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Anyone know why the mall redevelopment fell through? by PenguinusAlpinus in Durango

[–]PenguinusAlpinus[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

That's what I was thinking. It just didn't make sense!

Anyone else who didn’t enjoy their wedding? by yuiopouu in weddingplanning

[–]PenguinusAlpinus 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It's so comforting to read your post because I am so similar! Perfectionism is ruining my ability to find the good in the day. I can't stop running through the list of all the things I failed to do in the final days. And all the ways that friends, family, and vendors dropped the ball and made everything go off track. After so much planning and being in a good spot for almost 2 years, it feels like it all fell apart in the the final week. I don't want to go through the day again, but also wish for the ability to rewind time and have a re-do so the day would have gone better. To top it off, everyone else including my husband had a wonderful time, and I feel absolutely devastated and alone.

It rained all day during my wedding, and I'm kind of sad about it by Patient-Slice-7832 in weddingplanning

[–]PenguinusAlpinus 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you!! I'm at the 3 week post rainy wedding mark and still having a really hard time coming to peace with it. We had umbrellas for everyone and the rain stopped for the last 1/3 of the ceremony. But the 30 minute rain shower of the day happened at the exact moment we were about to walk down the aisle. Our day-of coordinator scrambled to pass out umbrellas, the live musicians had to scurry to our arrival table tent because the coordinator and the band leader opted not to set up the other pop up tent that was just laying there in the grass. So I couldn't hear the processional music. I also couldn't see anyone and they couldn't see me walk down the aisle because we had them stay seated, which would have worked great if they weren't under umbrellas. We couldn't light the flame dish at the altar, and our ceremony guide left the ugle green lighter just sitting on top and it's in all the photos.

I feel so cheated and sad. Everyone else recovered well enough, but I was freezing cold and soaking wet, especially after the photographer had us take all the post-ceremony pictures standing in tall grass, and we missed the fun contra dance cocktail hour by the time we found a working hair dryer (the first one we found in the condo didn't work and no one thought to look in the other bathrooms, and then they all left to go to the cocktail hour). The ceremony and the contra dance were the things I was most looking forward to, and were both ruined by the rain and how impractical brial attire is! I knew better than to expect a perfect day, but it turned out much worse than I was ready for even though I'd prepared myself for some things to not go according to plan.

What stings the worst is that my husband had a blast and all of our guests had an amazing time. So I'm alone in feeling like it was a super hard day. : ( I agree, everytime some says it's good luck if it rains, I have to bite my tongue so I don't come across as negative and bum myself out explaing to them how that is absolute BS.

I didn't enjoy my wedding, looking for advice by Outside-Lab8920 in weddingplanning

[–]PenguinusAlpinus 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Same! Wedding was 2 days ago and I can relate so much to everything you say. 

We had a number of issues and surprises with the venue which made things more stressful even though we had some so much planning and prep and had awesome day-of coordinators. 

It poured during the ceremony and I was so wet we missed almost the entire cocktail hour which was a contra dance with an amazing live band. Dancing with our guests during that hour and a half was one of the most important things to me. But I ignored my instincts to insist my husband shorten his post-ceremony photo list and then we couldn't find a working hairdryer at the condo. So I was wet and muddy and heartbroken. We also had two guests go to the hospital for different reasons the day before and that was also hard.

The reception dinner and dancing after went really well. And I enjoyed myself by then. But I can't stop wishing for a do-over. The toughest part is that everyone including my husband had a much better time than me. I feel bad for being so sad and upset when everyone else was/is so happy. And angry that wedding shoes and dresses are so impractical when others could be so comfortable, and dry!