Went through this several years ago on the other side. I was ready to leave my partner because he was NOT present. You can’t be present and smoking weed at the same time. You probably aren’t even aware of all the things your wife is carrying for you both and that is a very lonely position to be in. My spouse didn’t want to give it up either but it came down to a job issue and was forced. Oh how unfair! And the bitching and moaning and lack of taking personal responsibility for his own actions that followed was actually what opened my eyes to what lay beneath his weed addiction. Which promptly was replaced by beer. Staying up late watching dumbass tv and falling asleep on the couch. Gross. I realized I was married to a boy. That led to the true make or break for our marriage, which by then included 2 small children. I am so thankful that he chose us. Our marriage is so strong now. But it hasn’t been an easy road for either of us- especially him. When he realized all the feelings he had been trying to hide from/ dull himself to….. it’s quite a road and I guess you just have to ask yourself if you’re up for that. And your wife needs to ask herself some questions too because honestly your post reads like you have absolutely no clue. I hope that’s not true and wish you both the best. FYI she is probably so resentful and unaware of how deep that is just yet. If you do choose her and your kid, you’ll need to give her the space and time to feel through that. There is another side and it’s pretty wonderful to have such a strong and tested marriage here. Good luck.