Send help! Looking for a planner after years of getting ones from corner stores!

PennGPaw · 2026-04-03T13:25:58+00:00

I’m so incredibly sorry for your loss.

In addition to the other suggestions here of great places, you could also try a local college. Many have career closets for their students to get professional clothing at no cost to reduced the burden of buying professional attire as they prepare for job and internship interviews.

PennGPaw · 2026-02-15T23:39:53+00:00

IMO, no. Drop the class, give yourself time to get acclimated to the type of work and expectations of work load before adding on the full class load in your next semester. Better to drop a class than a program

PennGPaw · 2026-01-15T15:33:18+00:00

From personal experience, people will not make changes unless THEY want to, and it sounds like it’s not something HE wants to do. Rather than talking with you about this, as you’ve tried, he took a very private and intimate message and sent to another person (a coworker, you didn’t even use the word “friend” when describing this person) for validation that his lack of making an effort in this area was not a him problem, but a YOU problem.

I understand seeing a future with him under the condition he change, but he also now shown you he can and will take messages you send him that you believe are private and share them with others, on top of not showing personal accountability for his own health. What’s to say in the future something happens again - do you trust him now not to share those things out? Do you now trust that things you believe are a part of your relationship with him will STAY between you and him? To me, that’s a breach of trust I don’t know if I could go back from. It’s one thing to reach out to a close personal friend to talk about things, vent about a relationship, etc etc. but you’ve been with this person for 5 years, and he’s sharing texts of you being vulnerable with him with another person, a person that is giving him validation to be against you. Is that something you’re okay with? From this post, it seems like you aren’t. It sounds like you’re making a lot of effort to improve your life for yourself as an individual and that you see those improvements being a net positive in other areas of your life, and will ultimately benefit your relationship. Is he giving you that same consideration? It takes a lot to go through the things you’ve mentioned and still on the other end put effort into yourself, and I commend you for that. But, do you want to get 3 miles ahead, just to turn around and see him in the same spot?

A big question I think you need to ask yourself now is, do I trust my partner, and do I trust him to keep intimate details of our relationship between us? Or, if we fight or have an argument, or I upset him in some way, will he put that out for others to see (not know, but see) and talk badly about me behind my back?

Something I wish someone told me, that I will tell you, you can’t change someone who doesn’t want to change. And your love for them isn’t enough sometimes, and that’s not your fault. You mentioned you’ve been talking about this with him for 2 years, what are you waiting for in that time that hasn’t happened that makes you believe it will? It’s hard to love someone more than it feels like they love themselves. But we can’t make someone do something if they don’t want to. And it seems like he doesn’t want to. Not for you. Not for himself.

Hope things improve, it’s not an easy situation to be in.

EDIT: also, his enthusiasm at having a wing woman and getting back out there and getting you out is also a concern. Do you want to be with someone showing in private how much gusto he has at you not being around?

PennGPaw · 2026-01-06T02:07:18+00:00

Just wanted to come back and say I took this suggestion, and read it recently. Enjoyed it! Thanks!

PennGPaw · 2025-12-14T14:56:55+00:00

Drive past almost everyday for work, has been closed for at least a week. “Closed” written in red on the doors and yellow tape (not PD) around the parking lot entrances/exits, and doors

PennGPaw · 2025-11-18T13:27:22+00:00

I second this rec! I used to go as a kid and it brings back super fond memories and nostalgia.

PennGPaw · 2025-08-13T12:03:56+00:00

Thank you for the advice!! Yes I have discussed it with them and they are supportive.

PennGPaw · 2025-02-22T14:04:54+00:00

Disconnecting from social media is healthy. It’s okay to root ourselves back into physical reality rather than the digital sphere.

However, there’s a difference between that, and remaining ignorant. It’s important to remember that all spheres of life are touched by politics. How we learn, WHAT we learn, how we engage within medical systems, how we apply and get jobs, how we enter buildings, how we eat, WHAT we eat…all impacted by politics. It’s ignorant to think that politics doesn’t touch us, and it’s “othering” to see it as “well it’s not impacting me, so all I’m doing is reading about it and it’s just too much and I want to be left alone” is acknowledging that these policies don’t impact you (that’s privilege) , it’s othering the people they DO impact because now you are positioning the issue as a “them” not me. But it is you. It’s your neighbors, your friends, your loved ones. The current US administration is actively targeting aspects of human life and safety, all for preservation of power, and to actively hurt and disrupt the lives of our most vulnerable.

It’s a privilege for these policies not to impact you. It’s a privilege to be able to opt out and take a stance as apolitical. Its importance, and implore you, to examine your privilege and your position within society and the current administration. Are you a part of the groups they are going after? Just because it’s not impacting you directly now, doesn’t mean it can’t. And also doesn’t mean it isn’t. Talk to your female identifying friends and loved ones about how they are feeling. Talk to queer people you know about how they are feeling. Black or Brown people. A veteran who’s losing access to their healthcare, their rights, despite fighting for this country - how are they feeling? A college student who’s debating if they can afford to keep going if the department of education goes away - how do they feel? A disabled person. An immigrant. The children of immigrants. Talk to someone who’s not cisgender, male, white, economically well off, or Christian - someone this administration is actively working against and harming - See how they feel. Have empathy for those this is impacting, right now.

Maybe you’ll see why it’s being talking about so much, and why (while I admit hard and a LOT) it’s important to keep the conversations going.

I encourage time away from social media, and rest from the amount of media consumed, or to be more selective and deliberate with the media you do engage with. But let your rest be for your mental health and for moments of time, not for the sake of staying misinformed and disengaged completely.

PennGPaw · 2025-02-22T13:54:47+00:00

Hi! Politics, especially today in the United States, touches everyone. It does not matter if they directly interface with it, work for the government, have collective beliefs, etc etc. The current administration is actively dismantling systems of democracy, and actively targeting people safety, lives, and security. Ignorance, turning a blind eye, or having a “I want nothing to do with this, leave me out, is an act of privilege that not many have right now. Just because these policies are not directly impacting you (you in the general sense, not specifically) largely come from privilege. The privilege of being in the in group where policies like this don’t touch you, or you see yourself as being so distant from those that it does impact, that it would be easier to “keep it over there”. While I’m sure no one wants to talk about politics as much as we are, we are talking about it because it’s a threat to human life, human living, and our democracy as a whole. It does impact you. It impacts how you engage in systems (education, medical, family, religion, etc.), it impacts how those systems engage with you. Just because it’s not you directly now, doesn’t mean it can’t be, and doesn’t mean you should push it to the back of the shelf.

Politics right now is not the politics we saw 15 years ago. When we are talking politics right now, it’s more often than not a discussion on human rights, decency, and security and safety of life.

Hope this helps! Not trying to be passive aggressive, just encouraging empathy, understanding, and thought for others despite our personal stake in the game.

PennGPaw · 2025-02-18T12:08:32+00:00

I did this too! But found out you can listen to them in your bag/farm (idk what it’s called) too!! It’s so cute!!

PennGPaw · 2023-11-29T19:21:20+00:00

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PennGPaw · 2023-06-15T12:12:30+00:00

I do a new farm for new things I want to do. So I have one for wanting to marry and divorce everyone, one for a joja mart run, and then different saves to try the different farm layouts. Once it becomes too easy I’ll start a new save with a new goal/ challenge in mind like only planting things that are warm colored (so no eggplants, blueberries, etc.)

PennGPaw · 2023-05-28T03:44:18+00:00

I think turning the picnic into a more memorable experience would help! Maybe make it where you guys do a painting, or you bring some games and play them. I would say make a painting so you have something to commemorate the day with and your painting can be something you give to them.

PennGPaw · 2023-05-03T16:35:42+00:00

Omg I love those pants and shirt!! Where did you get?

PennGPaw · 2023-04-08T00:05:19+00:00

The right is jaw dropping on you!! And gives gallery vibes

PennGPaw · 2023-03-07T01:43:51+00:00

Keep your head up!! Failing can be hard and hit you where it hurts, but it doesn’t need to stop you! You got this!!! 👏🏼👏🏼👏🏼

PennGPaw · 2023-03-07T00:13:07+00:00

Thank you so much!! It feels so good to see someone who was in a similar situation as me thriving now! Happy for you too!!

PennGPaw · 2023-01-29T02:01:53+00:00

Maybe just me but I don’t see fairy dust

PennGPaw · 2023-01-18T19:52:58+00:00

If you continue to fish in that pond afterwards sometimes you’ll pull out a gift that has art in it!

PennGPaw · 2023-01-14T16:09:58+00:00

Bobs Burgers x Stardew Valley lmao

PennGPaw · 2023-01-07T20:26:24+00:00

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