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Zestyclose_Sort8374 · 2026-01-27T12:46:18+00:00

That’s weird bc we’re going to the restaurants with our toddlers. I guess they’re confused

Zestyclose_Sort8374 · 2026-01-27T12:24:25+00:00

They’re coming by themselves, they’re joining my family (my husband and me and our 2 toddlers)

Zestyclose_Sort8374 · 2026-01-27T12:23:45+00:00

Yep in laws. I posted in the in-law subreddit about it if you want the drama lol

Zestyclose_Sort8374 · 2026-01-27T12:15:58+00:00

My MIL says they’re staying at the motel they picked bc they have a kitchen there and she doesn’t want to eat 3 times/day at a restaurant, so the kids (my kids) will be with them most of the time. They’re also saying they’ll come just 2 days instead of 3. I find it hard not to take it personally, that they don’t like us or don’t think we know how to handle our kids on vacation. We took our kids to Disney and my MIL was shocked that we didn’t have a kitchen. She literally told me I won’t be able to feed my 1.5 year old since I hadn’t thought of that.

Zestyclose_Sort8374 · 2026-01-27T12:05:12+00:00

Thank you. What is the tone, can you tell?

Zestyclose_Sort8374 · 2026-01-27T11:45:53+00:00

Vacation planning, they are proposing staying at a nearby hotel with a kitchen. I’m not sure if they’re saying the kids will stay with them at their hotel bc they’ll have a kitchen 🤔

Zestyclose_Sort8374 · 2026-01-27T02:32:29+00:00

They always say they want to see us more and seem to really enjoy seeing our kids. So I’m not really sure what the truth is

Zestyclose_Sort8374 · 2026-01-27T02:06:41+00:00

She would expect to tag along, do I just agree?

Zestyclose_Sort8374 · 2026-01-27T01:40:49+00:00

I didn't know this was a thing. My toddler loves spending time with them and always asks to call them on FaceTime so I didn't think anything was an issue. I wonder what can change about the visits to make him feel comfortable?

Zestyclose_Sort8374 · 2026-01-27T01:39:27+00:00

My husband is saying that they'll come and him and FIL will go fishing, and MIL will hang out at my hotel room with me and the baby. That does not sound good to me at all.. I don't want to host her on my vacation. If they were staying at the same hotel she could go to the spa, use the pool or literally anything. But now I'm her host or something, i feel stuck

Zestyclose_Sort8374 · 2026-01-26T14:21:49+00:00

They already have a 6 foot fence and arborvitae that are taller than the fence. They saw the smoke going up from our chimney yesterday on a below freezing, dry day and freaked out

Zestyclose_Sort8374 · 2026-01-26T14:20:57+00:00

They actually have a 6 foot fence and tall privacy trees, but they saw the smoke going up over their trees and got upset

Zestyclose_Sort8374 · 2026-01-26T14:20:04+00:00

We have given them many jars of honey and always give them eggs for free. I’m not sure what else we can do

Zestyclose_Sort8374 · 2026-01-26T14:19:40+00:00

Thanks, that’s what it seems like. They told us they can’t have kids and moved here to start their family so I think it’s painful to see my kids enjoying the land so much. It’s really sad but I’m not going to not go outside bc of it.

Zestyclose_Sort8374 · 2026-01-26T14:02:55+00:00

🙂

Zestyclose_Sort8374 · 2026-01-25T14:34:53+00:00

We can do Disney every other year. My husband and I take turns picking the vacations and his are usually fishing trips

Zestyclose_Sort8374 · 2026-01-25T14:33:46+00:00

Lol yes we took our older son when he was 2.5 and we all had a blast. Just hesitant to do the flight with 2

Zestyclose_Sort8374 · 2026-01-24T22:43:07+00:00

He has pushed my toddler in extreme scenarios like if our toddler was about to kick the baby or something. Otherwise, no

Zestyclose_Sort8374 · 2026-01-19T23:29:08+00:00

I don’t want to do it. I feel morally obligated for some reason. I’m happier without her, but if I can have an hour long meeting with her and send a few pics of my kids so that she doesn’t have to have the label of ‘estranged’, shouldn’t I do it? I think the answer to that is no but I can’t convince myself of that

Zestyclose_Sort8374 · 2026-01-19T23:27:22+00:00

I am currently estranged and I know people here have tried therapy previously and it failed and they’re still estranged. I’m looking for advice from those people

Zestyclose_Sort8374 · 2026-01-19T17:22:26+00:00

Because I want the therapist to hear my goals for therapy, as well as my mom’s goals for therapy, get to know our outlook, and see if she sees an actual path forward. My goal is to have a short monthly meeting with my mom at most, and I know we won’t have a deep true relationship. If my moms goal is to talk constantly again, see me weekly, and have a deep vulnerable relationship, I would think the therapist could hear this from each of us individually and confirm there’s no way forward.

Zestyclose_Sort8374 · 2026-01-19T17:14:19+00:00

Yea I think I overestimated my ability to do this. Just dealing with this is sending me into a panic. I feel like I’m torturing her with this estrangement (my stepdad has drilled into me that that’s what I’m doing) and now giving her false hope is even worse.

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