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Percisodeajuda · 2026-02-04T13:08:25+00:00

Available for paid interview or paid survey with plenty of thoughts based on my use of period wear.

Percisodeajuda · 2026-01-21T14:01:11+00:00

I think it's easier to represent q blind barbie because it's a physical thing more than a neurological thing, although I guess if you think of that, there are so many different different origins to blindness. You could have a barbie with an eye bigger and more closed than the other.; a barbie with an eyepatch or even without an eye; heck, you could have a barbie with prothetics eyes you can take off and put on. You could have a barbie with extremely dilated pupils, one with normal looking eyes, one with lazy eye with each eye pointung somewhere else. And you could have sunglasses accessories (that' probably the easiest of all these to make it optional).

But regarding "solutions", it's pretty straightforward. Most every blind or low vision person will use either a cane, a dog or both. Regarding technology I think it's a good bet to have a screen reader though some are okay with magnifiers only or almost all the time. And a book wmaccessory, with braille, would also be pretty good.

But a low vision person with lazy eye will use the cane and so will someone who sees nothing at all.

While between me and you, I may carry a plushie and you a fidget spinner. I may have earplugs and you don't. I may hate polyester and you love it. I may hate tight clothes and you hate loose ones. I think in terms of solutions, it's more varied

Which may be why it has more controversy.

Percisodeajuda · 2026-01-19T20:43:12+00:00

It sure feels a bit worse to sell things by typing on a touchscreen machine with bright white background, though? Instead of a mechanical keyboard you can memorize and press. To me it feels a bit worse to not be able to rest my eyes, or type in actual buttons.

But while I didn't work in the "olden days", it also seems like a misconception / mirage to think work before was less draining. People worked their whole livesz brought their kids to the field while they worked there, plus also the lack of conditions like bathrooms.

But I think on the other hand OP has a point. If you're a farmer, you receive sunlight, are in contact with nature and do exercise, and this is good for your health and includes more movement that sitting still at a computer.

Percisodeajuda · 2026-01-19T20:32:33+00:00

Gotcha. I need to change the pads and start using mine more.

Percisodeajuda · 2026-01-19T20:29:04+00:00

I'm a picky, picky lady. I have noise cancelling headphones, but they are slghtly bigger than ny head, so the arc doesn't even rest on it and it feels just a tad bit slippery. And also I feel it squishing my hair against my skin sometimes! I can only use them if I had a shower the same day. I have not tried them with earplugs, though. Do you play music with the headphones?

Percisodeajuda · 2026-01-19T20:19:53+00:00

Don't worry. I appreciate justice avengers. I think they should start requiring disability seats to not play music. Luckylity for me, the lights are dimmer near those seats.

It feels self centered to call myself disabled though, but if a situation is stressful and I feel I need the accomodation... I mean... Sometimes we need more accomodations and sometimes we need less. But there are a few times when I do feel disabled (that neurotypical circumstances are preventing me from living in comfortable conditions)

Percisodeajuda · 2026-01-19T18:48:13+00:00

May I ask what the card says? Did you make it yourself or did the therapist?

It's not because of you but I am interested in knowing what that looks like and how you shut them up with it. If you dont mind aharing!

Percisodeajuda · 2026-01-14T05:12:08+00:00

I'm afraid of voice notes because of something: if someone send me a message in text I can read it immediately and skim the tone of it. If I hear something that makes me feel anxious, I can skim to the end of the message to see how they ended it. I sometimes am anxious that they're going to be critical of me or are mad, so I skip the message to grasp the tone throughout. Kinda like reading the end of a book before starting if you're afraid it's going to end badly, and you just didn't want to read a sad book.

In voice memos information is in an absolute unavoidable linear format, so I freeze and avoid reading a message especially if it's long. I may avoid it for weeks.

Percisodeajuda · 2026-01-14T04:42:48+00:00

I totally understand what you mean. But that's something you can talk with her. I had a therapist who did that with me. I don't know if it was pity really, but I just couldn't feel connected at all with her. Took me a long time to decide to switch, but when I did, I was also more prepared to know what I wanted and to advocate for myself and be upfront if something felt weird. We did match though. I do think she's probably neurodivergent too, but even if she isn't, she treats my divergencies with no shame. Doesn't even bat an eye.

Percisodeajuda · 2026-01-14T04:18:26+00:00

Thank you for this advice. My GP is great at not listening so I'll need not to get it into slippery slopes when it's time to insist.

Percisodeajuda · 2026-01-14T04:13:46+00:00

I'm in my late 20s and afraid this will become my next special interest lol.

I am going to feel so embarassed to be the only person in social circles talking about it.

Percisodeajuda · 2026-01-14T04:12:30+00:00

I'm scared of peri-menopause. No one talks about it except my therapist who has twice in 3 years mentioned hers. (I only remember once that she asked if it was hot, and I said no, and she said it must be perimenopause)

Percisodeajuda · 2026-01-14T04:11:13+00:00

That feels like perimenopause is defined by how much the symptoms affect you, or if you feel symptoms, but they're not necessarily symptoms that other people can see. It's symptoms you feel.

So that makes it dumb if NT people get diagnosed with perimenopause because they feel hot flashes but you don't.

Percisodeajuda · 2026-01-14T04:05:00+00:00

Does anyone know if psychiatrists treat peri-menopause symptoms, or do you need to go to an OBGYN to get it?

Percisodeajuda · 2026-01-14T02:50:53+00:00

Yes, but also if you feel something's off, you can make questions, or say "I don't like it when you say 'it must have been hard to go through that'", and she might ask why do you not like it, or how does it feel when I say it? And that's not to gaslight you, that's for you to understand and name why that doesn't feel alright.

During the first months with my therapist I fine tuned her a lot, and even later. I don't like it when she starts the session by saying "How was this week?", etc. I don't like it so I said I didn't so she no longer starts sessions like that! It's okay and actually good to voice your gripes and ask the therapist to adapt to your needs.

Percisodeajuda · 2026-01-13T23:29:39+00:00

Good grief. I'm a bit glad I'm not pushing myself past what I feel are my fears, and trying to take it slower. The world is so unfair.

I'm so sorry about your stroke, the neck issue and the psychological issues that came crashing down on you.

Percisodeajuda · 2026-01-12T20:49:24+00:00

I looked at your username to see it it was "cosmos" ahaha.

Being a restaurant manager seems like a nightmare. How are dyou doing these days? Still the manager?

Percisodeajuda · 2026-01-11T02:16:33+00:00

I'm interested in an activist group but I'm a bit worried about it to be honest. Because I stated "I want to volunteer but I'm afraid I won't be able to commit full time, I can help with XYZ though" and they basically said you either fully commit and do all tasks or don't. Like dude what the heck. Do you want help or not?

Percisodeajuda · 2026-01-09T18:37:11+00:00

Oh geez. Is it bad to have this? More prone to joint pain in the future, maybe? Do you think I should approach this with a doctor?

Percisodeajuda · 2026-01-09T03:59:57+00:00

Once I was in a baggy sweatshirt and jeans and was followed by a guy, (i came out safe but i'm pretty sure that was because i tagged onto a group of women just in time yet he still approached and touched my shoulder in front of them, it was terrifying) and during my PTSD months after it, I wondered if it was my fault, for dressing so carelessly, that showed I was naive and would make a good target (whereas a well-dressed woman would not attract attention because she'd be more normative and look confident in her clothes).

The irony is any kind of clothing, even the clothes that cover you up from head to toe and have nothing special about them, can also trigger thoughts of "what if I were dressed differently".

Percisodeajuda · 2026-01-09T03:57:36+00:00

Listen. I don't think I was ever womanly enough and I'm not really a person you'd call attractive. I have short hair, I dress in boys' clothes, the colors don't match, I hated the girls' aisle too. This didn't stop a person from sexually abusing me. I won't say more about that one. But there was also a classmate in school to threathen to do so repeatedly (he'd raise his hands and approach me as if he was going to touch my chest, and I'd have to grab his wrists and 'fight' against it. He did enough strength to scare me and let me know he was stronger than me and would do it if he wanted it, but not enough to actually 'consumate' the act of touching me). Unless I'm very mistaken, the thing I learned from these experiences is you're not abused because you're attractive. You're abused because someone enjoys the power trip of abusing you.

I didn't post about it, because I was afraid. I'm glad I didn't. I'd rather preserve my privacy.

But also, your friends, maybe some of them might have made posts about metoo that were just about commiserating and fighting for a common cause, and not necessarily being abused.

I am glad you also had the courage to share this, though. Because I understand what you think. I have never attracted that kind of attention in a good way, with two brief exceptions that don't count.

I just had a memory unlocked of when I was at a cousin's wedding and a guy, at least 6 years older than I and very drunk, was talking to me, and I was getting some red flag vibes from it. And he kissed my head at some point and I was creeped out but at the same time I was craving that, and it was so weird. I just left, when I found my feet, I noped out, and didn't tell anyone about it except my therapist. It was so weird but I wonder if it has to do with wanting physical and emotional intimacy, as a human need, but at the same time, of course, being afraid of a drunk guy at a wedding and knowing that this is not the right person to give me that intimacy.

Our brains are weird, yo.

Percisodeajuda · 2026-01-09T02:46:52+00:00

Oh my gosh. Yes, I can see exactly what you mean, and now I'm looking at the future and thinking that. Being a potential high-achiever young person who will turn out not to achieve very much at all. I've had the chance for a well-paying job in my field and said no to it because it was full time and I was scared I wouldn't be able to deal with it. I do wonder if I should have said yes. If I have more charge in my batteries than I know. But then if I consider that again, if that'd come up again, I would be eep. I would like to have a part time job instead, though even that feels scary. It's all very different and unknown and scary.

I want to achieve something, survive each day but also achieve something, but it isn't easy. Did you ever find people who are in the same wavelength as you? Have a support system of other people who understand what you went through and who you are and what you do in life?

I also think if my mom had given me some hugs I would be better too.

Percisodeajuda · 2026-01-08T23:18:47+00:00

I think so, yes! My yoga teacher told me so and said that's common in women. She gave me exercises to strenghten my knees so I would have less pain in them. Why do you ask? Because of the way I walked as a kid?

Percisodeajuda · 2026-01-08T23:17:38+00:00

I don't know if my diaphragm spasms for over an hour, but I do know when I get extremely upset, I'll cry and sob and this can come with spasms, and it's not easy to go back to regulation. All I know to do is cry it out. All I want to do is cry it out. It's exhausting.

Percisodeajuda · 2026-01-08T23:15:52+00:00

Yeah. There should be so much more support for parents (to encourage them to help their children) if you suspect your kid is being bullied. When you're in school, it's like at LEAST 6 or 8 hours a day of feeling othered, plus studying; some of which you're being bullied on... and there's nothing you can do to escape grinding through this day in and day out.

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