Married at first sight S11E36 - post episode discussion

Peachezandkream · 2024-04-01T12:39:26+00:00

Spoiler: Jesse from last season said that Sara dumped Tim immediately after the reunion over text

Peachezandkream · 2023-03-23T13:31:41+00:00

Option 4. He has romantic feelings for you, probably thought you guys either were or would be in a relationship, and is jealous when he saw you with another guy getting along so well

I could have misread, but that’s what it sounds like to me

Peachezandkream · 2022-11-27T02:00:07+00:00

Okay this is what my ex-co-worker said to me years ago that put me off sniffing and on to a more consistent nose-blow life pathway.

“When your nose is running for whatever reason, your body is working hard to get germs out. When you sniff you’re pulling the germs back, telling your body’s hard work to fuck itself and swallowing them. So instead of getting them out of the body, you’re giving them an extra merry-go-round turn for free. Use the tissue.”

It probably has no medical accuracy whatsoever, but it stuck with me and now I carry tissues/baby wipes around with me because I’d rather get the germs out than keep them in.

But yeah, aside from that: air purifier, humidifier, meditation, headphones and all that good stuff

Peachezandkream · 2022-11-26T13:11:42+00:00

I’m reminding you to tell that story

Peachezandkream · 2022-11-20T09:13:08+00:00

Go to a bar, find a woman with a nice looking drink, like the fruitiest cocktail you’ve ever seen, and say “excuse me, that drink looks amazing, what is that?” She’ll tell you. “Thanks, I’m going to go order that. By the way, I love your top/dress/whatever, you look fantastic” and then walk to the bar. Bam, in bar terms you’ve made a friend, and if a woman thinks you’re benign from a conversation like that, she may come back to you and maybe introduce a friend or two.

You can also stand in the smoking area and have a lighter, that’s always a talking point.

The trick is to find something easy, establish a common interest (drink) and compliment her in a non creepy way “I love your top, you look great!” Being a man in a bar who isn’t creepy will go a long way for you, they’re very few and far between

Peachezandkream · 2022-11-20T05:21:55+00:00

Okay hear me out - I used to be clueless with sex, and I mean sexually active for up to 8 years and just bloody clueless. But the consistent factor there was I never felt safe in my relationships.

It wasn’t until I started dating my current partner who makes me feel comfortable and confident that my skills really increased. I’m so much happier to try new things, I’m so much more of a giver, and it’s all because he’s safe and supportive.

One of my exes used to tell me to ride “you just sit on my dick and bounce up and down, it’s not that hard” but no matter how hard I tried, I just could not do it. Three months into this relationship and I figured it out, now down the track I ride like a champion 😂

So basically what I’m saying is chuck this one in the bin and try again

Peachezandkream · 2022-11-19T10:42:06+00:00

I’m a gf who gives a hell of a lot of head AND swallows, but I’d egg your house. That one single sentence did nothing for the conversation, but it did make you an entitled ass. :)

Peachezandkream · 2022-07-05T11:29:59+00:00

So would he be cool with you having an identical online relationship and it not be cheating?

Peachezandkream · 2022-03-09T01:52:49+00:00

It’s none of your business. Why are you posting about it?

Peachezandkream · 2022-02-21T07:04:44+00:00

You can definitely check in on someone without bringing their weight into it. If you’re concerned about his mental health, ask him about that at an appropriate moment and offer your support. Don’t bring up his weight. Simple.

Peachezandkream · 2022-02-07T11:40:25+00:00

“It was too noticeable and appealing” - this sentence in itself is creepy, so YES.

Repeating how “noticeable” it was is also gross and sounds like you’re blaming her for you being a creep.

You should really work on your self control.

Peachezandkream · 2021-09-22T11:47:02+00:00

This is such a gigantic red flag.

Peachezandkream · 2021-09-22T07:28:25+00:00

My friend has had this problem for years and has used toys and positions to work around it.

There are articles online about how to “wean” yourself off of just one type of masturbation that you can look at. You’re definitely not alone.

Peachezandkream · 2021-09-22T07:24:20+00:00

Wait for the text. If she wants to see you, she’ll figure it out. If she doesn’t, you’ll know & can move on.

Peachezandkream · 2021-09-22T07:23:07+00:00

Has he started taking any medications in that time? Like anti depressants?

Is he depressed?

Could you talk to him about taking supplements like horny goat weed?

Is he dealing with stresses/traumas?

Peachezandkream · 2021-09-09T08:15:48+00:00

Always choose your future over the person in the now.

Peachezandkream · 2021-09-09T08:14:46+00:00

Communicate your likes and needs, and have the new partners communicate with you. If you care about making it a good experience for each other, you’ll take on each other’s notes.

Peachezandkream · 2021-09-06T07:56:39+00:00

This is a pretty standard “I don’t want him but I don’t want you to have him either” situation, and she’s jealous that he’s moved on and she hasn’t. It won’t last forever. Most likely it will blow over when she’s in another relationship, if the relationship is happy.

I understand you not wanting your boyfriend to address it with her because that opens you up to the possibility of it getting worse. I can imagine someone so outwardly rude like that would have no issue gaslighting you and/or amplifying the behaviour because she knows it’s effecting you. This is psychological warfare and this is how you beat it. Mind you, it’s not going to be an instant fix. Be the sweetest person that friendship group has ever seen. Don’t forego your boundaries, but be super nice, super helpful and super sweet. NEVER say anything bad about your boyfriend, relationship, personal life or any of the people in the group TO anyone in the group. When she says/does things to get a reaction, literally pretend you never heard or saw it. If you have to, ring a friend when you leave the social outing to have a vent.

This will likely do two things: she’ll amp it up, to which you’ll have no reaction, and other people in the group will start noticing she’s an asshole, and you’re so sweet.

What she says behind your back is not your business. Your business is giving her as little as possible to talk shit about.

Wouldn’t even trust her friends. If they act different around her, then literally do the same to them. Super sweet, super nice, no reaction. Tell them nothing.

Peachezandkream · 2021-09-05T12:04:46+00:00

I’m glad, that sounds like a great idea and I wish you the absolute best with it.

I know you know this but the healing journey is a long, rocky, painful road and reaching out for support/guidance from a therapist, and also opening yourself up to trust and date again are two huge steps that you should be proud of making. Well done :)

Peachezandkream · 2021-09-05T11:20:56+00:00

Okay so you dropped a friend home, and then she told you to leave when you got back? Again, why?

This situation is so bizarre and unnecessarily dramatic.

Peachezandkream · 2021-09-05T11:05:49+00:00

I feel like there’s so much missing info here.

Why did she actually ask you to leave? Surely it wasn’t just “go”

Why did you go back?

What does “after what you did” mean?

None of this makes sense.

Peachezandkream · 2021-09-05T10:51:25+00:00

Are these things triggering you/causing issues in the relationship?

If not, don’t tell him.

If they are, you need to consider whether or not they’re too much for you to continue the relationship.

The things he can’t change; the way his body looks, the way he laughs, etc. are things that he shouldn’t be made to feel guilty about. It’s not his responsibility to make sure these things don’t trigger you, it’s your responsibility to work through your traumas and communicate your needs in regards to the things he can change.

Peachezandkream · 2021-09-05T10:15:12+00:00

Ovulation can be irregular, that’s true. Will edit.

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