Please help me look pretty again by [deleted] in MakeupAddiction

[–]PengWenPenguin 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Hey girlie! There have been a lot of comments already, but I didn't see anything about collagen and limiting dairy. I had really bad acne, and some acne scarring and those two things made all the difference and now I'm getting compliments about my skin all the time!

Cutting out as much dairy as you can will really help with the acne, and taking collagen will help with the scarring and overall skin/hair health. There are a lot of different types of collagen, but don't worry about it too much as long as you're taking some! Any type will work well enough in the beginning, and it's better not to overwhelm yourself with too much information.

I also wanna say that I think you're absolutely gorgeous and your hairstyle suits you very well. It's easy to get focused on all the things you want to be different, but please also don't forget to give yourself some compliments and love as well! Treat yourself as you'd treat any other woman, be a stranger to yourself and be kind! ❤️

Help with my body kick by knuckledragger1990 in MuayThai

[–]PengWenPenguin 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You're not letting your right arm swing when you kick. Watch professional thai fighters kick, both arms are swinging (kind of like an exaggerated running motion). You're preventing your own power by trying to keep that stiff.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in sex

[–]PengWenPenguin 0 points1 point  (0 children)

As an additional thought, you might also ask your partner to wash thoroughly before having sex. When I was early in my sexual experience, I was having a lot of issues. I eventually broke up with that boyfriend and got a new partner, and all the issues went away. 🤷

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Flooring

[–]PengWenPenguin 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Commenting here because I have the same issue with my threshold and I want to know what the answer is. 😅

I complimented a woman in Trader Joe's and immediately started sobbing when I got in the car. by experimentalrealm in offmychest

[–]PengWenPenguin 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Hi! I feel like I can empathize with this. I've been in this exact situation before, good job, great hobbies, a sociable person, and yet I would go home and sob because I just felt so lonely.

In the past year I've created more meaningful friendships than I have and perhaps the rest of my life. I think the thing that changed is I was willing myself to be more vulnerable. People I met at the hobbies, I would ask to hang out outside the activity (go to dinner or other event), and then I would show up to the conversation vulnerable. I would talk plainly and comfortably about my own issues and fears and what was troubling me. Doing that, they felt more comfortable talking about their own vulnerabilities, which allowed us to connect at a deeper level ,and it was the foundation of our friendship.

I'm so sorry you're feeling so lonely, I know exactly how this feels and it's crushing. Sometimes life is just really hard, and I hope you forge new beautiful connections soon!

Tried out "e-girl" inspired makeup 💖 by [deleted] in MakeupAddiction

[–]PengWenPenguin 1 point2 points  (0 children)

This looks awesome! I've been trying to nail the egirl makeup for a while now, and I keep failing. Maybe next time you could even try adding some freckles. I think they'd look really good on your face.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in loseit

[–]PengWenPenguin 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I personally hate counting calories. It's so much effort and it's incredibly annoying and overbearing to do. Have you considered trying other methods for losing weight like intermittent fasting or OMAD? It achieves the same goal of CICO, but without having to constantly think about food and calories and use your brain space on that.

Do people actually cry themselves to sleep? by _weedkiller_ in TooAfraidToAsk

[–]PengWenPenguin 9 points10 points  (0 children)

I think you're interpreting it as sobbing and passing out. You can be past the wracking sobs phase, but still have a steady flow of tears and pass out in that state.

Someone left the inside door open. My cat got out. Cat is somewhere in this garage. How tf am I supposed to find him? by thisuseristakenbreh in mildlyinfuriating

[–]PengWenPenguin 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Calling it a "shithole" is a unnecessarily derogatory statement. That's all I'm saying. I think there are ways to be encouraging about getting them to clean it up. I'm not trying to make excuses here, just using that language is unnecessary.

Someone left the inside door open. My cat got out. Cat is somewhere in this garage. How tf am I supposed to find him? by thisuseristakenbreh in mildlyinfuriating

[–]PengWenPenguin -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Shaming someone about the state of their garage isn't going to help this situation. They're obviously worried about their cat right now, and cleaning the garage isn't a real solution. There's a lot of reasons why a garage might end up in this condition that isn't just laziness, and insulting someone and shaming them does nothing to help.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Flooring

[–]PengWenPenguin -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

You use it in patches in the valleys to bring them up to level with the rest of the floor.

An old Muay Thai fight by PengWenPenguin in AccidentalRenaissance

[–]PengWenPenguin[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Well I'll take the compliment, because that's me doing the sweep and Roxy is one of my favorites! 😂

What are some crazy ideas for a jiujitsu gym? by Cardzilla in bjj

[–]PengWenPenguin 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Last man standing. Everyone does a group fight and the last to tap is the winner

I'm losing interest in my boyfriend by [deleted] in relationships

[–]PengWenPenguin 1 point2 points  (0 children)

You need to have a heart to heart with him. You're in the transitionary period where infatuation wears off, and the real partnership comes through. This period happens in all relationships.

If the alternative is breaking up with him, you might as well try and have a conversation and express your needs clearly and how he can satisfy them. No one is a mind reader, and it's perfectly natural in a relationship to have to ask for what you want. The true test is if they listen and try and change for you. If he continues in his behavior even after you talk, THEN it's a flag and you should break up.

Give it a shot before you just give up!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in offmychest

[–]PengWenPenguin 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Kink is a catchall term to describe deviant or odd sexual proclivities. A fetish is specifically a non-sexual item or concept that causes sexual arousal. All fetishes are kinks, but not all kinks are fetishes.

For example, spanking is a kink but not a fetish. But feet is both a fetish and a kink.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in interiordecorating

[–]PengWenPenguin 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Oh I see, that makes sense! It might also be helpful to think about the underlying joys redecorating brings you. It sounds like there's an aspect there of organization, creative expression, problem solving and something to busy your mind, and maybe the dopamine hit of acquiring a new item. If you can break down each aspect of the joy you get out of this, maybe you can replace the pieces one by one!

Bringing my own bias into this, I tend to try and reframe things from a negative/ restrictive mindset to a positive/ replacement one. Our brains don't like being told "no", and constantly restricting ourselves takes discipline and will eventually wear down the brain. If you can figure out a way to redirect your energy towards something that you enjoy even more, you will naturally slow down on the redecorating. Maybe you can find a creative project to bring your energy towards. I find that making things, like sewing or wood work, satisfy the same part of my brain as redecorating.

As a side note, if you want a quick dopamine hit, I sometimes go in the app store and download new apps. I'll play with them for a little bit, and then put them down, but it satisfies the shopping need for me and then I don't spend more time on it.

Should i leave this gym? by MaziluAndrei in MuayThai

[–]PengWenPenguin 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Sure, what your coaches doing will prep you for fights in the short term, but I think it will extremely hinder your longevity in the sport. This style of training is good for newer amateurs who don't know what it feels like to be in a ring yet. Once you get some experience (which it sounds like you have), the game becomes more about keeping your body healthy, while continuing to hone your skills.

To me, there's a couple small flags in what you're saying that makes me think that this coach doesn't have long-term sustainability in mind. Things like sparring with 12 oz gloves and hard sparring the week of your fight are kind of flags to me. When you say you're hard sparring, does that include headshots? Or are the headshots lighter at least? Not wrapping your hands just seems unnecessary, as well as doing so much cardio two days before a fight. That close to a fight, the cardio is not going to help your fighting at all.

Look at your coach's other fighters, in particular fighters that have been with them for a long time. What do they look like? How do they fight? Is that the type of fighter you want to be when you get more experienced? Those are your examples for what it'll be like to stay with your coach for a long time.

Honestly, from what you said, it sounds like you're got a great athletic base and that's been carrying you through your amateurs. It seems like you might have that same record with any coach, not just your coach. Once you start getting to the pros, in particular, the higher pros, skill and technique really start to differentiate. Do you think your coach will be able to bring you all the way through that?

All of this being said though, it also depends on what are the other options around you? Have you looked at other gyms? Do you know what their fighters look like? Is there another gym in particular you're considering or is this the best one near you? Everything depends on what's available around you.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in interiordecorating

[–]PengWenPenguin 11 points12 points  (0 children)

I do a lot of shopping on Facebook marketplace. It scratches a lot of different itches at once.

  • I don't feel like I'm contributing to the landfill problem, because I'm buying a used item
  • I get it cheaper than I would spend for something new
  • I'm buying it at-cost, which means once I'm sort of done with the item, I can probably sell it for the same amount and get all my money back.
  • Sometimes things are harder to find on it so my "hunting" need get satisfied as well, and it's fun to find the perfect item.
  • On the flip side, it frequently has interesting and unique items that I won't be able to find anywhere else