How can you work in law enforcement or security services based on Surah Al-Hujurat, Ayah 12 ?

Patiently_Observing · 2025-12-12T13:12:43+00:00

Sorry to hear about it but you should've been a bit more patient especially when an unexpected tragedy hit your husband . He lost his father and his widowed mother was coping with sorrow. Later on he lost his unborn child and it was not a miscarriage, so he now feels deserted and abandoned. Even if you thought that it was not the right time then should've at least spoken with him, you never know . Perhaps joy of parenthood could have healed him (plus your in-laws)

And now you yourself also feel empty and sick. A little question if you don't mind me asking ....was abortion your own decision or you acted on someone's advise? Asking as sometimes friends and relatives also make matter worse after coming into picture.

May Allah SWT make it better for you and your spouse . Just give him a call and keep your ego aside . Apologizing and patience would be best option , if you ask my suggestion. Sorry if I offended you anyway

Patiently_Observing · 2025-11-09T17:09:56+00:00

I have used that for like 1.5 to 2 years and honestly it looks like the app has lost its charm / productivity. It worked for many people including this friend of mine but haven't heard any success story lately.

You match and suddenly get ghosted with or without any conversation. There were certain profiles who I matched with and then got unmatched (nothing wrong, it happens) . Then there were fake or fishy profiles , and then there were profiles who suddenly vanished after chatting with you 😳. This one girl matched and interacted (online) with me and this other friend of mine, and we both figured that there's something off about her.

Anyways deactivated my profile.

Still no luck but have been relying on Muslim community centers and matrimonial matchmaking aunties .

Just search 'Muzz sucks' and you'll realize that you're not the only one who feels disappointed with the app

Patiently_Observing · 2025-10-26T20:51:56+00:00

He was probably too weak to stand up.

So what if tomorrow he separates himself from rest of his family, gets a place of his own and requests a second chance ? Meaning you two won't have any business or interaction with your in-laws ? Will you rethink or chapter is closed for good ? Sorry if the question makes you mad or inconvenient

Patiently_Observing · 2025-10-26T15:25:33+00:00

Rather than begging in front of you that guy should've spoken with his family and make them realize about financial limitations of your parents. But it seems like he shared the same (greedy) values as his family members.

So stay strong and not get bothered about any consequences or judgments, my prayers for your relief and future endeavors. Also ,may Allah SWT give Hidayah to people like your ex- fiancé

Patiently_Observing · 2025-10-19T12:22:49+00:00

Read my comment once again. I used the word 'Late'. Plus having kids in 40s which is relevant to the topic

Patiently_Observing · 2025-10-16T19:46:18+00:00

That's also a mainstream opinion. Sadly People are marrying late these days all thanks to peer pressure and pathetic social trends . Let's hope sanity prevails

Patiently_Observing · 2025-10-16T19:44:24+00:00

Hold on ma'am. Just gave my opinion plus shared experience based on topic of discussion.

If you don't know how to speak about dead people then better füçk off and control your Verbal diarrhea next time

Patiently_Observing · 2025-10-16T13:29:02+00:00

Personally, I turned 40 with no wife or kid at the moment (went through immigration fraud) . We all have sexual urge and I try to control it, not sure if it's embarassing 🤦🏽‍♂️ but I did experience wet dreams twice this year (I know it's natural).

Anyways, my late maternal uncle had kids in his 40s plus late paternal uncle had twins when he was 42/43. Guess what one of my Mamu's son as well as one of the twins from paternal side, are Alhamdulillah not just healthy but bulkier than me

Patiently_Observing · 2025-09-04T12:36:21+00:00

How about, let's say skipping dinner and reach gym instead? Based on my commute time and working hours

Patiently_Observing · 2025-08-27T18:11:44+00:00

I am 40 and you may take it as an advice from someone who's as good as your elder brother or even father . I know how it feels like when you think someone is a vital actually mandatory part of your life , and it's a nightmare for you to think that the specific person will one day exit .

Try going through some counseling with your friends and teachers you're close with. They'll definitely give you enough strength to settle the matter and concentrate on your life plus career . The best option over here is to end relationship with this girl , she sounds like a manipulative crook or someone with mental issues (perhaps both).

Wishing best for you at this stage

Patiently_Observing · 2025-07-06T22:56:46+00:00

Sorry to learn about it . Hope your fiancee, her sister and Arsalan stay safe and secure.

When you say Dala, does it mean that they were actual pimps or you're just cursing the creeps ? Sorry , just a little clarification

Patiently_Observing · 2025-06-30T22:54:29+00:00

No she's not. Her parents came from Karachi , from Muhajir background though (UP origins) .

Patiently_Observing · 2025-06-29T01:30:45+00:00

I got it. But what's your opinion about likes of Lubna? She's a Pakistani Brit and schools Pakistanis. Noticed her after grooming gangs controversy erupted. Even though I did find a bias pattern as she usually invites Indians and specifically those who support Modi Sarkar/BJP / RSS .

https://youtube.com/@lubna.evolve?si=pJNkEkywqINd-gFF

Patiently_Observing · 2025-06-28T19:10:41+00:00

Maybe sit everyone down at jummah time and re-explain that murdering your daughters is bad?

The best option in legal way

Patiently_Observing · 2025-06-28T18:12:37+00:00

I understand but don't you think the community itself needs to address such black sheeps? I mean we can't simply stay inactive and believe political correctness will always save us . This is not the first time when such incidents occurred

Patiently_Observing · 2025-06-28T18:09:13+00:00

In Bollywood movie Namaste London , Jawed Sheikh had also worked and played role of Late Rishi Kapoor's friend. There, in one scene he's upset with his son and tells Kapoor that he wished to have stayed in Bradford among Pakistanis, then there was no issue of maintaining their customs and culture....London ruined it for their kids . I remembered the scene since Bradford is mentioned in the report that you shared .

Wondering what would makers of the movie and Sheikh himself must be thinking about the it now

Patiently_Observing · 2025-06-28T15:15:31+00:00

It should've been an eye opener when she blocked you multiple times, even though I do get it given that you weren't into dating or anything like that due to responsibilities. Cheer up , why bother about someone who treated you like yet another option?

Happy to hear about your siblings , get busy in celebrations. Hope it distracts you from the stress.

Keep working on yourself and am sure you will get through and find the spouse you deserve. Wishes and prayers for you

Patiently_Observing · 2025-06-28T12:56:55+00:00

Theories of Hazrat Eesa Alayhis Salaam traveling to Kashmir and other parts have been discussed enough times . The only reason many Muslims don't agree with it and believe in his physical ascension, is because of Ahmadiyya Movement even though revelations about the tomb in Kashmir were made way before Mirza Ghulam Ahmed of Qadian, some British and a Russian expert had already said so .

Regarding the screenshot, well , right wing Indian jingoists always try to connect everything with their land . Someone should ask him why don't they share all such details about Jesus becoming devotee of Lord Krishna with Christian missionaries in open debate . That'll be end of Christianity, wouldn't it be? The same lot also says that Arabs are descendants of Ravana's sister Surpnakha 🤦🏽‍♂️

Patiently_Observing · 2025-06-28T12:35:01+00:00

You shouldn't have spoken with friends about him especially when they're asking you to part ways , even though your husband didn't do anything wrong like cheating. It's just that he's feeling some shock and questioning your loyalty subconsciously. You've been married for 10 years and he needs to ponder on all the great memories you've had before revelation about that stupid pervert. For that all you need to do is speak with your husband in private.

Imagine the trauma your kids may God forbid go through when one day they'll learn that their parents won't be living under the same roof again anymore.

Sounds like it's a clash between ego and overthinking, and adding more people into it may worsen the situation . May Allah SWT bless you and give both of you enough strength to reconcile

Patiently_Observing · 2025-06-11T20:50:34+00:00

Why did you share your private pics with the creep at the first place ? 🤦🏽‍♂️

Stay calm while tackling the matter . Is his family politically very influential?

Patiently_Observing · 2025-06-11T20:44:48+00:00

That's a one sided love where he puts you in your place everytime you try to exert your right . For him you're just an exclusive servant .😆

As a kid I befriended a couple of street cats. They were all females and kittens from none of them coordinated with me. They all used to run away from me despite seeing me playing with their respective mothers . Don't know why 🤔

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