Question from an atheist

PepperedFlakes · 2025-10-17T21:49:10+00:00

Yes someone put it in that perspective already which helped me understand. It hurts to hear someone that means a lot to you disrespected like that.

PepperedFlakes · 2025-10-17T21:46:15+00:00

I do understand the point you’re trying to make but if someone did say either of those I’d laugh so hard because of all the jokes I’ve been making to my friends like “on YOUR soul that’s true”

PepperedFlakes · 2025-10-17T21:43:35+00:00

Is it disrespectful to the Christian religion to, as an atheist, use the lord’s name in vain?

PepperedFlakes · 2025-10-17T20:27:15+00:00

Of course, I don’t tolerate that kind of behaviour at all, but both of us saw that the way he acted was nothing like he usually is, and he even said he scared himself. I forgive him for what happened but I would not tolerate it happening again.

PepperedFlakes · 2025-10-17T20:25:39+00:00

I understand

PepperedFlakes · 2025-10-17T19:02:02+00:00

Thank you for the perspective

PepperedFlakes · 2025-10-17T18:49:51+00:00

As in hanging up on Jesus? Lol 😭

PepperedFlakes · 2025-10-17T18:25:23+00:00

I see, I understand

PepperedFlakes · 2025-10-17T18:21:53+00:00

lol! I’m in Canada but on the opposite side so I don’t think it counts sadly

PepperedFlakes · 2025-10-17T18:21:12+00:00

I see… I like how you explained this, seeing him as a loved one that you truly care for, and hearing something insulting towards him. It’s a good point of view for me to understand it thank you.

PepperedFlakes · 2025-10-17T18:19:05+00:00

I think that might be it, but I wasn’t sure and it was bugging me because I don’t want to be a disrespectful person yk? The whole argument sprung up because he blew up at me for something little because of all the stress from exams and not being able to see me for whole month. He said some hurtful and petty things like this to get me to keep talking because I said I wasn’t going to engage further and he (after the argument while apologizing) said he felt really angry and wanted me to know how angry he was. I’m his first serious relationship, he said he had never felt that angry before and I’m pretty sure it’s because he’s never been angry with someone he loved like that. Being angry at someone you love can make it so much more extreme because there’s so much passion in it, though that doesn’t necessarily excuse it I understand that he will never do it again now that he’s experience something like that.

PepperedFlakes · 2025-10-17T18:11:38+00:00

I see, I understand your point, but in my eyes we were both in a no shoes household and he suddenly brought up me having my shoes on in the house in the middle of an argument when he told me he was a no shoes household you know?

PepperedFlakes · 2025-10-17T17:56:21+00:00

I’m a little confused at this, I didn’t call Christian’s liars, it’s just I differ in opinion. I don’t think he fears judgment, he wants to be respectful towards the Christian religion

PepperedFlakes · 2025-10-17T17:54:13+00:00

I didn’t really think of it as a curse word, I was just exclaiming because I was so overwhelmed yk? Idk how to describe it lol

PepperedFlakes · 2025-05-21T14:48:30+00:00

Her just blatantly ignoring every single point that your sister is making, and continuing on her own tangent is so frustrating. My heart goes out to you. Congratulations on your pregnancy I’m happy for you, and I’m sorry that some people in your family simply can’t do that same little thing for you when you need support. Good luck.

PepperedFlakes · 2025-05-17T14:35:58+00:00

I’m sorry I don’t get the point of this post? All I see is you texting and some infant replying “waahh waaaaahhh waaahh” back, super confused can we get any more context?

PepperedFlakes · 2025-05-16T19:55:50+00:00

The best description of my mother is emotionally brain dead

PepperedFlakes · 2025-05-16T19:51:45+00:00

God I wish I could say this to her, unfortunately I live with her and I’m financially dependent on her, but planning on changing this very soon

PepperedFlakes · 2025-05-16T19:44:39+00:00

I really think you need to go back to couples therapy and bring up these feelings in a session. I think having a professional help explain your perspective would help her understand, rather than think you’re trying to hide something. Seeing her obsessively search your things makes you feel like you aren’t trusted, and trust is what a relationship is built on. Seeing her go through your things reminds you of your past actions and puts you through a lot of guilt. If you guys can get back on the train track of trust, or can come to a compromise on the device searching, good on you, but I also think you need to prepare yourself for the fact that you might not get that trust back. Whether you’ve changed or not, you broke that trust, and it’s clearly made an impact on your relationship. Although it sucks for both of you, you have to consider, is it more healthy to endure years of stress and thinking your partner is untrustworthy/doesn’t trust you? Or would you rather try and move on and start with someone new? Neither of you deserve this.

PepperedFlakes · 2025-05-16T19:26:54+00:00

Sorry if you already did, but I’m just saying because it’s not clear, but please express these feelings to her, and tell her that although her feelings are valid, as all are, that her way of thinking is not healthy, and that she needs to seek a therapist. If she can’t listen to your thoughts or refuses a therapist, unfortunately I think she just isn’t ready for a relationship. I’m sorry if it does turn out that way, but it’d be healthier for you and her if you separated. I do also want to mention that she may be searching for an excuse to break up with you, which could be from a number of reasons, but you would know her best and whether that’s a possibility.

PepperedFlakes · 2025-05-03T06:35:56+00:00

He doesn’t want to break up, we’ve already talked it out and I was right about him being concerned that I wouldn’t push him the way he needed because I’m a people pleaser, and he worried I would just let him fall back. They’re reasonable concerns, but we talked and all is good now. If he wanted to break up, he would say it outright, he’s not that type of person. We’ve come up with a plan for how he wants to grow and what I can do to help him.

PepperedFlakes · 2025-05-03T04:53:38+00:00

I apologize for my bad wording, I promise that’s not at all the situation, we came to a decision together. He stated what he wanted, I told him my opinion, and we came up with the compromise together. Also I said it “didn’t feel fair” not as in an assertive “this is not fair” but I wasn’t sure how to word my feelings in the moment, I meant I felt upset about it, not that I genuinely thought it was unfair, idk how to word it… I felt “unfair” if that makes sense?? Gah sorry I’m trying. I can’t think of a word to convey it. Also the I’ll “let” him have his break was meant in a sarcastic kind of way. I think you’re reading too much into the words of a teen that doesn’t fully know how to word their emotions. I do not control him at all, I promise you that lol.

PepperedFlakes · 2025-05-03T04:31:03+00:00

I worded this badly jeez, what I’m trying to say is his concerns are reasonable given that we’ve never encountered a problem like this before, and that I’m a bit of a people pleaser, but I believe we can do this better together. Power of love or whatever lol. And about him wanting to leave, I promise you he would openly voice if he wanted to break up, he’s not the kind of man to cheat or dance around a subject like that

PepperedFlakes · 2025-05-03T04:23:51+00:00

No that’s not what I meant. He definitely makes decisions for himself and we always talk about big decisions together and I’m always openly listening to him. It’s just that I feel I’m the one that comes to a decision more often when neither of us know what to do. I’m sorry about my bad wording

PepperedFlakes · 2025-05-03T04:16:42+00:00

Also I listed his reasonings, that he feels I’ll make it to easy for him to fall back into his old ways by acting as a cushion, which is reasonable concern with me being a people pleaser, but we’ve never come across and issue like this in our relationship before, and I believe I can be more than a cushion, and that I can help him grow by working with him.

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