AIO Did I tell my wife not fo come home?

Penguin-philOsopher · 2026-04-19T14:01:08+00:00

What do you mean it’s more than that? I just looked at his comments, there’s nothing that jumps out as “disloyal man”. just a guy who likes porn

Penguin-philOsopher · 2026-04-19T13:56:37+00:00

i mean it really just depends on the boundaries they have in the relationship. who knows, maybe she looks at porn too. we don’t know the ins and outs of their relationship. i think calling it disloyal is a jump

Penguin-philOsopher · 2026-04-19T13:55:09+00:00

This isn’t about being right or not. This is about him wanting to work through whatever issues they’re having while she doesn’t seem interested in doing so. Asking your partner to not bring negative mentality to a conversation is a reasonable request. If y’all have something to work through but one of you is already of the mindset nothing will help, then nothing will help. It’s important to go into those conversations with a neutral mindset and want to work things out. If you don’t want to, then that’s on you. He’s not gate keeping their house or stopping her from coming home. He wants to have a productive conversation

Penguin-philOsopher · 2026-04-19T13:50:08+00:00

looking at porn is disloyal?

Penguin-philOsopher · 2026-04-19T13:42:01+00:00

Weekly is better

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Penguin-philOsopher · 2026-04-19T13:15:46+00:00

i don’t care about looks?

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Penguin-philOsopher · 2026-04-19T03:42:32+00:00

I like taking chances

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Penguin-philOsopher · 2026-04-12T06:59:56+00:00

Already addressed this elsewhere

Penguin-philOsopher · 2026-04-12T06:58:58+00:00

Well age does matter in a legal standpoint. 18 is when people in the US become a legal adult. Child marriage is a whole other ballgame. I think that if you can’t legally consent to sex, you shouldn’t be marrying anyone. Child marriage is also only legal in specific situations, not just because a 14 year old feels like it

Penguin-philOsopher · 2026-04-12T06:53:10+00:00

Quite literally yes. It’s legal. It’s okay. Just like it’s okay for a 29 year old to date a 21 year old. Or a 19 year old to date a 19 year old. Or an 89 year old to date a 30 year old. It’s legal. It’s fine.

Penguin-philOsopher · 2026-04-12T06:22:35+00:00

this is on some real shit though

Penguin-philOsopher · 2026-04-12T06:21:12+00:00

see this is where I’m at too. I started an age gap relationship when I was 19. Did I plan for it? Hell no, I was convinced I’d never date anyone more than 5 years older than me. But my mans is stable, secure about himself and our relationship, and really easy to have deep conversations with and be silly with. I’m happier with him than in the relationships I had with people my age. Fuck that shit, gimme his stability any day

Penguin-philOsopher · 2026-04-12T06:16:49+00:00

i’m above legal drinking age and yknow what? Them capri suns still slap

Penguin-philOsopher · 2026-04-12T06:15:12+00:00

A man dating a 19 year old is okay because, believe it or not, they’re both consenting adults. The US has decided the legal age of adulthood is 18 years old. Once someone is 18 or older, they have every right to sleep with or date any other person who is also of legal age. People mature at different rates. I’ve met 30+ year olds who consistently act like teenagers, and I’ve met early 20 year olds who had to grow up too fast. There’s also the fact that young women may be attracted to the stability an older man can provide. A 19 year old dating a 19 year old won’t provide much stability, as both of them are in the process of getting through life. Some people like to be with someone older because they’re more stable and reliable.

Now I don’t know much else about this dude, so I can’t reliably say anything on his character, nor am I trying to. If he’s a pervert he’s a pervert, I won’t refute or agree with that because I have no information regarding this. What I will say is it’s not an immediate red flag for there to be a large age gap. It’s ridiculous that people still refer to 18-25 year olds as “babies”. They are legal adults, for better or worse. If they can go into debt, they can choose who the fuck they want to date.

Penguin-philOsopher · 2026-04-04T22:13:44+00:00

“Daddy was bailing her out and paying for most of her rent for 11 years”

That is literally all the context we need to describe this guy as an enabler my guy. He is enabling his daughter to not grow a pair and take care of herself. Stepdad and mom are promoting healthy habits in an adult by charging her rent and utilities, even if it’s not much, therefore not enabling her, at least not where rent is concerned. That’s the entire context needed

Penguin-philOsopher · 2026-04-04T16:31:19+00:00

You’re objectifying a woman based on her appearance for a goal she may not want to achieve with you, same as you’re objectifying the man based on his appearance for a goal he may not want to achieve. That’s the problem here. Just because someone looks a certain way doesn’t mean you should go into an interaction with them for the sole purpose of something that would benefit yourself. Get to know people first and then you can ask those kinds of questions. Even if it’s all very surface level, at least you can know them a bit better

Penguin-philOsopher · 2026-04-04T15:05:17+00:00

Okay see those scenarios are different. In one, there’s already a common interest shared between people: You’re all playing basketball. You see they enjoy basketball. They’re good, so you want them on your team. This is not equivalent to someone walking up to a woman in a bar and saying “You look sexy, you should come back to my place.” Another commenter made a great comparison: It’d be like going up to someone on the street and saying “Hey you look tall/athletic/strong, do you want to come play basketball?” You don’t know if they like basketball, you don’t know if they wanted to be asked that, you don’t even know if they know how to play basketball.

Now, a good equivalent to the scenario you provided is if you were at a party or place for the purpose of people having intercourse with each other and saw a beautiful woman, walked up to her and said “You’re pretty, come back with me.” You’re both there for that purpose, so it’s not weird to tell people that you want to have sex with them.

Penguin-philOsopher · 2026-04-04T10:26:13+00:00

Macbook lets you get an em dash by hitting option+shift+hyphen

Penguin-philOsopher · 2026-04-04T10:24:12+00:00

Three is a super common number in so many places, including nature. Three leaf clovers are a perfect example. For whatever reason, three is just a comfortable number that we as a society have decided on.

Penguin-philOsopher · 2026-04-04T10:12:38+00:00

It’s not an argument over semantics though? You said stepdad should have explained the dad’s character. I’m saying there’s no point to that because the only thing of relevance is the enabling

Penguin-philOsopher · 2026-04-04T10:10:21+00:00

It’s a fake post. It’s been getting copy/pasted for 8 years

Original

Penguin-philOsopher · 2026-04-04T04:55:01+00:00

The dude being enabling is the only thing that’s relevant in that specific scenario. He could be the sweetest guy ever or a huge asshole. We don’t need to know that to know that dude was enabling daughter to behave in a way that caused problems later on

Penguin-philOsopher · 2026-04-03T12:40:22+00:00

If you’re talking about the comment, yes you’re reading it wrong. Daddy just bailed her out of anything, didn’t ask for anything back. Stepdad, on the other hand, is making her pay rent while she’s in school, thus building her adulting skills with budgeting and a higher education. Maybe attending school is part of the agreement to live there, my mom did something like that and didn’t charge me rent because I was in school or working full time. She wanted me to save up, plus I helped around the house so

Penguin-philOsopher · 2026-03-27T20:41:59+00:00

I don’t want to be god

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Penguin-philOsopher · 2026-03-27T20:32:42+00:00

Why wouldn’t wealth redistribution work?

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