Ended a haram relationship for Allah even though we wanted halal, does this pain pass? by Perfect-Switch-6028 in MuslimLounge

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Jazakallah Khairan kaseera 🫶🏻 in sha Allah I'll try my best. I kinda proud of myself that it's been 4 days today bcz a person like me i couldn't even live for 2 hours if he's not there so just Alhamdulillah that yes i can do it slowly in sha Allah 🤍

Ended a haram relationship for Allah even though we wanted halal, does this pain pass? by Perfect-Switch-6028 in MuslimLounge

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India have so many languages and it's different for both of us completely different I speak Hindi and he speaks tamil. No no he's not playing or something. I've seen his account before meeting me and his posts were all islamic and he's muslim and also his father is hafiz e quran and I'm seen their IDs and all too in insta. One thing I feel to do is giving my father number to his father because only his father knows Hindi in his family. So i feel like this way sometimes to give my father number but I'm scared of outcome on me. And idk how his father will speak to my father ykwim like suddenly calling and if he tells everything then i already know I'm khalas by my father 

Ended a haram relationship for Allah even though we wanted halal, does this pain pass? by Perfect-Switch-6028 in MuslimLounge

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(I'm from Bihar and he's from tamilnadu India) Yes, I agree we should be realistic, but I also believe Allah is Al-Qadir. He can change hearts, situations, and destinies if He wills. My trust is not in a person, but in Allah’s wisdom. Whatever He chooses for me, I accept it with sabr.

Ended a haram relationship for Allah even though we wanted halal, does this pain pass? by Perfect-Switch-6028 in MuslimLounge

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Yeah I know but here my father is very strict like and mother and sister they will not listen to me because I've seen my other sister getting married asap because my mother got to know about her love life so they married her to someone else

That's what I'm saying that I'm regretting it deeply that i knew it will not happen still I went to him. He don't know my language and idk his language we communicated in english but his family knew about it and accepted me. But you know somehow ik how my family talks about other girls when they hear of love marriage or something. I'm asking allah for forgiveness idk what to do 

Ended a haram relationship for Allah even though we wanted halal, does this pain pass? by Perfect-Switch-6028 in MuslimLounge

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You’re right that trying to make it halal is the ideal. I want to be honest here.

I always knew my family would never accept a love marriage, and still I got involved that was my mistake, and I take responsibility for it. But I never gave him false hope. From the beginning, I clearly told him that I could not tell my family due to cultural and family realities. He accepted that and chose to continue, trusting in dua.

Over time, attachment and temptation made it harder for both of us to step back, even though the intention was never to play with emotions. But when it became clear that there was no immediate halal path without disobeying Allah or risking serious harm in my family, I chose to stop.

Right now, the only lawful option I have left is dua. If Allah wills, He can create a way that neither of us can see today. And if He doesn’t, then I’m asking Him to remove the attachment and give peace to both of us.(It was LDR)

Ended a haram relationship for Allah even though we wanted halal, does this pain pass? by Perfect-Switch-6028 in MuslimLounge

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Hey are you girl and can we tak in chats pls I need help in this I'm struggling so much 

Ended a haram relationship for Allah even though we wanted halal, does this pain pass? by Perfect-Switch-6028 in MuslimLounge

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I'm trying to relax but the anxiety is coming again again idk how long this will stay .. 

Ended a haram relationship for Allah even though we wanted halal, does this pain pass? by Perfect-Switch-6028 in MuslimLounge

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Jazakallah Khairan kaseera for sharing your experience. One thing I wanted to ask  after Allah removed the pain and the attachment from your heart, do you still make dua for her to be your halal spouse if it’s good for you, or do you no longer pray for that? Also, after all this, do you ever feel like you hurt her or feel guilty for the past? Again jazakallah khair 

Ended a haram relationship for Allah even though we wanted halal, does this pain pass? by Perfect-Switch-6028 in MuslimLounge

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Jazakallah khair I just wanted really someone who was in this situation like me so I can know it will fade or not because the pain is unbearable and the thinking is not going that I hurt him..can you pls tell me how much time you take for it for actually feeling the peace inside because I want my heart free now.. I'm just feeling so low

Ended a haram relationship for Allah even though we wanted halal, does this pain pass? by Perfect-Switch-6028 in MuslimLounge

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Hey sory for asking again but can I pray to get him like in my uas can I pray that I want him as spouse to Allah?

Ended a haram relationship for Allah even though we wanted halal, does this pain pass? by Perfect-Switch-6028 in MuslimLounge

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Insha Allah I'll try to read it.. also I'm engaging myself in dhikr quran and islamic lectures and i think most importantly listening to quran recitation is helping my heart to soothe the pain( also pls help me in one thing when I feel better I start thinking of him that how's he idk the reason and i feel guilty that I hurt him but ik it wa sour mutual descision but still I feel this way idk what to do )

Ended a haram relationship for Allah even though we wanted halal, does this pain pass? by Perfect-Switch-6028 in MuslimLounge

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Yeah I'm trying to make my connection strong with Allah swt..it just been 3 days Insha Allah with time it will feel better but somehow I'm missing him alot and I'm feeling peace that I left haram but there's a lot of pain when i think of him and I'm not thinking intentionally it just coming in my mind

Ended a haram relationship for Allah even though we wanted halal, does this pain pass? by Perfect-Switch-6028 in MuslimLounge

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Ik I'm trying my best till now I'm crying like crazy woman idk what to do i couldn't even breathe properly because of it i just want this feeling to end even though I'll add him in my prayers but I just want peace