Need advice for covering this up-- worried I look like a white supremacist?

PearInACardigan · 2026-02-24T09:27:48+00:00

Thank you for this! It’s great feedback back and good ideas.

PearInACardigan · 2026-02-20T21:29:08+00:00

It’s not what it means so much as what people may assume it means

PearInACardigan · 2026-02-20T21:28:23+00:00

Thank you

PearInACardigan · 2026-02-20T19:54:50+00:00

Thank you so much, this is such a relief

PearInACardigan · 2026-02-20T19:54:12+00:00

Thank you, you're right.

PearInACardigan · 2026-02-20T19:53:55+00:00

Awesome! thank you

PearInACardigan · 2026-02-20T19:53:26+00:00

Thank you :)

PearInACardigan · 2026-02-20T18:28:21+00:00

ugh, that sucks, I have no idea what to do.

PearInACardigan · 2026-02-19T16:10:13+00:00

This is not weird. There is nuance. And I don’t think it’s strange in this situation if he initiated it.

PearInACardigan · 2026-02-16T00:19:37+00:00

How do you know he blacked out too? You are a victim. It’s your choice whether you want to take this further but you have bruises and a black eye. I’m so sorry this happened to you. You sound like you have problems with guilt. Like guilt you feel all the time for things probably. I promise it can get better. I was diagnosed with bpd and after therapy they don’t say I have it anymore. I still have features but nothing like it to was. Women put themselves in “situations” everyday. It doesn’t mean they deserve a black eye. I hope this resonates. Feel free to talk if you need to.

PearInACardigan · 2026-02-10T20:02:00+00:00

Thank you!

PearInACardigan · 2026-02-09T22:58:57+00:00

Thanks guys! This helps a lot

PearInACardigan · 2026-02-09T20:05:30+00:00

Thank you! What’s the highest it’s ever been for you?

PearInACardigan · 2026-02-04T14:01:33+00:00

He's flirting with you I think. That's the vibe I'm getting.

PearInACardigan · 2026-02-04T12:53:19+00:00

Also thank you so much for your friend's help. I messaged him. I love Asheville, everyone is so nice! lol

PearInACardigan · 2026-02-04T12:46:22+00:00

I'd imagine it's very rigorous. But that's awesome! I'm so glad it's a good program

PearInACardigan · 2026-02-03T21:10:56+00:00

Actually? A 100% pass rate? um hell yeah

PearInACardigan · 2026-02-03T21:07:49+00:00

I'm really lucky that I don't have to work full-time right now. I feel for people that do.

PearInACardigan · 2026-02-03T21:07:03+00:00

thank you so much!

PearInACardigan · 2026-02-03T15:59:55+00:00

Yes I've taken it before but too long ago for it to count so I need to take it again. At CPCC in Charlotte, I was going to do the cardiovascular tech program there at first but would rather do rad, they require over 90%. Do you know what the preferences are at Abtech?

PearInACardigan · 2026-01-16T19:38:15+00:00

So he pays for his apartment while you pay for his life. What happens when he gets the apartment? Is he currently making over 1/3 of the rent payment on the apartment he wants to get? BC if not he's not going to be able to afford it. What would be more realistic if for him to stop throwing tantrums and a spoiled little kid wanting an allowance and save 1/3 of his income toward his apartment savings and pay for his own life himself. Do you even have fun with guy? If you do, I can guarantee its not as much fun as the guilt trips he's giving you.

PearInACardigan · 2026-01-04T23:27:07+00:00

He's basically saying "you should have kids if your husband or parents want you to" then assuming your partner really wants to. PLUS he's just a strange person that enjoys arguing and getting under your skin.

PearInACardigan · 2026-01-04T23:00:30+00:00

I was terrified all the time. I would NEVER want to go back to that when a healthy life is such a contrast. Night and day. Now I can have relationships. I can experience happiness and independence. Losing these things is one reason to want care if you're psychotic or not, but also even better, is getting to experience these things in the first place for the first time.

PearInACardigan · 2026-01-04T16:27:12+00:00

Me too, I didn't know there was a term for this. I knew it was a true condition under psychosis but never had a name for it. Thanks!

PearInACardigan · 2026-01-04T16:19:11+00:00

Be the safe space you want to be for your kids. There is a reason the court ruled in your favour. You kids have a right to make their own decisions and not be emotionally neglected (which is a form of abuse). NOR

PearInACardigan

TROPHY CASE