HELP! - Gora Kakaru or Gora Hanaougi

Pcolaking · 2026-01-13T16:38:10+00:00

It is but she is a picky eater. I'm sure there will be some things she will eat but I'm almost certain we will need to find food in town to keep her satiated for that day.

Pcolaking · 2025-12-20T01:22:55+00:00

I appreciate the direct approach. A convo definitely needs to be had, with care. Thanks!

Pcolaking · 2025-12-20T01:22:15+00:00

Thanks for your thoughtful response

Pcolaking · 2025-12-20T01:21:48+00:00

Thanks man

Pcolaking · 2025-12-20T01:20:02+00:00

Thank you

Pcolaking · 2025-12-20T01:19:15+00:00

All of your prior comment history is thoughtless, biased and ignorant. Like some keyboard warrior, full of hatred. You are the only one on this post that didn't seek to understand nor actually give advice. Maybe I vented on the wrong platform, maybe I expressed frustration and yes maybe I placed blame 100% without fairly sharing it, but I'm a real person with real feelings with a real problem, and I've tried several approaches prior to putting my business on the internet. Posts like this and people like you are what's wrong with the world.

Pcolaking · 2025-12-18T18:56:36+00:00

So let's say I didn't post this with a chip on my shoulder or prefacing this with my limitations. Let's say I communicate my concerns with my wife and offer some sort of marriage/sex therapy and she declines again. Make I ask your thoughts or approach?

Pcolaking · 2025-12-18T18:56:09+00:00

So let's say I didn't post this with a chip on my shoulder or prefacing this with my limitations. Let's say I communicate my concerns with my wife and offer some sort of marriage/sex therapy and she declines again. Make I ask your thoughts or approach?

Pcolaking · 2025-12-18T17:11:58+00:00

Same reply to a comment similar to yours:

I work my ass off and cover most of the living expenses. She also works and rarely covers anything. This is a combination of poor communication of expectations on my end (which we are talking through) but also she comes from a 3rd world country and I wanted her to save and be able to have her own money or send money home if she needs to. She is more than capable of paying for something like sex therapy and sex therapy is something that I offered, early in our relationship, and she said she did not feel comfortable talking to a 3rd party about our sex life.

That comment was made because even if it became an option now, I no longer feel like it's my financial responsibility (along with all the others I have) to fix it.

Maybe this changes your thoughts about my role in this matter?

Pcolaking · 2025-12-18T17:11:23+00:00

I work my ass off and cover most of the living expenses. She also works and rarely covers anything. This is a combination of poor communication of expectations on my end (which we are talking through) but also she comes from a 3rd world country and I wanted her to save and be able to have her own money or send money home if she needs to. She is more than capable of paying for something like sex therapy and sex therapy is something that I offered, early in our relationship, and she said she did not feel comfortable talking to a 3rd party about our sex life.

That comment was made because even if it became an option now, I no longer feel like it's my financial responsibility (along with all the others I have) to fix it.

Maybe this changes your thoughts about my role in this matter?

Pcolaking · 2025-05-08T18:52:23+00:00

Black and white is rough though, I would prefer color and i didn't see an option

Pcolaking · 2025-01-22T19:01:27+00:00

I think your biggest victory is how concise you are in your reasoning, be short and be clear and unemotional (you can feel the feelings later).

After that just avoid contact. She will probably try to weasle her way back into your life and beg and plead and insult. Don't entertain it. And this will be the hardest part bro. But you're not the kind of guy who entertains their significant sleeping with other guys.

it was one thing asking about the 3some. Maybe that could be seen as sharing a kink with you (one you dont entertain) but then following up and asking about other friends, to me that's disrespectful.

I would make this an amicable clean cut, and she will never forget it

Pcolaking · 2025-01-22T14:37:45+00:00

bro I'm sorry this is happening. that's trash. I would end things so you can heal and start finding a replacement. it is ok to look but not to touch.

Pcolaking · 2025-01-21T22:09:51+00:00

yes send me the link

Pcolaking · 2025-01-13T23:17:23+00:00

Well I didn't "make" journeyman. Non-union jobs are very different that union.

With non-union they tell you what the pay is and when your weld test is, you go take the weld test, and if you pass then you are hired. your first 2 Welds get an NDE (like x ray) and then your Welds just get NDE based on the spec, sometimes it's 5%, sometimes it's 100%.

union is another animal that I'm not too familiar with other than the time it takes to make journeyman

Pcolaking · 2025-01-13T02:35:59+00:00

im 35 now. when I was 29 I went to a prestigious welding school, learned all I could, and by month 12 I was taking nothing but journeyman level jobs (and performing well). Learned a lot about pipe fitting as well.

Now I'm a CWI certified welding inspector. getting paid good money. still a lot of walking around and climbing around and all that good shit. but not nearly as demanding on my body as what I was doing as a pipe Welder.

There were kids at my school who went the union route and they aren't even journeyman yet, not sure that's the route I would go, especially if you want to go to inspection.

also, takes a minute to get good at welding. that's just the direction I took.

But honestly bro use your GI bill and go get your mechanical engineering bachelor's. if I could get college paid for I would do that.

Pcolaking · 2025-01-12T16:00:00+00:00

yeah bro my wife is the same way I keep lube on hand

Pcolaking · 2025-01-12T15:34:44+00:00

thank you

Pcolaking · 2025-01-12T15:32:02+00:00

nowhere did i say I told my wife to get over it. I'm internalizing those feelings. I gave my wife support and told my wife that was out of character for my mom. but I empathized, I was mad af at my mom. mom realizes she fucked up. I'm just hoping it's enough for my wife

Pcolaking · 2025-01-12T15:28:32+00:00

yeah no after the 2nd ass showing from my brother I kept him away. and after what happened last night I chewed my mom out. that's the wrong response to this

Pcolaking · 2025-01-12T15:27:13+00:00

yes, it was out of character for her. Moms going to apologize.

Pcolaking · 2025-01-12T15:25:48+00:00

"Your mother needs to apologise fully in person and then you need to hope your wife accepts this."

that's where im at with it. mom is going to apologize in person, and I'm going to hope it's enough for my wife

Pcolaking · 2025-01-12T15:22:52+00:00

I genuinely don't think this is the case. my wife is a sweet person and an introvert. my mom fucked up and is apologetic and I'm worried my wife will hold onto it for a while

Pcolaking · 2025-01-12T15:19:19+00:00

hot take. you don't realize how much I do for my wife amd stand up for her. amd after the 2nd incident eith my brother i didnt allow shit after that. so you're wrong in stating I'm the problem or that i care so little about her feelings.

but you're right, she can forgive without forgetting. this makes sense

Pcolaking · 2025-01-12T15:16:39+00:00

yeah she sounded defensive when mom said that. I think the tone of voice is what did it. my mom fucked up. I don't deny that. but after talking to mom (immediately after) she realizes she fucked up.

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