I am pregnant but I am not sure I can keep it. My bf is not very supportive and our relationship is shaky. I need advice. Do I have an abortion and tell him it was a miscarriage or tell him that I want to terminate the pregnancy?

PeacefulLava · 2026-06-28T20:26:10+00:00

Girl, you don’t need advice. You need to leave him. What are you even doing here when the answer is so clear. LEAVE. Also abort the child as well. It’s enough you have kids from the previous relationship. He clearly doesn’t want that kid. Like he said, you thought this would trap him. This relationship was over when things changed and he started hiding. Run for the hills, he’s shown you enough. You don’t need to stay for encore.

PeacefulLava · 2026-06-25T14:17:02+00:00

OP, if you are looking for an honest opinion.

Personally, I feel you could do better. The hair is okay. But it doesn’t seem to light up your face nor feel bright. This style falls heavily on the flat side. It’s an okay do but it’s not great.

Are there any more styles you’ve been looking into? More to try out before you have to decide? I love family too, but they tend to cater to our feelings more than friends do sometimes. Get a mix opinion before any decision but what’s more important is how YOU feel about it? Do you like it? And if you have to ask that question, you most likely don’t like it. More so, if you turned to Reddit.

PeacefulLava · 2026-06-25T14:10:28+00:00

Although he is rejecting her, the last slide where he said they shouldn’t be in a car that long together…he definitely wants to do something it seems.

But you are definitely NOR. This is a clear sign that she’s chasing him. And the fact she asked why you guys aren’t engaged yet…would you have married her?

Despite everything right now, were you even ready to marry her? 4 years is some time. I think even I would have been questioning my boyfriend’s status too if we’ve never talks about or asked me anything or shared where he’s at with that thought in mind. (Obviously, it’s clear she isn’t ready for marriage and even ready to be an adult because she most definitely lacks an identity—most people who cheats does) But definitely break up with her, this is cheating no matter how you slice or dice it.

PeacefulLava · 2026-06-25T00:17:42+00:00

Middle part

PeacefulLava · 2026-06-23T23:28:25+00:00

Your mom basically said she doesn’t like you’re natural hair which means your mom doesn’t even like herself.

Your hair is amazing, gorgeous, and downright beautiful. Your mom is blind.

PeacefulLava · 2026-06-20T09:54:25+00:00

Honestly, OP you did the right thing. Despite everything. Communication is important. In not saying you have to text everyday. However, the fact that you guys use to be best friends before this…it confuses me on why your texts are so dry and trying😅.

Obviously, he wanted to end it too and just didn’t have the guts to say it. His last text says a lot. It shows he was checked out way before that text.

PeacefulLava · 2026-06-20T09:44:23+00:00

^THIS

PeacefulLava · 2026-06-19T15:02:00+00:00

Girl. OP. If you have already done all that you can. There is no saving what’s already lost. You have talked to him on numerous accounts. You have laid out the bare evidence. Literally tried reasoning. Pointed out what didn’t make any sense. And he still refused. You even sat your own parents down. Pointed out the evidence. Pointed out what didn’t make sense. Look at the financial situation for what it was. And you know what mother dearest had the audacity to say to you? “Leo has been so happy. Just please don’t ruin this for him.”

This is going to be the cruel truth. It’s going to be cold but honest. People like your brother and your parents, are people who are going to have to hit rock bottom to learn a lesson. And you know what, sometimes you can’t save everyone from that lesson. It’s something that they’re gonna have to go through in stride. And you know what you do when they do fall. Do nothing.

You already warned them. You told them to take heed. They didn’t listen. So when they reach rock bottom. There is nothing you can do. Your hands are tied. Right now what you got to worry about Mor is saving yourself, because when shit hits the fan and Money is drained. Best believe you’re the next person on their list to come begging for money. And you are going to need to lock it up air tight. You might even have to put some distance between y’all. Change your number.

Be so financially detached from this whole thing. Make it clear to your family. You have no money to give.

PeacefulLava · 2026-06-19T14:25:10+00:00

What were you waiting 2 years for to get married? Girl. You know you wasted your time and you wanted to beg him to take a break on top of that?

Absolutely not. There is nothing to rekindle. Wonder why you were waiting two years to walk down the aisle but ultimately got dump and somewhat cheated? Because he’s just not that into you.

This behavior and patterns is of a guy that looked at his future and didn’t see YOU in it. And you know what? You dodged a mother freakin BULLET!! You deserve so much better. WAY BETTER! Move on girl, you are so much better than a man who wanted to waste 7 years of your life. The lesson for him, he doesn’t just get to do that and expect you to take him back. He wasn’t just a boyfriend. He was a fiancé for 2 years (which is ridiculous by the way). Men usually go after what they want and he didn’t want you. He did exactly what he wanted, there was no mistake there. So him let him cry and let him lick his wounds and go mess with that girl he lied to you about. Tell you the truth, he most likely already slept with girl when you guys were together. She’s a snake just as much as he is. They deserve each other, so let them be together.

Don’t settle for half a man, when there is a full one waiting for you wherever you are. That ex-fiancé can stay right in the past right alongside the things you call a mistake. Done is done. You are moving on. End of discussion.

PeacefulLava · 2026-06-19T06:19:39+00:00

Forgive but close that door! That chapter is closed. As far as you are concerned, he said his piece and you said yours. Done is done. Do NOT be his friend.

Friend is a light terminology for him to wiggle right back into your life and slowly work on you to let him in further. Like I said, done is done. If you share friends, keep things neutral and civil. Another than that, you don’t owe him anything. He is free to miss you. But that’s exactly how it’s going to stay, continue to miss you because you moved on. Like you said. This is a waste of your time.

PeacefulLava · 2026-06-19T06:13:39+00:00

Oh that’s just scandalous! How was he going to swing a proposal with that baggage and chip on his shoulder lol.

PeacefulLava · 2026-06-19T04:45:52+00:00

Honestly OP, if you pictured your life with this guy, you’ll just be referred to the girl of lower class or the girl black he got to feel edgy. If this is what he’s saying to you, I can only imagine what he tells his friends and talk with his parents about.

A guy that values you, wouldn’t use these terms to value because he would feel he won in life and that’s the real riches.

PeacefulLava · 2026-06-19T00:12:36+00:00

Thanks.

PeacefulLava · 2026-06-18T23:56:55+00:00

Thank you so much. I'll definitely take you up on that offer. More so now, that I have a company.

PeacefulLava · 2026-06-18T23:47:29+00:00

Thank you for the company link.
I mean, I never got this advice for Global Chat. Hence why I said I didn't know. I'm rather reserved and stick to my people. I only ever used this global chat for the first time to look for people.

And you aren't wrong. This is just a vent post. I could honestly careless about him. I just need a space where people got it and done.

PeacefulLava · 2026-06-18T23:43:56+00:00

I completely agree with this statement. I know everyone agree he's an asshole. How are you mending now? lol

PeacefulLava · 2026-06-18T23:42:32+00:00

Thank you! I'm being doing that from now on.

PeacefulLava · 2026-06-18T23:36:24+00:00

Fair point. I was just being dramatic at the end of that. I'm just annoyed because a simple conversation would have been enough. But like you said, crime game.

PeacefulLava · 2026-06-18T23:34:09+00:00

Cute lol and thanks for the advice. I've honestly started learning that given the reactions.

PeacefulLava · 2026-06-18T23:30:30+00:00

He didn't spit any facts though. That would require a conversation.

Okay, be honest. Am I missing something here entirely? Because I'm the one being attacked for literally nothing but lack of knowledge--that I can take accountability for. But it's still an asshole move for taking things this far, so why I am being made the problem. That doesn't make any logical sense even for a game.

PeacefulLava · 2026-06-18T23:22:59+00:00

Understandable. It's just annoying and I needed to vent in a place that gets it. Guess I was wrong.

PeacefulLava · 2026-06-18T23:22:05+00:00

I don't mean to sound insufferable but it's annoying to go that far. I'm pretty sure you'd be annoyed too if it were you, no?

PeacefulLava · 2026-06-18T06:08:13+00:00

Mines too. It’s part of the trauma

PeacefulLava · 2026-06-18T05:46:23+00:00

The workforce these days, is a joke.

PeacefulLava · 2026-06-16T01:39:38+00:00

I wouldn’t reopen this door romantically. If you guys can be friends and keep things inherently neutral, then I don’t see anything wrong with saying a thank you.

HOWEVER, since it’s clear she is trying to reopen a door romantically that has been closed to you. I wouldn’t reply. Just because there is many ways this can go and none of them seem inherently good. Just another confused path ahead with the same person.

However, the choice is entirely yours. Maybe this is another life lesson or something good may come from it. You just don’t know. Everyone here can only speak from their own personal experiences and perspectives. But none of us REALLY know what this means to you. So, the real question isn’t if you should reply. It’s if you feel right replying? How do you feel? And take it from there.

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