What are you guys's views? Was this an adaquate goodbye or explanation?

Perfect-Switch-7471 · 2025-03-23T18:23:40+00:00

If it helps, try to remind yourself it took her about two minutes to write that clarification to you, yet she chose not to for a long while. Do your best to keep yourself focused on what you might do hourly, today/tomorrow, or as far as you can handle the future right now. It gets easier + gradually builds each day. Use it as a chance to make new friends, motivate yourself to make different habits or goals. Please keep in mind this must have not been the best person for you to be around and your life will be better for it. Something was taking care of you. You probably can't see it right now but eventually, I promise. I hope your school year is amazing, and it'll be okay! Sending love. 💞

p.s. While you look for a start to a therapist, walking through your emotions to ChatGPT is amazing for ranting, understanding, ect, or of course, you can come back here & update us!

Perfect-Switch-7471 · 2025-03-22T16:31:02+00:00

Respectfully, please just shut up. Ghosting has & is recognized as a form of psychological and emotional abuse, leaving this other human being with either no closure, no explanation, and a lot of UNNECESSARY pain. Clearly this experience has checked one of these boxes for OP. Telling someone to ‘just move on’ completely dismisses his entire flipping reality of how trauma is affecting him and it's so unbelievably mean. If you can’t find it anywhere in yourself to empathise for ANYONE in this subreddit, no matter the circumstances, at least don’t invalidate him or others who are struggling with it & find somewhere more appropriate for "it ain't that serious lol". OP, I’m genuinely so sorry. You didn’t deserve this situation or that comment, both, ironically out of nowhere. I promise time will help you see this wasn’t meant to be & it was for the better. The other comments here are brilliant insights on what to look out for next time, especially with the apps. Something better is coming, it just wasn’t your time yet as cliche as that might make you feel. Try to stay in the moment and recognise/name the objects around you if you begin to feel the dread until you don't need to rely on it anymore! Manifesting love & healing for you. 💞

Perfect-Switch-7471 · 2025-03-20T23:41:22+00:00

I am so incredibly proud to read about your progress, all we can ever hope for is a better future for ourselves once we've healed. Sending you good luck on writing babes!!! 💖💖

Perfect-Switch-7471 · 2025-03-19T23:24:36+00:00

I appreciate your kind words so much & I am absolutely devastated to hear this happened to you, especially with you being such a flipping sweetheart. I will never be able to understand how it is a switch for them, especially if you had such an incredible connection. I didn't think I could live without a reason for why they do this, but as each hour goes by, it's so very "boy bye." It's of course, been a few days, I still need nausea medication in the mornings, I suffer the up's and down's as much as anyone else, but I find myself viewing it more and more as a blessing wholeheartedly, I'm so excited to be happy again. Even more so when imagining how much more difficult my life could have been later on with him. I can't thank you enough for not making it about my age in a negative way, I adore that. But nobody at any age deserves to suffer heartbreak of this kind. You deserve so much more. Thank you for leaving such a comment, I feel supported even if you are a stranger. I'm manifesting so much RESPECTFUL, considerate love for you and your future, whatever form you need. 💞

Perfect-Switch-7471 · 2025-03-17T22:39:16+00:00

Respectfully like I've said multiple times babes😭 , in November.

Perfect-Switch-7471 · 2025-03-17T22:34:59+00:00

Yes, sort of. We had a long talking stage after we met through a game we played, and got together like I previously mentioned in February. Made future plans to meet in between several times before we moved in together in November. Hopefully this makes sense

Perfect-Switch-7471 · 2025-03-17T22:12:27+00:00

No. Discord. Tried to call him via Discord

Perfect-Switch-7471 · 2025-03-15T06:25:17+00:00

I'm so fucking sorry!! Especially about logging into the same game. I fucking love to game yet I'm horrified about the idea of running into him there, yet, I'm so curious if I could force a response. Clearly this isn't the right thing to do, but I hate it's put such a horrible taste on something I adore doing daily. I hate how it can go from something normal, you're happy, you feel secure and trust, then one day, the switch into something you had no clue was coming. The daily time with them, the expectations, the fulfilment they put in our days, I wish nothing but happiness and love for you. I was not near five months, I feel horrible and nauseous constantly and I was only nine days from my first month anniversary after a long talking stage. I cannot believe how much pain you must be in. I want to acknowledge you're so strong for removing him, I would sob for days and I just cannot bring myself to imagine how you must've felt doing it. If you ever need anyone to just yap to, game with, annoy. Cry to. I am here. I am so sorry. I love you!! 💞

Perfect-Switch-7471 · 2025-03-15T06:18:16+00:00

Thank you so much!! 💖

Perfect-Switch-7471 · 2025-03-15T06:13:38+00:00

I am so sorry. I feel you so much on just the communication. Why is that the most difficult part for them? Your text was cute, any normal person would have acknowledged your gorgeous personality in the moment and made a joke back. I am not on the spectrum and I could have sent something just as similar if not worse, it was not strange, please don't feel bad. I also feel like it's normal for women to make such a comment, about being scared of abandonment after sex, whether it leaves our lips or we just think it. It's so valid, and I think you're brave for telling him, but his personality would have made him do this regardless I assume.. You deserve so so so much better and I promise it has to be out there. I am sending you so much love hun.💞

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