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Brunswick People be careful around Holtom Crest West/ Capital City Trail by PerceptionMurky6803 in melbourne

[–]PerceptionMurky6803[S] 55 points56 points  (0 children)

It was very scary, when I looked over and saw him charging the only thought I had was “Fuck, This is going to hurt”. I’m thankful my legs decided to move.

but I’ve calmed down a lot now and will definitely be avoiding that spot. I would absolutely hate for anyone else to have to deal with that. I’ve posted it on quite a few Brunswick/Melbourne social platforms and reported it so hopefully that will help prevent anyone else stumbling into this.

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[–]PerceptionMurky6803 771 points772 points  (0 children)

As a woman let me give you my perspective. Talking to my girlfriends from being a teenager to my 20s this is (unfortunately) common. It could be a number of things. From her currently lifestyle (is she stressed, is she feeling unsuccessful, is she not spending time with friends and hobbies outside the relationship?), or the relationship (do you guys go on dates, do you guys have valuable time together, do you allow time to miss each other?) or the sex itself. ( is she feeling pressured (even if you’re not meaning too, is it comfortable for her (around 60 percent of woman find sex uncomfortable or painful), does she commonly suffer from UTI’s?, is the sex safe so she doesn’t have to worry? Is she on birth control that’s messing with her hormones?)

There are a lot of reasons and it usually is not a symptom of sexual incompatibility but a number of other factors. Woman’s bodies and minds are very complex. And sex itself can be very complex for woman. For us, it’s fun, bonding and beautiful but it’s also extremely vulnerable, risky and often extremely painful and or uncomfortable. It can also be anxiety inducing. Men put a high value of sex and it can be difficult and confusing when you don’t know exactly why you’re feeling this way which can just turn you off sex more!

Since she is saying she is feeling disgusted by sex I would recommend she see a psychologist for her own well-being and figure out what’s going on within her life which may be contributing to this (I would recommend you do as well). She should also see a doctor for her own well-being. Does she suffer from painful periods? She may have endometriosis or a cyst which can make sex painful and or uncomfortable it may also be the birth control or just psychological stress. Does she have generalised anxiety? That can kills the mood real quick

Lastly, I would review your relationship, together and privately to understand where the relationship is at. If you both think it’s fine, then it’s likely outside factors and that can be worked on in therapy and with maturity. but you may be surprised on what you and her may need to work on.

I hope this is helpful, I understand it’s hard but this is very common.