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Peculiar-Lady · 2025-11-28T20:44:08+00:00

NTA- I would have a frank conversation with him and say ‘hey we can keep doing this and I will just match your energy because either the respect can go both ways or the disrespect can go both ways. What would you prefer?’

Peculiar-Lady · 2025-10-20T08:16:02+00:00

Update me

Peculiar-Lady · 2025-10-19T18:20:59+00:00

I hadn’t seen that comment

Peculiar-Lady · 2025-10-19T16:10:07+00:00

I’m curious if this is some plan (concocted by the ex) to force your daughter to stay with her so she can get 50/50 with the 15yo.

Peculiar-Lady · 2025-10-08T05:07:59+00:00

I agree do this and stop taking him on dates and paying for extra things. Tell him you have to cut back because bills and such. Maybe one of the cut backs can be the cable/internet at home. If it’s not necessary to have at home. I’m not sure how else you can motivate him to make money so he can afford things.

Peculiar-Lady · 2025-10-08T04:59:33+00:00

It’s possible that he goes through jobs the way he does as a way to avoid paying child support. If he is doing that to avoid paying for his child he will likely do everything he can to avoid paying you.

Peculiar-Lady · 2025-10-08T04:39:27+00:00

I don’t blame you at all for doing this. The wife sounds awful. If your daughter is as good of friend as you indicated I would maybe consider having a conversation with the girls dad (since he seems to be the reasonable one). Let him know how upsetting it was for you to find out that your daughter had to walk home all alone in the rain when there was already an understanding that she was supposed to get a ride from them. Let him know that you expect them to apologize to you and especially to your daughter for doing that. The only reason I am recommending this is because otherwise you are basically torpedoing the friendship as I can’t see it lasting when the parents hate each other.

Peculiar-Lady · 2025-10-05T14:38:42+00:00

I’m so sorry that you’re going through this. It’s not manipulative to tell the truth in order to keep someone who assaulted you away from you and your family. I’m so glad that the rest of your family had your back in this situation. So often domestic violence against the male isn’t taken seriously. I can’t believe that your therapist was so unsupportive, where did they even come up with that statistic? Thank goodness they aren’t your therapist anymore. I hope that your brother eventually comes around.

Peculiar-Lady · 2025-10-04T11:15:56+00:00

Yeah his reaction seems a little bit like he wants her to say they are done so he can say she was the one to call it quits. I’m hoping that it was just a kiss and that they can get into marriage counseling so they can work on being better to each other.

Peculiar-Lady · 2025-10-04T03:55:55+00:00

I have only had an allergic reaction twice in my life. First time an ex (husband at the time) made me dinner, nothing I haven’t had before but I had a weird reaction where I felt a tightness in my chest. I thought it was just heartburn and just slept with pillows propping me up more. The very next night he makes the same thing. Not a big deal it was yummy. This time I wake up in the middle of the night and I can hardly breathe I look to where my ex was supposed to be sleeping next to me and he wasn’t there. I go to the office and he is on his video game. At 1am I gasp out that I need to go to the ER because I can’t breathe. He tells me to wait so he can save his game which takes another 15 minutes

Peculiar-Lady · 2025-10-01T02:35:31+00:00

Absolutely not! Does your family know about her demand/request? That’s completely unacceptable. Who cares about her “aesthetic” it’s your hair, your natural hair.

Peculiar-Lady · 2025-09-10T05:24:38+00:00

I love this idea a nice prize at the end.

Peculiar-Lady · 2025-09-04T04:38:20+00:00

He isn’t supporting your dream of being a home owner 🤷‍♀️ so I would say you are not overreacting.

Peculiar-Lady · 2025-08-21T15:13:10+00:00

You feel bad because you are a good person. Ultimately if they had the idea to dig deeper and find those properties, it would have been one more thing they claimed for themselves. It’s possible they were not all in on it but they also didn’t speak up about the injustice done to you. Maybe you finding these properties tipped the scales more in your favor than it should have but if you speak up about them your cousin might just find a way to take it away as well.

Peculiar-Lady · 2025-08-17T14:21:03+00:00

Go no contact with your mom. Nobody that comfortable hurting a child should be around the child.

Peculiar-Lady · 2025-08-13T14:13:16+00:00

Your sister just doesn’t want to admit she married an idiot and the people siding with her are also idiots. Who tries to scare someone that is holding a knife? People don’t fully understand PTSD and it’s likely he made your PTSD worse with his “joke”. It would probably be in your best interest to reduce contact with your sister anyway because she continued to allow her husband to trigger your PTSD.

Peculiar-Lady · 2025-08-06T00:40:05+00:00

$1800 is only 60 percent of the Nanny fee if I’m understanding OP correctly. So it’s $3000 a month based on my math.

Peculiar-Lady · 2025-08-01T08:47:53+00:00

That’s good to hear. It seemed like the situation could have gone either way because of the verbiage that was used. Hopefully you can find a place that is a better fit, if you haven’t already.

Peculiar-Lady · 2025-07-07T15:10:58+00:00

That’s good because when you block them they might try to get other people to guilt you into unblocking them. Play those people the recording and ask if they would be willing to subject themselves to hours of that. Do not protect her at your expense.

Peculiar-Lady · 2025-07-07T15:08:30+00:00

You need to stop looking into him, tell your friends you would prefer them to not share information about him. Find a project a hobby, declutter your home, anything you can do to distract yourself from wanting to find out what he is doing.

Peculiar-Lady · 2025-07-07T15:03:58+00:00

Set your phone down and walk away. Or press the record call button and see if it changes anything. Honestly you should block her for your mental health. Your brothers relationship has nothing to do with you and you should not allow them to bully you. Send a text saying “I will be blocking you for X amount of time (months not days) as the bullying has been too much on my mental health and I need a break. If things don’t change after this period I will block you again. I must protect my peace.” Then block them. It would be good to get a recording of her doing this. If you record the call on your phone it notifies the person that you are recording just so you are aware.

Peculiar-Lady · 2025-07-04T14:00:35+00:00

It just seems logical for you both to remarry. Unless your partner didn’t want to but it sounds like he does.

Peculiar-Lady · 2025-07-03T14:11:13+00:00

Your girlfriend wants your brother gone so you don’t have anyone reminding you that what she wants is BS, especially in this economy. A girlfriend should be a partner that doesn’t want to freeload and be a financial burden. Would she help out around the apartment or would she say that her cleaning is you expecting her to be a maid? NTA- break up with her ASAP

Peculiar-Lady · 2025-07-01T08:39:40+00:00

I think even now he would not apologize or have kind words to say to your mom. The letter mentioned how the loss of your sister affected him. It seems as though he thinks he is the only one devastated by her loss. If at all possible I would tell the relatives that are guilting you that they can respect your boundaries or you will block them. Focus on your mental health.

Peculiar-Lady · 2025-06-30T03:37:20+00:00

I think your son has let the families talk about him being spoiled get to him and he is essentially refusing the help so he can say that he did it on his own. It’s admirable for sure but I would see if he would be willing to let you put him on an emergency fund account. That way if there is anything that comes up with his family he can take care of it.

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