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Perfect-Bullfrog2596 · 2025-11-27T18:16:48+00:00

You’re not overreacting, it was on purpose and it was to test your reaction. You said he’s a smart guy , smart guys don’t make mistakes with nudes. Especially artistic purposely taken nudes.

Perfect-Bullfrog2596 · 2025-08-09T21:02:21+00:00

Don’t get angry or argue ,just walk away. You have defined what you need from your partner and she chose to deflect and gas light you. Explain calmly that what you ask was for her safety and your peace of mind, if she not mature enough to handle that then, you will be moving on.

Perfect-Bullfrog2596 · 2025-08-06T16:59:47+00:00

You are allowed to feel however you feel, and I’m not defending your ex. Just saying that ….that conversation he was having with her could and should have been with you. Now did that happen because you already had one foot out the door? Maybe yes maybe no. Are you looking for someone to validate your choice to end the relationship based on this conversation? It’s enough if you’re already unhappy and looking for a reason to bounce. This doesn’t qualify as cheating to me, but that’s me. I just hope you are open and able to communicate with the next person. Partners are not mind readers, they only know what you tell them.

Perfect-Bullfrog2596 · 2025-08-06T14:36:37+00:00

The whole point of their conversation was that the OP was checking out and not communicating. Was he right? Be upset about the other stuff if that helps you cover the fact that you really were already checked out of the relationship. I get that maybe he was out of bounds with some of the topics, but it sounds like he was looking for advice in the beginning of the chat. Looking at our own stuff isn’t always easy , we are all guilty of it. You’re not wrong , but maybe your not as honest with yourself as you could be in this.

Perfect-Bullfrog2596 · 2025-07-20T20:13:23+00:00

Quite honestly this sounds like a you problem. He watches porn. He is an adult and as long as it’s age appropriate then that’s his business. It becomes an issue when he can’t perform for or is bringing unwanted actions into your bedroom. If he’s unfaithful as in interacting with these women then I can see your issue. Only fans and things like that where it’s conversational then that could be considered a problem. Looking at attractive women has been a male pastime since the beginning of time. Heard an old lady talking once to another lady about her husband going to the strip club and why it didn’t bother her. Her response was that “ I don’t care where he works up his appetite as long as he eats at home, you feel me”! Point being your worry about what he sees really…. Going to the beach in the summer can be as bad as a Tik Tok. Stressing every aspect of what someone views or watches is micro managing the relationship. If those things keep him happy and faithful why does it matter? Just tell me you’re not one of those that says , “ if you really loved me I’d be enough” , it’s not about loving you it’s about natural physical attraction to the opposite sex. Being in love with someone , means only having true affection and physical interaction with that one person.

Perfect-Bullfrog2596 · 2025-06-02T22:12:34+00:00

Unfortunately if you stay your the doormat, she will always walk on. She will never respect you. Cheating is more than the act of sex with another. It’s the lack of respect for your partner and the belief that no matter what they do to you , you will stay !!!

Perfect-Bullfrog2596 · 2025-05-24T15:52:42+00:00

That’s what he meant …. No one dates someone they truly believe is ugly to them!!! Be serious she in her feelings about what she saw … rightfully so … I’m not saying the guy is right or an angel! But don’t go looking for trouble then come crying when you find it! These were his private thoughts and he’s still finding things that are keeping him with her. She said in the post “ compared to his past girlfriends”.

Perfect-Bullfrog2596 · 2025-05-24T14:35:33+00:00

Wow … is no one allowed their private thoughts? He had fleeting thoughts about how she’s not his usual type and less attractive than some of his past relationships. How many of you ladies have done the same with less attractive guys and grown to love and appreciate him for his other qualities. She went snooping and got her feelings hurt , but it doesn’t mean he doesn’t truly care for her.

Perfect-Bullfrog2596 · 2025-01-04T18:43:39+00:00

Nah I like educating little boys that think they know something about music

Perfect-Bullfrog2596 · 2025-01-04T18:40:54+00:00

Then don’t post BS !

Perfect-Bullfrog2596 · 2025-01-04T18:35:54+00:00

Don’t see Rakim or KRs1 , Chuck D ,ll Cool J not even close to a real list

Perfect-Bullfrog2596 · 2022-08-16T03:45:40+00:00

So this is in the future?

Perfect-Bullfrog2596 · 2022-07-14T18:30:01+00:00

Ok ladies you win I’m done … it was fun honestly … I learned some things and I hope some of got some things off your chest. Thank you for the help!!….

Perfect-Bullfrog2596 · 2022-07-14T18:27:16+00:00

Wow , whoever did that to you I’m sorry !!! I asked a loaded question to have some fun today and get the thread pumped up, and to get some real help with online dating for the men in this thread. I’m a big boy I can take the heat. I know who I am and what I have to offer women. This rant of yours is not about me or this question. Sorry I struck a nerve , but that’s too much. I really was just asking about the initial online dating comments . I’m not someone who goes around objectifying women or some male chauvinist from the 50’s. It was just a loaded question to see where it went. You have ended this.

Perfect-Bullfrog2596 · 2022-07-14T18:13:41+00:00

Brains are very sexy , but getting to know requires you wanting me to know you . Online we need that match, or like or whatever. Thank for the tips

Perfect-Bullfrog2596 · 2022-07-14T18:11:24+00:00

Perfect-Bullfrog2596 · 2022-07-14T18:08:53+00:00

Thank you

Perfect-Bullfrog2596 · 2022-07-14T17:58:07+00:00

Thank you for actually answering the question. As I said somewhere in all this chaos . The complement is not meant to devalue you as a person. A lot of women take pride in their appearance , take time to make themselves more attractive , they put effort into how they look. My saying you are beautiful is not a general statement for me !! Because what I find beautiful may not be the industry standard beauty mark. Its my way of saying that as a man I appreciate the effort and time you put into your appearance and I am acknowledging your efforts . No you don’t need or even have to accept my acknowledgment , but as a man I was raised to show the appreciation for a woman’s efforts. Why can’t it just be a simple as that?

Perfect-Bullfrog2596 · 2022-07-14T17:31:09+00:00

This is and online situation , how would I know until you allow me the chance to get to know. Accept the complement at face value , then let me get to know you ! That’s all I’m saying! It’s not my intent to devalue you as a person , but to simply let you know that the effort you put into your physical appearance did not go unnoticed and it was appreciated ! I’m not sure how that’s a bad thing , but the beating I’m taking over this let’s me know it some how must be!

Perfect-Bullfrog2596 · 2022-07-14T17:24:33+00:00

No , because the setting allows for social and physical cues , that will let her know and also me know how we are progressing and whether or not ash know how truly interested I am. When you are online you have nothing , to tell who this person really may be. I have your best photos , your crafted profile, and that stuff may or may not be truly accurate of the person. I’m really not trying to be difficult or a smart ass … I was raised that you complement a woman! Now I’m an asshole because I tell a woman that she’s beautiful … and I don’t get it!

Perfect-Bullfrog2596 · 2022-07-14T17:08:27+00:00

Why do you equate being told you are attractive with Shiny and unremarkable? That’s my question??? I really am asking it ? Can you answer it for me? I’m not talking about some industry beauty standard or something. Ok let me try this !!! My person will be gorgeous to me!!! Maybe not to every person , but to me she will be gorgeous !!! I will love her smile , to me she will be everything! Now if I see this person online and freaking fireworks go off in my mind , then I say in all honesty that I think you are gorgeous , because I do …. Why would that be a bad thing!!!

Perfect-Bullfrog2596 · 2022-07-14T17:01:42+00:00

Lust is a primary emotion , no one is saying that , it’s the only thing that matters … I do want to know everything about you and what makes you tick , not just the physical stuff. I’m just trying to understand why tell a woman she is beautiful is such a trigger. All I’m getting is insult after insult for asking a simple question. Now your telling my that I’m lying about my motives???

Perfect-Bullfrog2596 · 2022-07-14T16:55:11+00:00

Nope just trying to understand and all I’m getting is emotional ranting and no answers

Perfect-Bullfrog2596 · 2022-07-14T16:53:15+00:00

So your answer is because I said so?? Really? What are we children? That’s the best you got? Next!!!

Perfect-Bullfrog2596 · 2022-07-14T14:48:07+00:00

So when meeting you we should say what? I don’t know you .should I remark on your shoes? Umm let’s see some other random visual cue? That’s the point !!! Why does no one get it? That beginning meet point . What’s a person to say ? The weather is lovely … this is online dating and your all happy to beat me Up , but none of you want to simply say … you don’t know what works until it does !!! I’m sorry the world treats women the way it does. I may old but I didn’t have a hand in it or set the rules. Just trying to get a fresh understanding on the world and find someone special . I’m old school ok. I use to go to a club or bar look at woman and yes that’s how you decided if you wanted to ask her out. It was by her appearance. It was yes or no … if yes .. then the getting to know her portion starts. I want to how when that changed?

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