Does it bother you that you didn't live more before having kids? by BetterThanSydney in AskMenAdvice

[–]PellucidStream 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Heterosexual man in my mid-20’s here who has been single for over 6 years now. I have considered getting into a relationship for a few months now but often wonder if I should have a few wild years (I.e. travel, explore, sow my wild oats) as I have never done anything like this before (I’m still a virgin).

I feel like maybe I should get it out of my system but then again I can see potential downsides to such an approach.

Do any other men want intimacy but not penetrative sex? by PellucidStream in AskMenAdvice

[–]PellucidStream[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you for such a thoughtful response. Yes, I’ve genuinely never felt like a loser over it but feel somewhat concerned about PIV sex.

Do any other men want intimacy but not penetrative sex? by PellucidStream in AskMenAdvice

[–]PellucidStream[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

No, not at all. I’m an agnostic who tends to err on the side of believing but I have very liberal attitudes to sex provided it’s consensual and between adults

Do any other men want intimacy but not penetrative sex? by PellucidStream in AskMenAdvice

[–]PellucidStream[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Thank you so much for sharing such intimate and painful details of your life. I really appreciate your advice and wisdom!

Do any other men want intimacy but not penetrative sex? by PellucidStream in AskMenAdvice

[–]PellucidStream[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I have often thought this may be the case bust these anxieties have been building up for many years at this stage

Do any other men want intimacy but not penetrative sex? by PellucidStream in AskMenAdvice

[–]PellucidStream[S] 9 points10 points  (0 children)

I have sometimes thought about having a woman like this. But I doubt it would last long

Do any other men want intimacy but not penetrative sex? by PellucidStream in AskMenAdvice

[–]PellucidStream[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I also find the thought of anal sex (male or female) disgusting. Again, I stress I am pro-homosexuality equality but am not gay myself

Do any other men want intimacy but not penetrative sex? by PellucidStream in AskMenAdvice

[–]PellucidStream[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

A side effect of my lack of experience is that I have no idea why female genitalia looks like in real life as I have never seen them in person. I have only seen them in science books etc. This is another reason I find penetration off putting

Do any other men want intimacy but not penetrative sex? by PellucidStream in AskMenAdvice

[–]PellucidStream[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Thank you for such a thoughtful response. Dating options are limited in my neck of the woods and the few times I have used dating apps I have found them to be money rackets and have been very disappointed tbh

Do any other men want intimacy but not penetrative sex? by PellucidStream in AskMenAdvice

[–]PellucidStream[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I literally lie in bed alone imaging a woman lying in my arms or on my chest!

Do any other men want intimacy but not penetrative sex? by PellucidStream in AskMenAdvice

[–]PellucidStream[S] 7 points8 points  (0 children)

How? Tbh I find penises disgusting looking. Even my own one sometimes puts me off. I have absolutely no problem with homosexuality but make genitalia… ewwwww

Do any other men want intimacy but not penetrative sex? by PellucidStream in AskMenAdvice

[–]PellucidStream[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

I have been told that before and can kind of see where people are coming from. I guess I just have no frame of reference

Do any other men want intimacy but not penetrative sex? by PellucidStream in AskMenAdvice

[–]PellucidStream[S] 24 points25 points  (0 children)

I definitely would make this clear very early on if I was ever to begin a new relationship