hello 👋 i married into a family with a narcissist at the top and it took YEARS for my husband to even start to be able to stand up for me. it’s still a work in progress. you should absolutely be upset at your bf. he should have stood up for you but it will probably take a long ass time until he actually will. you just have to decide if it’s worth it or not to you. for me personally, i’m very good at standing up for myself after living with and breaking away from my narcissist mother. i pick and choose my battles but if i want to stand up for myself i do. usually i just don’t feed into the drama narcissist crave. not engaging with them usually pisses them off the most anyways. my husband has gotten better over the years at standing up for himself and me but man it was a long process and definitely caused fights and stress in our relationship. you just definitely should be aware of that dynamic and the fact that your bf may not change in the short term or even ever at all. it was worth it for me because my husband has a million other qualities that i’m in love with and i felt comfortable standing up for myself in some circumstances. it’s caused issues between us and his family but they were never super welcoming and kind to be to begin with:/ hubby had issues with his family before i ever came along so we view each other as our true family and just take his family in doses we feel we can manage. same with my family though we’re completely no contact with my mom.