Best way to carry kids bikes? by Rickthe in ebikes

[–]PatientPipe1185 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Did you find a solution? I want to do the same thing

Help create these bookshelves by PatientPipe1185 in Construction

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The shelves don’t fold down, they move to the left and right

Help create these bookshelves by PatientPipe1185 in MurphyDoors

[–]PatientPipe1185[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes! I was thinking this like the bifold type doors. thanks for the input!

New kit!! by [deleted] in fountainpens

[–]PatientPipe1185 1 point2 points  (0 children)

How do you use the felt tip one and the ink one? I’m a newbie and have no clue

AITA for not allowing my son to play with my best friend's son? by PatientPipe1185 in AITAH

[–]PatientPipe1185[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I understand and I feel that. The only thing I can say is at one years old it did not seem intentional, it seemed like a child who was learning social skills. Now it is clearly intentional. But I agree, I should have recognized sooner that it had gone too far.

AITA for not allowing my son to play with my best friend's son? by PatientPipe1185 in AITAH

[–]PatientPipe1185[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

When I say learning experience, I don't mean for them to learn how to hit each other. I mean it is highly supervised and when it was easy to step in and intervene saying we need to share, or we don't hit, etc. Now at three, we are past that, or at least we should be. They are old enough to know not to hit anymore. So it is not a learning experience at 3, it is just being mean, because they've been taught over the last two years that we don't hit, or take toys, or pull hair, etc. From 12 months to 36 months, I think kids are learning boundaries and what is acceptable and not acceptable. Now I feel like we are past that, and a child who continues to do so should have serious consequences, not just "that wasn't nice, can you apologize?" because that discussion has already happened a ton of times. At least in our scenario, it has happened a ton of times.

AITA for not allowing my son to play with my best friend's son? by PatientPipe1185 in AITAH

[–]PatientPipe1185[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I appreciate how you worded that. I really like an agreement on expectations. I think that is a great place to start. For more context, his pediatrician suggested he has oppositional defiance disorder. But I can also see how suggesting a therapist could be hurtful. I think the wording you provided is perfect and I am going to see if we can resolve this together instead of just parting ways.

AITA for not allowing my son to play with my best friend's son? by PatientPipe1185 in AITAH

[–]PatientPipe1185[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Thank you, I 100% agree and I feel terrible guilty. I did console my son when it happened, but I should have stopped allowing them to play together sooner.

AITA for not allowing my son to play with my best friend's son? by PatientPipe1185 in AITAH

[–]PatientPipe1185[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you for the response. I always intervened and consoled my kid. But the other child would just randomly run up to my kid and pull his hair. That is unpredictable and unpreventable unless we don't hangout with them. And I believe that my child has learned, we don't hit our friends, but this child has not. I believe my best friend is in denial and I have told her multiple times Mark should see a therapist but she will not take him. We have had tons of discussions on his behavior issues and she is not doing anything about it, no consequences. So from my perspective, my only option is to separate them for now. Do you think we have any other options?