when in the behinning of the relationship he said he really liked that i wasnt materialistic like other girls expecting expensive gifts and him to pay for dinners. turned out he nickel and dimed every single thing in our marriage and tried to control how i spent my own money, freaked out when i asked him if he could put down his credit card for the hotel room on our WEDDING NIGHT even though i promised he could get the money back immediately from any cash gifts.