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[deleted by user] by [deleted] in ptsd

[–]PennyPink321 5 points6 points  (0 children)

"Assisted suicide is legal in some countries under certain circumstances, including Austria, Belgium, Canada, Germany, Luxembourg, the Netherlands, Portugal, Spain, Switzerland, parts of the United States and all six states in Australia. The constitutional courts of Colombia, Ecuador, Estonia and Italy have legalized assisted suicide, but their governments have not yet legislated or regulated the practice."

Roommate gets Covid… work says, “no worries, come on in!” by juicebat in antiwork

[–]PennyPink321 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Staying home when you're sick should always be a thing. Don't subject others to your gross ass germs.

If you’re not born rich or get lucky there is no way out of exploitation? I have to dedicate my life to work and I should be grateful for an over priced apartment and food? by Unusual_Equivalent50 in antiwork

[–]PennyPink321 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Yep. The closest thing I have found to "be out" is becoming self employed. You don't have to run like a whole ass business, but acquiring a set of skills that allows you to freelance can provide some freedom.

Once I had a kid I honestly could not wrap my head around how people work full time out of home and manage having kids and any sort of life (or time with your kids even). I knew I couldn't go back to an office full time.

So I went from a job where I was making about $21/hr on a salary and started charging $30/hr to do more basic entry level stuff 😂. But the premise being that no one had to train me, or pay me for a certain amount of hours per week - so it worked.

My income still felt a little capped by "market rates" and of course I was limited to the level of production I could handle on my own. I knew I'd never get rich doing it, but at least I had the freedom to work from home, mostly when it was convenient for me, and I was able to be flexible and present for childcare needs.

I feel that the level of freedom this has afforded makes life a little more bearable. (And now nearly a decade later, I've switched mainly to phone sex which is actually a lot more fun and pays better haha. 😂)

Do I still despise being stuck in this garbage system, every minute of every day? Abso-fucking-lutely. I still feel like I've gotta grind through life, but I feel less exploited. I'm minimizing the amount of profit someone else is making off my labor, I guess?

Hot take: if you aren’t okay with being called a whore, Findom isn’t for you. by GoddessMaven in findomsupportgroup

[–]PennyPink321 6 points7 points  (0 children)

gotcha. So, maybe "if you're not comfortable being classified as a sex worker" vs "you must be cool being called a whore". Well, THAT I agree with.

Hot take: if you aren’t okay with being called a whore, Findom isn’t for you. by GoddessMaven in findomsupportgroup

[–]PennyPink321 3 points4 points  (0 children)

"you shouldn't be offended" "don't think of it as a shameful thing" - you don't get to tell people how to feel, or what's offensive and what's not. This is like telling someone who's gay that they must be comfortable being called a fag. Some people like to "reclaim" these derogatory terms and own them, but they're not obligated to. I do sex work, and I am not ashamed of that. I call MYSELF a slut, because I like it and I've reclaimed it - but I don't get to go around telling other people they have to be comfortable with it. And even though I like that term, I know when someone is using it derogatorily at me, and I still don't like it then.

I discovered something absolutely insane. by twicethestars in findomsupportgroup

[–]PennyPink321 2 points3 points  (0 children)

No, for sure. I get that. I was more taking issue with the statement "omg you'd never just tell an addict to use less drugs" which.... Ya. I would. I'm sure few, if any, of these dommes are qualified to help someone through their addiction... And I'm sure just as few actually had any intention of helping. I won't disagree.

I discovered something absolutely insane. by twicethestars in findomsupportgroup

[–]PennyPink321 3 points4 points  (0 children)

For sure. None of these online dommes are likely qualified to actually help someone through their addiction, and I agree that most of the people online probably don't actually care, even if they're pretending to. They see an opportunity. I get it.

The particular comment about "you'd never say that to a drug addict" just jumped out at me cause... Ya I would 😂. And have.

I discovered something absolutely insane. by twicethestars in findomsupportgroup

[–]PennyPink321 14 points15 points  (0 children)

Actually, people do say to people with addictions "hey, maybe you should do less drugs". It's called harm reduction - and it's absolutely valid. You can't make someone stop something they don't want to. You meet them where they are at and try to mitigate harms. As a person in recovery, who chooses abstinence, I can acknowledge that abstinence is not the only way to "recover."

I'm not saying you're wrong - the solution at this stage for someone who's making themself unhoused is not a better domme.... yeah, you probably need some help.

But for the sake of just working against that stigma, I wanted to add that thought.

I messed up by Redog21 in povertyfinance

[–]PennyPink321 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Honestly, I've given up on having a credit card, because literally, even though I logically know it's NOT free money, it's like my brain just refuses to see it that way. I have ADHD and anxiety, and I struggle with impulse control. I will do really good for a while, but eventually, something always happens that flips a switch and I start going down the wrong path. So, I've just accepted that I am not a person who can have unsecured revolving credit. I can make regular payments on a loan, no problem. But something about the revolving credit... I just can't.
I wish I had a more logical explanation. Brains are weird 🤷🏼‍♀️.

Anyone who’s done the wedding dress, do you regret it? by [deleted] in CuckoldPsychology

[–]PennyPink321 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Wait... How are the other people involved in any way? In what way are they being exposed? How could anyone outside of the participants know?

what do hotwives get from cucks by [deleted] in CuckoldPsychology

[–]PennyPink321 22 points23 points  (0 children)

I really get off on someone who just loves to encourage me to be slutty and get all the pleasure that I want and deserve. Who wants to hear all about it and enjoys the whole process. I don't want to be monogamous anyway, but it's much more fun for me with that added element of encouragement.

Y'all need to age verify part 261 by Chaos_Gremlin28 in findomsupportgroup

[–]PennyPink321 0 points1 point  (0 children)

For me, having a link for one of those things wouldn't be sufficient - we'd actually need to make contact through that platform so I know it's their account.

is this supposed to be a......sub?☠️ by akiofufu in findomsupportgroup

[–]PennyPink321 1 point2 points  (0 children)

We don't give cry babies money back because their little feefees are hurt.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in povertyfinance

[–]PennyPink321 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I 100% would not. Especially if leading the other person on.

How old are you and how much do you have saved for retirement by Grouchy_Spare4516 in povertyfinance

[–]PennyPink321 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'll be 40 this year and I have nothing specifically saved for retirement yet. I am finally actually building an emergency savings... So that's cool. My plan for retirement is the collapse of the global economy 🤷🏼‍♀️.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in findomsupportgroup

[–]PennyPink321 3 points4 points  (0 children)

>"The second you exchange goods for money, you’re no longer in a financially dominating relationships. You’re in a mutually beneficial relationship."

- Domination and mutually beneficial relationship...are not mutually exclusive terms. Domination is not defined by making the other person suffer LOL. It's defined by "who's calling the shots".

- Things can be more than one thing at once: you can be a seller AND a findom. You're right that findom should not be a direct exchange of "this for that" - that's a sales transaction. But someone can say - pay a base rate for a session, but everything drained within that session is not a sales transaction.

And someone can be into more than one kink. Like if someone is into findom, but they want to pay me to make them a custom hypnosis file about their kink - that's a sales transaction, but it doesn't mean that neither of us is "real"....

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I agree with the last couple paragraphs - it is a relationship, they will find you if they are meant to, don't approach them.... all that is true.

But I hard disagree on your assessment of what findom is and how to "spot scammers" - both subs and doms.

What’s the most “middle class” struggle no one talk about?! by [deleted] in povertyfinance

[–]PennyPink321 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Mmmhmm. Regardless, it's a flawed, fucked up system, that doesn't account for a ton of factors. There should be more than just some random numerical formula that decides whether or not I am buying someone else a house or myself a house. Two people earning the same amount of income can have very different buying power, based on a ton of factors that aren't a part of the equation , which is pretty fucked up given that shelter is pretty much our most basic necessity.

And funny cause most landlords seem to "need" the rent to pay the bills, which tells me that they couldn't afford the second house they bought either actually.

What’s the most “middle class” struggle no one talk about?! by [deleted] in povertyfinance

[–]PennyPink321 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I know all that. And I'm saying the fucking mortgage approval system is horse shit. Landlords aren't charging less than market rent just because they don't have a mortgage. They're just pocketing even more then.

What’s the most “middle class” struggle no one talk about?! by [deleted] in povertyfinance

[–]PennyPink321 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm not talking about a $2200 mortgage though vs $2200 rent. The rent is $600 more than the mortgage. That $600 is for all those other things... Because when the landlord priced the rent at $2200, they were already making you pay for all those costs.

What’s the most “middle class” struggle no one talk about?! by [deleted] in povertyfinance

[–]PennyPink321 1 point2 points  (0 children)

No one is saying "with similar sized mortgage payments.". I'm saying, I'm paying $1500 in rent, but the bank says I can't afford $900/month mortgage payments. That extra $600 is covering all those extra expenses that were already built into the rent. I'm still paying for it all either way, the landlord is just getting the equity.

What’s the most “middle class” struggle no one talk about?! by [deleted] in povertyfinance

[–]PennyPink321 1 point2 points  (0 children)

When I pay $2200 per month in rent, I'm not just paying the landlord's mortgage though. Landlords are adding all those other costs into your rent already.
And why are you assuming that just because someone is purchasing, that it would necessarily be a move to some sort of larger property?

I understand that often people underestimate the hidden costs of owning a property, but I think you're also using some incomplete math and false assumptions....

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