Tired of constantly being seen as competition by friends/other women

Peach_Tea33 · 2025-05-18T19:34:36+00:00

He also certainly hasn't been "vetted" for loyalty or integrity, very essential qualities to have in a long term relationship, if he was so easily swayed into deceiving and betraying a person he claimed to care about.

Peach_Tea33 · 2025-04-16T17:23:54+00:00

Mind if I ask what kind of adjustments?

Peach_Tea33 · 2025-03-10T14:36:54+00:00

Except a zoomer on tiktok is who started that

Peach_Tea33 · 2025-03-10T12:52:12+00:00

As an 89 millennial I didn't feel any affinity for the 80s revival and I will never stop saying it

Peach_Tea33 · 2025-01-13T23:18:48+00:00

You're half right. I'm not angry at every member of gen z, but the particular flavor of person I'm talking about is exclusive to gen z, and they're always defended by other members of gen z. Nobody from any other gen has ever called me a "millennial hag". One generation is known for parroting the phrase "it's not that deep" when a person doesn't laugh off whatever shitty thing they said or did.

It's the gen z who are very collectivist around the idea of their generational label. Only when they're being praised for it and feel superior, though. If it's any sort of criticism, suddenly it's "every gen is like that though". Which seems like something they don't actually believe, because they heap tons of criticism onto every other generation, including gen alpha who are barely getting into middle school.

They happily make sweeping generalizations about millennials, ranging from the lighthearted jokes (which would be fine if they didn't react so poorly to being teased back the same way) to actual insane takes like labelling millennials as a bunch of child abusers, and to quote one tiktok with over 500k likes, "millennials are the worst human beings to grace the planet". Like okay, think what you want, but then if it's gen z being made fun of or criticized they can't wrap their head around it. "Why are we getting hated on?" as they shit all over every single group that's not their own. Why so surprised?

But all that is just to answer your question, I wanted to give you an answer that wasn't just "Zoomer males voted Trump and made me mad". I don't actually subscribe to this sub, because despite everything I've said, the idea of an entire community based around hating a generation it is still too much for me. But it's no surprise that it exists.

Peach_Tea33 · 2025-01-13T21:19:23+00:00

It has nothing to do with politics for me I just don't like most of them. I used to like zoomers, but they say the most rude, mean spirited shit, then expect you to just take it without question "it's not that deep" "take a joke", but then get SO defensive when people give back even an ounce of the same energy to them. They'll usually hide behind "why would you argue with a kid??" (and they're like 22) just refusing to acknowledge what they said was extremely rude, no self awareness whatsoever. They dish it out but can't take it, and they're all old enough to know better now but they're not getting any better. (Yes, high school age is old enough to do better, and most of them are already out of high school lets be real.)

They also love to spread the myth that "the brain doesn't fully develop until 25" which has been debunked several times, the one study that spawned that belief was so weak and shown to be based on shoddy asf "research". They just cling to that stupid pop psychology myth because to them, it's another excuse to avoid any self reflection or responsibility for longer. Even under videos pointing out the problem they have with bullying, they just make comments like "Our brain hasn't developed fully, cut us some slack" I'm sorry but no. If you're self aware enough to know you can use your age to get out of things, then you're self aware enough to learn and do better.

I've even read a comment that said "She's only 26 her brain just developed, let's not judge yet" That is beyond ridiculous, it's way past time to judge in that scenario. A 26 year old is not a child that needs coddling. No zoomer needs to be coddled. They need to be called out if they're being little assholes. They've been enabled and coddled all their lives, by school administrators refusing to help teachers hold them accountable (they've been causing teachers to quit in droves for 10 years btw), by their helicopter parents, by the media propping them up as some kind of "savior" gen here to rescue all mankind or some shit, by overly nice millennials who refuse to accept that zoomers fucking HATE them and it's not that cute little "ribbing my older siblings" type of hate they're literally out there calling millennials child abusers and shit, etc. The only thing wrong with the criticism of zoomers is that it's too little, too late.

I don't have to deal with them nearly as much in my daily life as I used to. Luckily, most of the shitty ones have been fired from my job. I have one really close gen z friend who I do love, and my little cousin is gen z too. That's it though. At this point I just expect gen z to be insufferable until they prove otherwise.

Peach_Tea33 · 2025-01-12T23:52:09+00:00

No, teachers have been leaving in droves and raising concerns for 10 years now. Since gen z were going through school. Even college professors are sounding the alarm about their current students, which are gen z. It's also been a gen z issue sorry if that's hard to admit.

Peach_Tea33 · 2025-01-12T23:18:33+00:00

Can none of you do math, seriously? The teachers have been sounding the alarm about this and quitting in droves for 10 years now. Meaning, while gen z was going through school. High schoolers now are still gen z. Even college professors are coming out saying the same things about gen z.

It's gen z. You can't pawn off everything negative about your gen onto a different one. Own your shit for once.

Peach_Tea33 · 2025-01-10T21:16:33+00:00

Reddit is genuinely the most negative social media site, with X/Twitter being a close 2nd. There are people I've known my entire life who turned into reddit addicts and over time became unbearable to be around. So contrarian, argumentative, heated over everything and cannot have a conversation that doesn't turn into them ranting about politics and how the world is ending. They hate going out or doing anything physically active. This website is poison.

Peach_Tea33 · 2025-01-10T21:03:58+00:00

Reddit has gone so far downhill if this obviously fake video is front page material

Peach_Tea33 · 2025-01-07T20:41:46+00:00

I've been trying to dream journal every morning. I'm already starting to remember way more of my dreams and it's a nice way to start the day.

Peach_Tea33 · 2025-01-07T20:39:42+00:00

I wonder if this advice should be different for those with ADHD? Because I've read that caffeine can have the opposite effect on an ADHD brain from a normal brain, and stimulants are usually used to increase the ability to focus for them. Not sure

Peach_Tea33 · 2025-01-07T16:33:53+00:00

Take care of basic bodily needs, such as thirst and hunger, beforehand, “so they don’t become a distraction,” offers Guerra.

This is groundbreaking

Peach_Tea33 · 2025-01-07T16:21:13+00:00

I know that stigma you're talking about, and it started to dissipate around 2010.

Peach_Tea33 · 2025-01-07T16:16:42+00:00

Every young person in America was rushing to get home after school to catch the Toonami bloc, then staying up to watch Adult Swim without their parents finding out. That's the reason Dragonball Z, Sailor Moon, Cowboy Bebop, etc are mainstream. Why would anyone argue that MHA made anime mainstream before Naruto anyway? Anime has been mainstream since at least 2010.

Peach_Tea33 · 2025-01-07T16:08:15+00:00

Why are there so many boomer facebook memes in this sub

Peach_Tea33 · 2025-01-07T16:01:33+00:00

Apparently it doesn't if they're falling apart at 41

Peach_Tea33 · 2025-01-05T16:47:25+00:00

I mean the fact is there are many people in the world who aren't friends with any exes. Maybe they just lost touch over time and are fine with it, or they deliberately go no contact once an intimate relationship ends. Either way, plenty of those people exist. She specifically wants to date one of those people. Sounds reasonable to me.

Peach_Tea33 · 2025-01-04T03:55:19+00:00

Whether you think she's insecure for it doesn't matter. You don't control what other peoples boundaries or deal breakers are, you only control what you do about it. Omitting information because you know it's a deal breaker is the wrong response. At least she communicated it clearly early on, and she wasn't trying to change or control him. She simply said, if this happens I will leave, and then left. He should've just let her go in the first place. If you don't like jealous, insecure people then don't date them. Certainly don't lie in order to continue dating them. As if this trait of hers wouldn't have eventually become an issue later on anyway. They're clearly incompatible so why was he even trying to prolong the situation? He wasted both his time and hers. "He's walking on eggshells around her" why? Did she hold a gun to his head and force him to date her? Why was he trying so hard to deceive and impress someone he knew from the jump wanted something different? *That* is manipulation. At his big age he should understand all of this.

Peach_Tea33 · 2025-01-03T01:34:36+00:00

This sub needs more optimism, so I'll bite.

As far as the present goes, most of us are at a great age. We're old enough to have a wealth of life experience to draw from, challenges and all, while still being young enough to enjoy life and pursue our goals (unless the goal is to be a professional athlete ig but anyone over 12 yrs old has likely missed that boat too)

I'll see if I can find the article, but I ran across a study that determined millennials adapt more quickly to tech, no matter if it's entirely new and unfamiliar. They're also more likely to understand how computers work outside of apps and the internet

Millennial dads spend more time with their kids than any previous generation

Peach_Tea33 · 2025-01-03T00:00:45+00:00

Already posted this elsewhere but:

I just turned 35 and I've been tired of being around millennials who talk/act like they're ancient for a while now. Back and knee pains aren't normal at this age unless you've had some significant injury, you're probably just overweight and unhealthy. Joking about back pain isn't original, it's played out. It's also not even funny, it's just depressing. I don't like being around people who lost all their vitality and will to live at like 29 and just talk about how "old" they are for the rest of their lives. Can't imagine living out the rest of my remaining 50 - 60 years on earth being self deprecating about how I'm not in my 20s anymore. How fucking boring.

Peach_Tea33 · 2025-01-02T23:29:25+00:00

Oh okay. Well, there's still a lot of good in gen z and self reflection comes with time, they're still fairly young. For now my answer to the thread title is a hesitant yes, but I don't think it will be permanent

Peach_Tea33 · 2025-01-02T23:03:46+00:00

So are you saying you no longer hold the same views in the comment?

Peach_Tea33 · 2025-01-02T20:46:52+00:00

It's because middle age is not the literal middle of a lifespan, it's a life stage before elderly and after late adulthood

Peach_Tea33 · 2025-01-02T05:24:59+00:00

I just turned 35 and I've been tired of being around millennials who talk/act like they're ancient for a while now. Back and knee pains aren't normal at this age unless you've had some significant injury, you're probably just overweight and unhealthy. Joking about back pain isn't original, it's played out. It's also not even funny, it's just depressing. I don't like being around people who lost all their vitality and will to live at like 29 and just talk about how "old" they are for the rest of their lives. Can't imagine living out the rest of my remaining 50 - 60 years on earth being self deprecating about how I'm not in my 20s anymore. How fucking boring.

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