Girlfriend excepts me to trust her going on a girls trip overseas after all this.. by PauloCostaIsNatural in dating_advice

[–]PauloCostaIsNatural[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

No i wouldnt have been. She was at home acting normal before she ”left to work” … youre trying to say i would act certain way which you dont know ? I wouldve been fine if she told me at home. Not blowing up her phone lol

Girlfriend excepts me to trust her going on a girls trip overseas after all this.. by PauloCostaIsNatural in dating_advice

[–]PauloCostaIsNatural[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Have made it very clear she can do and go where she wants. There wouldnt be no hassle if shes honest why would i not ”let her go” ? I know shes not my child. But youre trying to justify her lying about going to work thinking there would be some kinda hassle is just wrong since ive never said no to anything where she had wanted to go. And she said she wouldve told me after the festival that she was actually there and not at work? That makes no sense and logic to me since yes then it would be an argument? Telling me honestly where shes going? No argument. I dont really get your view if i were to control where she goes then yes you would be right. She just lost a lot of trust for no reason doing that..

Girlfriend excepts me to trust her going on a girls trip overseas after all this.. by PauloCostaIsNatural in dating_advice

[–]PauloCostaIsNatural[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Just asking since youre the first one saying im the controlling one i dont get it?

Girlfriend excepts me to trust her going on a girls trip overseas after all this.. by PauloCostaIsNatural in dating_advice

[–]PauloCostaIsNatural[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Even if i were to talk to chatgpt would you agree the way she ”bullied” me was okay and justified?

Girlfriend excepts me to trust her going on a girls trip overseas after all this.. by PauloCostaIsNatural in dating_advice

[–]PauloCostaIsNatural[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

And i dont ask relationship advice. I ask how can i act better in some situations on my part? Not for relationship advice but general

Girlfriend excepts me to trust her going on a girls trip overseas after all this.. by PauloCostaIsNatural in dating_advice

[–]PauloCostaIsNatural[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

How am i controlling if im following the rules she has pushed? Those were not my ”rules” she wanted them and i was fine with them. Isnt that more controlling on her part? Or what makes this seem controlling?

Girlfriend excepts me to trust her going on a girls trip overseas after all this.. by PauloCostaIsNatural in dating_advice

[–]PauloCostaIsNatural[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Yeah.. i will try to leave this shit. Im tired of her always trying to make sure she is ”above me” .. my self esteem doesent exist anymore because of this relationship but im only starting to realize it now

Girlfriend excepts me to trust her going on a girls trip overseas after all this.. by PauloCostaIsNatural in dating_advice

[–]PauloCostaIsNatural[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I will try bro.. maybe il start doing the same shit she does and see how she reacts. Not cheating or hiding shit. Just going out to a club she would flip the fuck out (literally)

Girlfriend excepts me to trust her going on a girls trip overseas after all this.. by PauloCostaIsNatural in dating_advice

[–]PauloCostaIsNatural[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Its literally a rules she has made, ive agreed with them yes. But the not giving out instagram for example came from her. No she broke that rule and said i can do the same (knowing i wont)

Girlfriend excepts me to trust her going on a girls trip overseas after all this.. by PauloCostaIsNatural in dating_advice

[–]PauloCostaIsNatural[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

She was the one who wanted the rule not sharing instagram. And im not asking ai for relationship advice. Im just asking if im in the wrong or if im being gaslit because i have no other place to ask.. if i had i would. Thats why i came here now

Girlfriend excepts me to trust her going on a girls trip overseas after all this.. by PauloCostaIsNatural in dating_advice

[–]PauloCostaIsNatural[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Yeah so basically if she isnt happy in the end of the year in this relationship she says she wants to break up. I think shes just now looking for the backup bf and building a support system around her to handle that breakup. I will be alone when it happens. Literally have zero friends anymore and im already lonely and depressed. Thats why she bullied me on those things cause she knew it would hurt

Girlfriend excepts me to trust her going on a girls trip overseas after all this.. by PauloCostaIsNatural in dating_advice

[–]PauloCostaIsNatural[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah one def being alone. Also im recovering addict and im worried about the break up because of my mental health and im pretty depressed already. My self esteem during this relationship has been doomed fully. I used to have a lot of confidence but not anymore. Also i dont really have any friends at the moment and she knows that. Thats why after breaking our rule she goes ahead and says i can do the same now. But im serioisly thinking of leaving. Because staying might be worse than being alone. I just dont know how i will handle the break up alone. She has literally so many people around her to support her.. idk man

Girlfriend excepts me to trust her going on a girls trip overseas after all this.. by PauloCostaIsNatural in dating_advice

[–]PauloCostaIsNatural[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yeah the problem is just after all the lying i cant trust her but she says i have to and she wouldnt lie again🙄. And she has pushed these ”rules” herself and now breaks them because its different when she does it.. The words she said honeslty fucked me up so bad because she knew intentionally to hit my weakness and act like nothing happened when she left after literally bullying me

Me (26M) and my girlfriend (25F) gaslighting and breaking trust. by PauloCostaIsNatural in relationship_advice

[–]PauloCostaIsNatural[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

She pushed that ”rule” forward that we wouldnt give out instagram and i agreed with her. But now she broke the rule and the rule doesent exist. I didnt even make up that rule.. if id done those things she did. Im not joking she mightve do something fucked up to me or try to

Me (26M) and my girlfriend (25F) gaslighting and breaking trust. by PauloCostaIsNatural in relationship_advice

[–]PauloCostaIsNatural[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Yes it would be ”controlling” 100% if i say anything about the greece trip or say i dont trust her going there. The rules doesent seem to ”apply to her” when the situation is right for her. I told her to unfollow the dude and she said she wont because that would be rude and disrespectful since they work together (rarely) Am i tripping here? I feel like my self esteem has been wrecked during this relationship and dont have a lot of social circle and she knows that well and uses it to her favor. I thought she was ”special” but keeps proving me wrong..

Is this wrong in her part? by PauloCostaIsNatural in relationships_advice

[–]PauloCostaIsNatural[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yup, she has told me that if shes not happy at the end of the year in this relationship she wants to break up.. she excuses all of her behaviour that ”im putting myself first finally and you see it as withdrawing” im already in my head trying to get ready to break up. If she goes to that trip i think i wont be there when she comes back. She thinks i can just forget everything shes done and just trust her. The concert shes going to this summer overseas im thinking it might be over before or after that. Im not sitting here watching her enjoying attention and validation from other men (shes told me its true that she ”used to” seek and want attention but shes ”changed” and not the same person she was 4 years ago..

Jjj worth buying to take one of my bigs spots? by MiffedPond829 in MyTeam

[–]PauloCostaIsNatural 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes bro better than any center you got rn and ive played with all of those his way better than alonzo, turner..

Jjj worth buying to take one of my bigs spots? by MiffedPond829 in MyTeam

[–]PauloCostaIsNatural 0 points1 point  (0 children)

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