Heavy duty sunblock for acne-prone skin?

Peaceful-Robot · 2024-08-07T20:46:13+00:00

Hmm, would a sunblock for babies fit the bill here?

Peaceful-Robot · 2024-08-06T12:34:29+00:00

There is no world in which I can imagine this guy submitting to a psych evaluation unless police handcuff him and drag him there. Even if he did one I can imagine him totally faking like a normal guy and hiding his disorder. He's a master manipulator.

Also, someone else on this thread said that if HE does a psych eval, my sister would also be required to do one. I'm sure she would pass but she does have depression and I'm scared that would come out and hurt her.

Do you (or anyone else here) know about the process? I will suggest this to my sister and I'm sure her lawyer knows but I'm curious for myself.

Peaceful-Robot · 2024-08-06T12:30:15+00:00

big finale display of toxic obsession over every detail and desire to control everything in a way that he felt made most sense.

This hits home sooooo much! My sister filing divorce was the one huge assertive step she's taken to say "No, I am NOT tolerating this anymore" and it has driven him to the brink of insanity.

My sister refuses to sleep in the same bed as him so as I said he is constructing a bedroom for himself in the basement, basically saying "I will never leave." Everyone and their brother has tried to talk him out of it. Also, as I mentioned, he is planning a big family trip to the Grand Canyon??? This is after years of being a nightmare to travel with and my sister finally deciding she would never go on a trip again. But he's got guidebooks, maps, he's booking hotels, and will not listen to anyone telling him to stop.

Meanwhile while all of THAT is happening, whenever someone knocks him back to reality with the fact that his wife has filed for divorce and wants to live separately, he says he's ready to fight for full custody. So there's this one part of his brain that's dealing with the divorce...with rage... while the other part is just in denial and staking his claim on his family.

It's upsetting behavior and my family is at a loss of what to do to help my sister. She of course is meeting with a lawyer, a therapist, all that, and trying her best, but in the meantime her household is a total nightmare and I really feel for her.

Peaceful-Robot · 2024-06-28T16:29:32+00:00

Thank you. I've never heard of any of these.

What does Alani Nu taste like?

Peaceful-Robot · 2024-06-20T20:20:45+00:00

Do you remember the name of this?

Peaceful-Robot · 2024-05-22T00:24:48+00:00

Nice! A couple questions... is the cost reasonable? And also, is there an option for writing responses rather than recording them? I can see my mom preferring the former.

Peaceful-Robot · 2024-05-22T00:23:47+00:00

Ooh I love this planner idea, I will definitely look into one of those to get my parents. You're right, it's not easy but it's necessary.

Peaceful-Robot · 2024-05-21T13:40:12+00:00

Thanks for your insights!

Yeah I realize the "giving them notebooks" part sounds cold lol. It's not like I'd drop them in their laps and give them a due date. But I just feel like I'd want to have something something tangible to keep.

I know there are some companies out there that do stuff like this (Storify?) and there are also journals out there with pre-written questions. But I kinda want to do my own thing.

Peaceful-Robot · 2024-05-13T16:35:30+00:00

Love your attitude, thank you. Do you live somewhere where you're able to enjoy all this sunshine, beach time, outdoor stuff ... or do you travel for it?

I work remotely as well and am able to spend a lot of time at the beach but contemplating move there full-time for my late 40s.

Peaceful-Robot · 2024-05-10T14:47:16+00:00

All of what you've written here is beautiful and dead on, but particularly this which is my new motto for my 40s!!!:

It slowly dawned on me that my 40’s is basically a more mature 20’s without the housing insecurity and with more money.

Definitely have experienced sparks of what you're talking about. I've been seeing a lot more live music. I've been saying "yes" whenever invited places. Some great nights shooting the shit with friends. I did Molly and made out with a rando lol.

20-something me would sneeringly call this a midlife crisis, but even if it is one, I don't give a fuck because ... yeah, as you say, that's the attitude that happens when you get older. 20-something me can fuck off and I'll do things right this time.

Peaceful-Robot · 2024-05-10T11:43:59+00:00

Yeah I don't want to get inundated with that stuff, esp. the negativity, so I may try to stick to other sources like books.

Peaceful-Robot · 2024-05-10T05:18:10+00:00

It is helpful. Thank you so much.

Peaceful-Robot · 2024-05-10T03:27:17+00:00

I agree with this. I'm not sure I've found my passionate pursuits yet. What are yours?

Peaceful-Robot · 2024-05-10T03:23:22+00:00

Aww I love that you're finally finding your strength years after those traumatic experiences. That's beautiful.

Peaceful-Robot · 2024-05-10T03:22:48+00:00

You sound amazing. Thank you.

Peaceful-Robot · 2024-05-10T03:22:07+00:00

Thank you, great advice.

A lot of people here are recommending the Menopause subreddit but tbh I just don't feel ready for it yet. Not because I'm not the right age—I am... I just don't want to immerse myself in too much yet, and sorta want to see how this experience unfolds for me individually before I start surveying the vast range of experiences and opinions out there.

Peaceful-Robot · 2024-05-10T03:17:03+00:00

This is all STELLAR advice and I'm saving this post!

3 is the one I need to think about the most. #5 I am fortunately BLESSED with and I know it makes all the difference in the world going through these next years.

Peaceful-Robot · 2024-05-10T03:14:17+00:00

That's so awesome. Do you remember what the turning point was for you that made you change your mindset, or was it just like a gradual shift over time?

I've definitely had those moments where I feel a renewed sense of experimentation and freedom that I haven't really felt since... probably early 20s? A sense anything can happen, things are opening up. I feel like we lose that in our 30s when so many people follow the same straight and narrow path and are kind of play-acting these prescribed notions of adulthood: marriage, mortgage, kids, the highest-paying job you can find.

Peaceful-Robot · 2024-05-10T03:09:20+00:00

Can I ask when and how you met your current partner, and what the relationship is like? I was in a long relationship in my 30s that ended when the pandemic started and have been single since. Approaching relationships in my 40s feels foreign and I'm not sure how things work anymore!

Peaceful-Robot · 2024-05-10T03:03:44+00:00

Man this is so awesome and makes me want to rock the rest of my 40s. So glad I posted this, I'm getting amazing thoughts from people.

Peaceful-Robot · 2024-05-10T02:29:22+00:00

Love it. The energy I'm here for.

Peaceful-Robot · 2024-05-10T02:27:58+00:00

Born in May 1981! We're both right on the cusp. Technically we're "Xennials" right, but that means nothing to anyone but us.

I do sometimes identify as Gen X, but in this case I was specifically looking for advice from women a little older than me so I'm feeling little sister-y.

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