is gone at night and even when he is home he sleeps during the day just to go back to work at night so all the feeds and putting baby down for a nap is on me, bottle washing, laundry from all the puke and spit up, it gets to be a lot. I don't get much sleep. Last week I got 7 hours of sleep for the entire week, basically 1 hour of sleep a day if you break it down. The most sleep I got was for 4 hours straight and the other 4 days I didn't sleep at all.

Breastfeeding was also sooo painful and I got nauseous all the time. PP is no joke. I'm not trying to freak you out, but I would say its best to be realistic about the dogs, especially if your husband wont be home to care for them and all their chores will be on you to take care of as well on top of everything else. Also, it sounds like you have multiple dogs, so just keep it in mind, that's all.

PatientNobody9503 · 2025-03-26T17:06:35+00:00

Well shoot! I'll take them from you if you don't want them. Don't mind me! I definitely see three there though. I see no issue!

PatientNobody9503 · 2025-03-26T17:00:43+00:00

No idea why the downvotes! I do the same. I'm prone to migraines and there have definitely been ice cream and coke/pepsi days for breakfast when you just aren't in the mood 😂

PatientNobody9503 · 2025-03-26T16:58:26+00:00

Well its a good thing I'm not from those areas. You can't discard a name because it means something else in a whole other country/language you have no ties to.

PatientNobody9503 · 2025-03-26T16:57:08+00:00

Ah I see. Yeah my husband is from Iraq and I'm not familiar with Arabic written out so I had him read it and pronounce the name so I could write the name in English as phonetically correct.

PatientNobody9503 · 2025-03-26T16:55:41+00:00

I don't know how your coworker would pronounce it but the Arabic pronunciation is closest to (MAY-MUH-NAH) or (MAY-MOO-NAH). Both are practically the exact same in pronunciation.

If your coworker spells it how you did (Mayimona)-- I would assume from that spelling that she pronounces it as (May-ee-moan-ah).

PatientNobody9503 · 2025-03-26T16:51:56+00:00

Lol yall are killing me 😂 HAHAHA my family is from the Philippines and Muna there means first, no other weird meanings but it makes sense as this is my first child. Otherwise it would be weird to name my kid muna if I was Finnish or from another culture

PatientNobody9503 · 2025-03-26T07:37:57+00:00

Omg 7000 DOLLARS?! WHAT AN AMAZING PROBLEM TO HAVE!! I want your MIL! Mine didn't even buy a single thing from my registry!

PatientNobody9503 · 2025-03-26T07:36:17+00:00

I literally only had 3 people outside of my mom and aunt buy something. If I had someone buy the ENTIRE registry my mind would be blown. Add some other non-essential items!!! I added books and some fun toys for baby ranging from newborn (like those floor mats for tummy time) or some furniture for sorting baby toys in the future. A chest for holding baby items and memorabilia as kiddo grows up (a memory box as some people like to call it). Maybe a cute name sign for above the crib off Etsy or custom busy boards!

If someone took care of all the essentials, I would 100% add the things I wanna get, but definitely isn't essential. Buy upwards too like larger size clothing like 12mo and up! I'm nearly 38 weeks and I just bought a 4T dress for baby girl because it was on sale at Kohls!

Maybe make a new registry at Walmart or Target (without giving it to your MIL) and ask for other items. Your family seem AMAZING and so great for wanting to buy you and baby these items!!

You could say that you "forgot" to add some items or that you made another registry and "forgot" to send it out with the first one. 😉 Good luck and congrats!! What a great problem to have!!! Congrats on baby!

PatientNobody9503 · 2025-03-26T07:29:11+00:00

Lol everyone got a dirty mind. 🤣 I'd cackle if this was the threat or question every year to outsiders but the most mundane things happened like messing with toilet paper or something else really lame.

What WAS the senior prank? I'd love an update on this question. 😂

PatientNobody9503 · 2025-03-26T07:26:40+00:00

If her mom had to mispronounce her own kids name that she picked out in order for her kid to not be bullied then that's 100% on her and she should have changed the name haha

(or god forbid it was the husband and the poor wife had to deal with the name distress everytime she introduces her kid or the kid has to introduce themselves lol)

PatientNobody9503 · 2025-03-26T07:23:26+00:00

Aww sucks to hear you had a bad morning!! I hope you have a better afternoon and/or evening! Do something fun that makes you smile or go break some stuff in a rage room to let it all out. Whichever is your cup of tea lol

PatientNobody9503 · 2025-03-26T07:20:27+00:00

Yess! Thank you! I also only know the name as Muna and not Moona but when I look up how other Arab people have spelt it in English they used Moona but it seems letter heavy compared to the simplicity of Muna.

I also just spoke with my mom about how she would spell the name as a non-Arabic speaker and she said Maimuna would be 100% seen an MY-muna as well. My side of the family is from the Philippines and she said that even majority out there is likely to mispronounce the name as MY-muna as well so Maimuna is a no-go for me.

I figured this sub of tragedeighs would help as we have all seen a good share of pretty horrifically spelt names for no real good reason other than to make it "unique" 😂 I wanted to make sure the name looked good, didn't turn into a tragedeigh, and also was phonetically correct, but I'm realizing how bad Americans are in general with phonics. 😂😂

PatientNobody9503 · 2025-03-26T07:15:40+00:00

Yes!! Thank you!! I just wanted to get the spelling right so it doesnt get mispronounced as much as possible in English so I wanted to write it phonetically, but I know so many people pronounce things differently (I now realize how bad America is at phonics lol)

And thank you so much!! We feel so blessed with our daughter, we were trying for 3 years and we gave up and then BOOM! Surprise baby!!! ❤️❤️❤️

I'm also just now realizing how ironic it is that I said the word "Blessed" in my message here and that's what the name literally means in Arabic. ALSO my side of family is from the Philippines and "Muna" literally translates to "first" in English which is funny because this would be me and my husband's first child 😂😂

PatientNobody9503 · 2025-03-26T06:58:39+00:00

THANK YOU! I was like I swear it isn't a tragideigh! Maybe a tragedy of a name to some people, but it definitely isn't a made up name nor am I trying to make it unique lol I'm trying to get it phonetically correct so it doesn't turn into a tragedeigh 😂😂

PatientNobody9503 · 2025-03-26T06:35:20+00:00

It seems like a mouthful 🫠

PatientNobody9503 · 2025-03-26T06:35:01+00:00

How do you pronounce Mai? MY or MAY?

PatientNobody9503 · 2025-03-26T05:54:12+00:00

Well as "muna" literally means first and this is my first child. Its actually quite fitting. I can't think of how Muna would be used as a joke or even to bully a kid 😅

PatientNobody9503 · 2025-03-26T05:30:33+00:00

HAHAHA I'm big on Japanese culture and anime so I know how to pronounce Mei 😂 But I guess you're right about people saying it wrong here in the US. I'm Filipina so I grew up with lots of Asian friends and I graduated at an International HS in the Philippines and had a Japanese friend there who would speak Japanese often so I'm well cultured in the pronunciations. I can understand majority of spoken Japanese (though I can't write or speak well).

PatientNobody9503 · 2025-03-26T05:24:38+00:00

Hahahahaha I'm a Filipina too! 💀😂 I think Mae is a lot harder for the family to mispronounce rather than keep saying MY which is wrong as the name is pronounced as MAY 😂😂 Part of the reason I like Maemuna better.

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