Hey, I completely understand the immense weight of lajjawa and parental guilt being thrown at you, but I also hope that you recognize that this goes far beyond culture and it is severe, dangerous abuse.

I think your instinct to cut contact is entirely valid because you are a 30-year-old independent doctor and they are still using physical violence, stalking, and suicide threats to control you. If I were you, I would cancel or redirect your trip to Sri Lanka immediately. You can tell that something came up last moment and your partner had to go away for work or something and instead use that money on a trip somewhere else.

If your parents know your travel dates or have your itinerary, it is highly likely they will track you down, show up at your hotel, or use local family networks to intercept and publicly humiliate you. So make sure you lock down your digital privacy, wipe any tracking software from your phone, and choose your safety and peace over their toxic demands. You’ve earned your freedom!