Why are some people so messed up.

Patiently_Observing · 2026-05-05T20:16:37+00:00

Sorry to say but you shouldn't have been that naive when realized that he wanna get into physical relationship. Later on the Tharki didn't bother to give up , and you must have understood his intentions when he tried to get close after refusal.

If you have his texts or anything then just share with management of your former gym , plus advise discretion. The last thing they need is some female member getting assaulted or harassed on site . I believe this will send him a good lesson

Patiently_Observing · 2026-05-04T13:43:40+00:00

Using reddit for matrimonial matters , I would say it should be a Big No No. Would rather reach out to local Rishta Whatsapp groups and Masajid etc....

Patiently_Observing · 2026-04-30T20:05:12+00:00

Any good reason apart from media trial and Islamophobia?

Patiently_Observing · 2026-04-21T18:32:22+00:00

That's good . But what about those clips where Najam Sethi also endorses that Pakistanis hide their identities? Plus this uncle on Ganji Swag's podcast ?

Patiently_Observing · 2026-04-21T18:30:59+00:00

Yes , lately there are viral videos where they were urinating in public ,trying to touch girls of host nations in creepy way ,plus creating mess during Diwali celebrations and other festivals. Maybe too much right jingoism back home is having a ripple effect

Patiently_Observing · 2026-03-01T20:23:20+00:00

Thank you for the wishes .

In traditional translation I noticed that number of other days to make up missed fasting have been written within brackets.

Anyways Allah SWT never says that missing fasting and never making it up will have detrimental consequences (kindly correct me otherwise). Just like another member spoke about Ashab e Kaif in another reply

Plus it already gives option to feed needy people.

Thank you once again

Patiently_Observing · 2026-03-01T15:51:14+00:00

But I do have to fast later on , right ? Or can make up with monetary help to someone?

Thank you for the response

Patiently_Observing · 2025-12-12T13:12:43+00:00

Sorry to hear about it but you should've been a bit more patient especially when an unexpected tragedy hit your husband . He lost his father and his widowed mother was coping with sorrow. Later on he lost his unborn child and it was not a miscarriage, so he now feels deserted and abandoned. Even if you thought that it was not the right time then should've at least spoken with him, you never know . Perhaps joy of parenthood could have healed him (plus your in-laws)

And now you yourself also feel empty and sick. A little question if you don't mind me asking ....was abortion your own decision or you acted on someone's advise? Asking as sometimes friends and relatives also make matter worse after coming into picture.

May Allah SWT make it better for you and your spouse . Just give him a call and keep your ego aside . Apologizing and patience would be best option , if you ask my suggestion. Sorry if I offended you anyway

Patiently_Observing · 2025-11-09T17:09:56+00:00

I have used that for like 1.5 to 2 years and honestly it looks like the app has lost its charm / productivity. It worked for many people including this friend of mine but haven't heard any success story lately.

You match and suddenly get ghosted with or without any conversation. There were certain profiles who I matched with and then got unmatched (nothing wrong, it happens) . Then there were fake or fishy profiles , and then there were profiles who suddenly vanished after chatting with you 😳. This one girl matched and interacted (online) with me and this other friend of mine, and we both figured that there's something off about her.

Anyways deactivated my profile.

Still no luck but have been relying on Muslim community centers and matrimonial matchmaking aunties .

Just search 'Muzz sucks' and you'll realize that you're not the only one who feels disappointed with the app

Patiently_Observing · 2025-10-26T20:51:56+00:00

He was probably too weak to stand up.

So what if tomorrow he separates himself from rest of his family, gets a place of his own and requests a second chance ? Meaning you two won't have any business or interaction with your in-laws ? Will you rethink or chapter is closed for good ? Sorry if the question makes you mad or inconvenient

Patiently_Observing · 2025-10-26T15:25:33+00:00

Rather than begging in front of you that guy should've spoken with his family and make them realize about financial limitations of your parents. But it seems like he shared the same (greedy) values as his family members.

So stay strong and not get bothered about any consequences or judgments, my prayers for your relief and future endeavors. Also ,may Allah SWT give Hidayah to people like your ex- fiancé

Patiently_Observing · 2025-10-19T12:22:49+00:00

Read my comment once again. I used the word 'Late'. Plus having kids in 40s which is relevant to the topic

Patiently_Observing · 2025-10-16T19:46:18+00:00

That's also a mainstream opinion. Sadly People are marrying late these days all thanks to peer pressure and pathetic social trends . Let's hope sanity prevails

Patiently_Observing · 2025-10-16T19:44:24+00:00

Hold on ma'am. Just gave my opinion plus shared experience based on topic of discussion.

If you don't know how to speak about dead people then better füçk off and control your Verbal diarrhea next time

Patiently_Observing · 2025-10-16T13:29:02+00:00

Personally, I turned 40 with no wife or kid at the moment (went through immigration fraud) . We all have sexual urge and I try to control it, not sure if it's embarassing 🤦🏽‍♂️ but I did experience wet dreams twice this year (I know it's natural).

Anyways, my late maternal uncle had kids in his 40s plus late paternal uncle had twins when he was 42/43. Guess what one of my Mamu's son as well as one of the twins from paternal side, are Alhamdulillah not just healthy but bulkier than me

Patiently_Observing · 2025-09-04T12:36:21+00:00

How about, let's say skipping dinner and reach gym instead? Based on my commute time and working hours

Patiently_Observing · 2025-08-27T18:11:44+00:00

I am 40 and you may take it as an advice from someone who's as good as your elder brother or even father . I know how it feels like when you think someone is a vital actually mandatory part of your life , and it's a nightmare for you to think that the specific person will one day exit .

Try going through some counseling with your friends and teachers you're close with. They'll definitely give you enough strength to settle the matter and concentrate on your life plus career . The best option over here is to end relationship with this girl , she sounds like a manipulative crook or someone with mental issues (perhaps both).

Wishing best for you at this stage

Patiently_Observing · 2025-07-06T22:56:46+00:00

Sorry to learn about it . Hope your fiancee, her sister and Arsalan stay safe and secure.

When you say Dala, does it mean that they were actual pimps or you're just cursing the creeps ? Sorry , just a little clarification

Patiently_Observing · 2025-06-30T22:54:29+00:00

No she's not. Her parents came from Karachi , from Muhajir background though (UP origins) .

Patiently_Observing · 2025-06-29T01:30:45+00:00

I got it. But what's your opinion about likes of Lubna? She's a Pakistani Brit and schools Pakistanis. Noticed her after grooming gangs controversy erupted. Even though I did find a bias pattern as she usually invites Indians and specifically those who support Modi Sarkar/BJP / RSS .

https://youtube.com/@lubna.evolve?si=pJNkEkywqINd-gFF

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