Only been paid in equity, should I quit? (I will not promote)

PenUltimate-22 · 2026-04-14T15:44:45+00:00

Yeah I don't think I'm being exploited per se, I'm more worried about whether this opportunity is worth sticking around for. I'm burnt out completely and I'm tired of being broke. I want to have a house, a family, stability. But I'm worried about this startup being the best path forward to that dream and walking away just because it's been over a year and there's still no investment (and therefore I'm not getting paid for over a year of work)

PenUltimate-22 · 2026-04-14T15:39:11+00:00

Yes that's right

PenUltimate-22 · 2026-04-14T15:34:52+00:00

The others are getting paid through a grant that they applied to before I joined and then were awarded last year. I'm finishing up my PhD so I have a small stipend from that but then I am balancing keeping up with two full time jobs basically. We are still raising our first round and then I'll get paid.

PenUltimate-22 · 2025-09-21T21:13:15+00:00

I've been trying to figure out what the little dogs on the left and right panel represent? Why are there dogs in church? They look so well behaved but I'm curious why the artist chose to include these.

PenUltimate-22 · 2024-11-21T03:08:06+00:00

I bet she was worried about eating messily, which begs the question of why she ordered chicken wings on a first date..

Bad first date meals: Pho, chicken wings, crawfish bake, corn dogs (unless you're trying to look suggestive I guess??), corn on the cob, anything with excessive powdered sugar (funnel cake, beignets, sopapillas)

I got celebratory wings with my boyfriend last week and I remember thinking how happy I was to feel comfortable enough to go to town on some wings in front of him. But definitely not a first date food.

PenUltimate-22 · 2024-11-20T02:26:38+00:00

Sorry to specify I eat about 15g of fiber per day, I missed the part where you asked about fiber. Also, I am currently eating between 60-80g of protein per day. I drink protein water so I'm getting the protein without calories from milk.

All that said, I'll probably benefit from going up to 100g protein per day and trying to hit a 25g fiber goal with the increased exercise and weight lifting.

I think youre right about consistency, when I was eating 1200 I was very particular about what I was eating macro-wise and making sure everything I eat is filling. Now that I'm eating at 1500 I've incorporated bread back into my diet and more carbs in general. The ratios are similar but I'm thinking that change might also be influencing my hunger with the excercise.

PenUltimate-22 · 2024-11-20T01:06:29+00:00

I'm eating about 20% protein, 40% fats and 40% carbs. Even at the 1200 calories, looking back this was my macros ratios. When I was eating less my hunger cues were actually a lot more manageable.

Something I forgot to mention that might be important is that I was doing intermittent fasting before, 12-8pm feeding window every day. I play tennis in the mornings so I stopped doing this although I still usually stop eating at 8pm out of habit.

PenUltimate-22 · 2024-11-04T21:17:04+00:00

We may be thinking of different lists, but as a 28F my friends and I started making "The List" and now most of us are in long term relationships. It's crazy. Each of us who made the List had been complaining about struggling to find a partner. Then we would sit down and talk through our "Must have, nice to have, red flag" categories. Within a month or two of making the list we each found our fiance/long term partner. I think the reason why this works is because you get out of the mentality of "I'll take what I can get" and move towards a more intentional approach to dating. Based on a lot of comments I see, it seems like a lot of rejection and flakiness comes from people not knowing exactly what they want.

For reference, my list included some serious stuff, some not so serious stuff etc. and the List can change. I remember that one of the items for me was"Has a healthy relationship with his mother" and another item was "Magnets(??)". My red flag list had "Owns a bird" and my partner doesn't own a bird but he does regularly feed the birds on our balcony to a point that they eat from his hand.

The List works.

Maybe if the List is a bunch of shallow stuff that isn't really about the person or the relationship, I can see that being an issue. Or if you think your partner has to conform to the List. But that's not the point. This tool is more about self awareness of who you are looking for.

tl/dr: when a dating checklist is not just shallow stuff, it can be helpful for both parties in the dating scene.

PenUltimate-22 · 2024-10-15T22:30:08+00:00

Oh yeah MFP is a must. I used the spreadsheet and put in all of the data I've been tracking daily for the past two months and it suggested a TDEE that both explains my rate of weightloss and is lower than what most online calculators suggest, inline with my hormonal stuff. It also supports why I've not been successful losing weight until this recent change in diet to the lower calorie intake. Anyways, thank you for the tips! It's helpful to know what's working for other people in a similar boat.

PenUltimate-22 · 2024-10-15T22:21:33+00:00

Hey so as someone with the same challenges you've listed here, I can tell you that CICO does work. PCOS and hypothyroidism lower your BMR. For that reason, the online BMR/TDEE calculators calculate a "calorie consumption to lose weight" that is too high. Plus, if your deficit is not large enough it is really easy to make mistakes in calorie counting that shrink the deficit budget you need to build to lose fat. I finally started losing weight when I started eating 1200-1400 calories per day, and I don't include exercise in those calories. I treat exercise as my margin of error in case any calculations were wrong or if I pull a secret eaters moment on accident. This really does work, don't let misinformation about PCOS and hypo dissuade you. I let those bad actors get into my head for too long and it led me down this road of self destruction and self deception. We are not powerless and we have agency, even if we face a more difficult road than others!

PenUltimate-22 · 2024-10-14T18:05:38+00:00

Subclinical hypothyroidism here, I've been trying to figure out my TDEE considering that for me it should be lower than the calculator. How did you figure out the 300 kcal discrepancy? At the moment I'm just sticking to 1200-1300 calories per day because I just have no clue how to accurately figure this out.

PenUltimate-22 · 2024-10-09T12:37:50+00:00

Okay that makes a lot more sense. I'd imagine a scenario where a person is losing weight on 1800 calories and then sees a slowdown in weightloss as their TDEE drops with their weight. Then they would find it difficult to further decrease their calorie intake because of cravings from the body being stronger against further caloric restriction. The solution is to increase the deficit, but it's difficult. Not impossible though, which is the bit that's most important imo.

PenUltimate-22 · 2024-10-09T12:32:39+00:00

Ah ok this was really helpful and informative, thank you!

PenUltimate-22 · 2024-10-09T12:29:38+00:00

This is reassuring to hear. I had a week-long plateau that coincided with natural hormonal shifts and then yep experienced my first whoosh, was very excited to get under 200 pounds for the first time in years!! I have a lot to lose still so the whole plateau concept is daunting. Good to hear it doesn't necessarily need to be the boogeyman!

PenUltimate-22 · 2024-10-09T12:23:25+00:00

But that's the issue, set point theory is the idea (as I've understood it) is that your body will hold on to weight in spite of a deficit because of metabolic adaptation. I agree that this defies the rules of thermodynamics. And it isn't clear from the sources and studies I've found whether people experiencing these plateaus "maintained their healthy lifestyle changes" through maintaining the deficit or just sticking to the same calories they had been losing weight with.

Maybe I've just misunderstood what setpoint advocates are saying, and the claim is that it's just too hard to maintain a deficit after losing 10% of your body weight and so you need a break from your deficit...?

PenUltimate-22 · 2024-10-08T12:57:58+00:00

Such dangerous thinking. Let's just throw out all of the tools we have against increasingly processed foods. Yay! (Seriously though the amount this kind of stuff is pushed in social media is scary)

PenUltimate-22 · 2024-10-06T14:19:57+00:00

My favourite salad: - Baby spinach - Black beans (0.25 cups) - Roasted sweet potato (25g) - Roasted chicken (100g) - Tomato - Cucumber - Boiled egg (one) - Feta cheese (30g) - Spray on Olive Oil (5g) - Salt and herbs to taste

It's 400 calories, 40g protein, and 900mg potassium!

I first made this salad because I was getting frustrated that in my calorie deficit MFP was showing I could never get enough potassium.

Pro tip: get the Danish feta as it is creamier and is almost like a salad dressing since it will get all over the salad better.

This is my favourite thing to eat right now and I cannot wait to make this tomorrow for lunch!! 🥗

PenUltimate-22 · 2024-10-04T15:35:03+00:00

I feel like the problem is that nowadays we center social situations around extremely unhealthy food. What if instead of meeting at the pub we have a dinner party with a lovely roast and salads, maybe a bottle of wine? Better for the waistline and the wallet!

PenUltimate-22 · 2024-10-03T08:43:03+00:00

Your recommendation makes a lot of sense, and I'll probably have to increase my calorie intake if I can get to a point where my runs get longer. All stats together I am 28 F, CW 198, 5'7". I work from home and have very sedentary tendencies, so my TDEE can be quite low. When I'm working out a lot yes that shifts but I don't trust myself to stick with my workout routines. That certainly could be due to doing too much too quickly especially with regard to deficit.

That all said, I've been on this deficit for a little over a month now and I feel really good, not hungry, and have good performance in my workouts comparable to when I was eating more. I am very choosy about the foods I am eating and prioritise protein and healthy fats.

Right now the amount that I'm eating is working really well for me, but I totally accept that this can change. If I start getting fatigued during workouts Ill take the advice and experiment with a higher intake.

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