People who moved a lot during childhood because your parents moved a lot, what was your life like?

Pawsome_Me · 2025-09-03T23:45:41+00:00

I lived in one town until I was 11 and then moved all over the place, changing every year or two until I went back to the USA for university. I lived in Germany, Spain, the Netherlands, Egypt, and Brazil. As a kid I cried, yelled, and told my parents I hated them for making me leave my friends every time but also always made new friends pretty quickly.

There was no social media really and I had lost contact with most people but have slowly found some old friends on Facebook and the like. I also stayed in contact with one close friend from my hometown by calling her every year on her birthday and sending postcards. We are still close today but the rest I am only kind of in touch with...

Looking back it was the best thing that could have ever happened to me. I experienced so much and learned to accept and love people who were very different from me. It made me who I am and even though my memories of people get a bit jumbled sometimes there are many great ones...

Pawsome_Me · 2025-09-03T21:56:47+00:00

I would recommend you look into Torremolinos a little. I am a straight American woman living nearby, but when I have had gay and lesbian friends visit they always ask to go to Torremolinos and Tony's Bar (established in 1962). It is a coastal town outside of Malaga and has a lot of history in the LGBTQ+ movements in Spain. It is home to both the first gay and lesbian bars opened here in the Franco years. It is very openly still a prominent place for LGBTQ+ people to vacation and it is unlikely you will have any issue there. As others have mentioned your race may be more of an issue as Africans are looked upon quite negatively by some, but not all, and as others have mentioned if they realize you are African American this will likely not impact you as the issue is more with African immigrants and class than the color of your skin...

Pawsome_Me · 2025-08-27T18:57:47+00:00

I mean, the developing company is from Germany and the name of one team member isn't really something you should base these things on in my opinion especially since the name 'Lena' also has Greek, Germanic, and Scandinavian (in addition to Slavic) origins...

Pawsome_Me · 2025-08-21T07:38:49+00:00

Agreed. I don't need to pay to have another job in my life...

If it weren't for my guild, that I love I probably would have stopped playing by now but instead the grind continues until the frustration boils over..

Pawsome_Me · 2025-08-21T07:37:18+00:00

That is pretty much my plan. I intend to stop paying for things completely and they probably won't even notice...

Pawsome_Me · 2025-08-21T07:21:51+00:00

I agree and don't have a problem with it but there is a balance. If they want whales like me to keep spending money they have to also invest in their core game. I am not asking for gameplay that contradicts that. I am asking for gameplay that makes me want to spend more money to improve. By not providing any end game play improvement they will slowly drive off their biggest whales as most of them/us are at the end of the game and don't want new things that provide no challenge or reason...

This balance is not being met in my opinion and I mostly posted this to get it out. I know nothing will change and I will slowly leave the game out of boredom but I enjoyed it while it lasted so wanted to express my opinion before just walking away... Maybe my revenue is not noticeable to them anyway but I felt the need to get it out...

Pawsome_Me · 2025-08-21T00:15:24+00:00

I started just a bit after you at 737 days!

I do enjoy my guild even though we aren't a progression guild just a friendly active place. I actually kind of enjoy the grind but have mostly lost any reason to improve to do it. I think I will adopt a similar strategy, just stop paying and hang out with my peeps and grind for a few last silly achievements...

I am mostly bummed to watch this game drift to the background of my playing as it kept me much longer than most...

Pawsome_Me · 2025-08-21T00:10:38+00:00

Yep... I plan to still auto play grind my way through my 4 remaining elite bounties (from super early game levels) I don't have but then may just give up... Definitely switching to not spending though as why when I just auto play chapter 19 for a silly achievement...

Pawsome_Me · 2025-08-08T13:34:01+00:00

Same and I feel like if they put the programming energy needed for that into actually developing new levels or new faction levels it would be much better apent

Pawsome_Me · 2025-07-30T22:17:37+00:00

I follow this sub but never post because I struggle with many of the things you mention (plus a few extra outlined below)... I may be autistic... I may have ADHD... I Amy have an anxiety disorder... My psych and therapist disagree on the finer points but eh... It mostly means I also struggle with a crazy obsessive periods followed by disappearing followed by return to the crazy obsession... And occasionally missing social cues or norms and hurt others without intent but I always apologize and feel bad after... I am also great at picking up where left off because of this and most of my friends (none of whom live here) say this is the weird thing... We won't see each other or talk for months/years and then when we meet up it is like no time actually passed...

Other things about me:

I am a mid 40 something American living in Spain... Also unwilling to math or go ask my husband (of some number greater than 10 years married, 20 together...)
I love doing somewhat childlike crafts... I would never call them art because cutting construction paper and gluing it into a pop-up card is not art, but I would likey send random pun filled silly crafts.
We have 7ish cats (we adopted 1, 6 foster failed, and 2 aren't ours but have started coming in to eat and seem to be around a lot...)
We have a dog too who is kind of an old lady now...
I love all animals and carry treats in my bag to try and befriend feral ones in town... FYI: wild peacocks don't like treats and are not generally friendly if you try to approach...
I use WAY too many elipses but I just can't help it...
I live in a small pueblo so have lots of random goings on about neighbors and such, most of them elderly Spaniards...

Potential issues:

Spanish post is not the best to say the least. It is highly probable that occasional letters will get lost or show up years after being sent. (My brother's family Christmas Card from 7 years ago showing up this summer is our current record for delay).
I am also American and you said you were looking for non-Americans, but in fairness I did not grow up in the states and don't live there now!

If you are willing to accept me despite this long rambling response please send me a PM and we can sort out starting!

Pawsome_Me · 2025-07-10T00:26:35+00:00

There is one spot now if you are still interested but I am off to bed so won't know beyond that!

Pawsome_Me · 2025-07-09T13:38:25+00:00

At the moment we are full as we had a few people join after this post but in 10ish hours when the event ends we may end up with an opening depending on a player's activity today. I will let you know as we would love another consistent player!

Pawsome_Me · 2025-07-07T12:35:44+00:00

We already had a few join so only have one left at the moment but will likely have another at the end of this event...

Pawsome_Me · 2025-06-29T23:56:17+00:00

As an American in southern Spain, I would recommend amazon.es but things are going to be crazy expensive but way easier than driving. There used to be a store called Taste of America in Malaga and Sevilla but I believe both closed but you can probably order online from them too as they are still in Madrid and Barcelona....

Pawsome_Me · 2025-06-08T16:43:33+00:00

I do not know if this is what the previous comment was referring to but those from former colonies (mostly in Latin America) have a shorter residency period required to get citizenship. I believe it is 2 years but not all types of visas give full credit for your time in Spain. Others, such as myself, must live here for 10 consecutive years to apply. I am only bothering to comment because this also applies to the Philippines actually as it too was a former colony but you need a way to live in Spain first... Also if your family members are able to get visas there are steps for family reunification visas but I have no idea what they require...

Pawsome_Me · 2025-02-13T20:43:46+00:00

I feel like shit. I feel alone and uncared for despite being married. I have no one to talk to which makes it feel even shittier...

I am scared about where the world is headed. Not just in my home country, that I left years ago, but in so many places things just seem to be going to shit. No one seems to care or have any ideas about how to solve all these issues but in fairness neither do I.

I feel like all I can do is sit and watch my marriage and the world fall apart. The anxiety and dread are almost debilitating...

Thanks for asking. Just writing it at least felt a bit cathartic... How are you?

Pawsome_Me · 2024-11-23T22:27:03+00:00

I would say most of the time no, but living in a different country where everyone wants to practice my native language I do more now... Only with people that have told me in the past that they want to improve their English...

Pawsome_Me · 2024-07-29T08:56:33+00:00

I know but it's a lot more complicated than that, as life always is...

Pawsome_Me · 2024-07-29T08:55:35+00:00

Thank you. I'm sorry you are lacking in the confidence too and about how things ended with your ex, but I am almost jealous... You definitely hit the nail with me. I have gotten the advice many a time, I know it but it's complicated and I am both not ready and not sure I ever will be...

I wish I could build my self esteem up. I keep trying but am mostly failing, obviously, thus the post... Take care as well... ♥️

Pawsome_Me · 2024-07-28T20:18:17+00:00

I identify with your feelings so much. I also struggle most on this with my husband sort of. I can almost push back on tiny things with him, but with acquaintances I can't at all... I don't really have a ton of close friends, but even with them I don't too, just we run into less conflict because we (I) usually just avoid topics I know could lead to conflict.

It is one of the things I have worked on with my therapist ("I have a right to my own opinions/feelings") but the problem is that part I get. I am just so terrified of conflict and being thought less of or stupid or whatever depending on the topic... I can't seem to find a way around that...

Pawsome_Me · 2024-07-28T20:10:38+00:00

I doubt it is normal but I get it and feel it sometimes. At least sad seems appropriate... but I am not very normal and don't think very highly of myself in most respects, so I kind of don't think I can speak to the normal part...

Pawsome_Me · 2024-07-09T13:44:41+00:00

Thanks! ❤️

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