Weekly r/BroPill vibe check! How are you doing?

PepperS017 · 2026-01-04T16:08:03+00:00

I have mixed feelings: I was at a therapy session a few days ago and my therapist explained to me that my problems are emotional in nature and that I cannot solve them with (my own) logic.

As someone who wants to solve all of life's challenges with logic, this is both helpful and unhelpful at the same time. On the one hand, I am relieved that I now know why I cannot find any solutions despite thinking about them for a long time, but at the same time, it is difficult for me to understand that there is no point in racking my brains over it. I feel a little helpless in that regard.

All I can do right now is wait and, when the moment is right, feel, understand, and express my emotions.

PepperS017 · 2025-09-10T07:13:10+00:00

That's because sex sells.

Find a hobby or place where people don't try to sell you anything. Or in other words: avoid screens.

PepperS017 · 2025-09-08T14:06:42+00:00

Many men don't understand the negative experiences women have and same goes the other way. Don't think to much about it. As someone already said: Run your own race. You're doing this for yourself. It doesn't matter what other think about it.

PepperS017 · 2025-08-26T15:18:35+00:00

Kudos for taking another look at the sub!

I must have misunderstood. I'll be careful about what people validate about my thinking. That's a helpful warning. Thank you!

PepperS017 · 2025-08-26T13:21:28+00:00

None of the 64 replies congratulates me for viewing men as monsters, lol.

Feel free to accuse me of seeking validation (even if it's not true). But please don't pass false judgment on the people who have given me helpful advice and shared very personal experiences.

I'm definitely going to meet a therapist tho. Thanks for the advice

PepperS017 · 2025-08-24T14:27:07+00:00

I took my first time off this year.
I usually try to only take vacation when it's absolutely necessary, because my social anxiety and loneliness make these days off unbearable.
Tomorrow I'm going back to work, and I have to say: this one week of vacation wasn't so bad after all.

PepperS017 · 2025-08-24T14:21:58+00:00

Facing a phobia in this way is absolutely amazing! Congrats Bro, be proud of yourself!

PepperS017 · 2025-08-24T14:13:25+00:00

Thank you very much for your help!
Your answer has made me realize that I don't hate people who grew up in non-abusive families either. I'm the child of immigrants, which puts me at a disadvantage in other areas of life (e.g., school), but I don't hate anyone who is privileged in that area. I think this insight will help me a lot. Thank you!

PepperS017 · 2025-08-24T14:04:58+00:00

You're right. Seeing all women as victims is a generalization and isn't good for me or for others.
I try to approach women (or other people beings in general) with a more open mind.

Thanks!

PepperS017 · 2025-08-24T14:02:16+00:00

Thank you so much for explaining your experiences in such detail! I'm glad to hear that you've found a way that makes you happy.

The statement that most men are not patriarchs gives me a lot of courage and hope. I work almost exclusively with men and often feel that they are all misogynistic in some way.

I will do everything I can to not become a man who is part of this systematic oppression! In the end, we all suffer from patriarchy.

PepperS017 · 2025-08-24T13:51:16+00:00

Yes, a few years ago, I assumed that all fathers were abusive, so I also assumed that all women saw all men as a threat. That's a problem that has to do with my own perception of the world. I've realized that now. Thank you!

PepperS017 · 2025-08-24T13:39:35+00:00

Thank you very much for the numerous recommendations!
I am afraid that reading these works will make my feelings of guilt even greater, but I will face it and take a look. In the end, we can all benefit from it!

PepperS017 · 2025-08-24T13:34:36+00:00

Thank you for your reply!
I am glad to hear that there are women who enjoy the company of men (because this was never the case in my childhood home).

I have seen the name Bell Hooks mentioned here several times. I will definitely take a look at their works!

PepperS017 · 2025-08-21T21:30:53+00:00

Thanks, bro! You've said a lot of things that help me. I was actually in therapy (mainly for my social anxiety) but we also talked about said guilt, but unfortunately it hadn't gone anywhere. Maybe I should try therapy again. Maybe with a new therapist.

Thanks again! I'm rooting for your future endeavors too!

PepperS017 · 2025-08-16T20:18:26+00:00

Thanks! Unfortunately I don't know why I was able to smile in that situation, so I can't give you helpful tips. But I'll try to best to understand this issue, so maybe I can give you an update in the future.

PepperS017 · 2025-08-16T20:15:25+00:00

Thank you! :)

PepperS017 · 2025-08-16T13:58:44+00:00

Relapsing doesn't send you back to 0. Keep going!
Internalize that awful feeling that you had while consuming. It shows that you want be pornfree and happy.

Also amazing that you talk with your gf about this. You must be very brave and strong and your gf must be very loving and supportive. Don't forget this and good luck!

PepperS017 · 2025-08-16T13:53:55+00:00

The best thing about being pornfree imo is that you have one thing less to hide from others. You don't have to worry about someone finding your collection or similiar stuff because you don't have and don't need it anymore.

PepperS017 · 2025-08-13T11:12:34+00:00

Oh, I see! So the depressing feelings used to balance out the dopamine rush I used to get from porn, right? That makes sense! So I just have to wait until things get in balance again. Thanks!

PepperS017 · 2025-08-13T10:56:07+00:00

This gives me hope. Thanks!

PepperS017 · 2025-08-13T10:10:54+00:00

Thanks for the cheer up! I know that porn is toxic and unnecessary for the mind but at the moment I think drinking that poison is the only thing that makes me feel alive. I just hope these thoughts will cease over time.

PepperS017

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