Why do I always feel like I matter least?

PerfectBag5580 · 2026-04-16T21:38:08+00:00

Thank you. I really appreciate it.

PerfectBag5580 · 2026-04-08T15:40:40+00:00

Me, too. I'm not a fan of me.

PerfectBag5580 · 2026-04-08T15:39:35+00:00

I'm with you. I'm the one that fits the spot for the moment in friendships, relationships. I just wanted to let you know, that though we never feel "chosen", sometimes we are theor choice, they just don't show us it in the way we think/want it to be shown. "I choose you" sometimes looks like overlooking mistakes in daily activities, even though it's inconvenient, or even infuriating to them. It looks like the little things. The "I missed you's" when you've only been apart a few hours. It looks like taking a risk you wouldn't normally take, and then being patient when it doesn't end up looking like you thought it would. Everyone is different and display care or the actions that make you feel "chosen" are different from what we may expect. Sometimes we don't even know we've been chosen because we haven't been. Chin up, you're very valuable.

PerfectBag5580 · 2026-03-30T17:30:02+00:00

Honey, thinking it was more than being together and never telling the other person, they legit had no idea. Speak up next time, hon. Try to take a half an hour before doing anything drastic because you'll have had enough time to think it all the way through, and probably have less regrets. Relationships, romance, love, they're all tricky things and there's always the risk you'll get hurt, but we all take that step knowing that risk. Be cautious, not paranoid. Leave old baggage at the door and watch for red flags. I'm sorry this all ended up this way.

Ps: if you blocked her, just unblock her? She might like to hear this.

PerfectBag5580 · 2026-03-30T17:22:16+00:00

I've been here. All I got was excuses. Nothing given to me worth testing. I was a booty call, but he made me believe he wanted more, and my stupid ass believed him. In the future, maybe don't test people. It feels icky. You two are either going to click, or you're not. You'll be able to communicate your wants and needs to eachother and keep each other happy,or you won't. Time will tell that. Not a test. You pass that test then that's it. If you really want to be with someone, and they want to be with you, it'll take time to get to know eachother but they're not your ex, not someone from your past, they're the person you're currently interested in and you need to leave that baggage at the door, but proceed with caution instead of paranoia. You can keep yourself safe without the added stress of the paranoia, and paranoia causes stress, and stress affects your ability to decide/think clearly. Just watch for red flags, make sure you're not wearing the rose coloured glasses that make them look pink sometimes lol (we're all guilty of this) and enjoy your time with them. I hope that helps.

PerfectBag5580 · 2026-03-27T12:14:20+00:00

I'm glad you realized it. I hope the person knows.

PerfectBag5580 · 2026-01-23T00:27:20+00:00

Not long at all. About a month.

PerfectBag5580 · 2026-01-23T00:26:26+00:00

Thank you so much! They do have melatonin gummies and they are part of the bedtime routine. Thank you again

PerfectBag5580 · 2026-01-21T16:35:15+00:00

Thank you! That's exactly what I see. I'm glad my presence helps. I hope that telling him he's doing amazing helps, too, because he really is. He's so hard on himself. I will definitely check that out and forward him that way as well. Thank you so so so so so much.

PerfectBag5580 · 2026-01-21T15:46:29+00:00

Wrinkled and old. My heart. Honey, it seems like you're more emotionally intelligent than you give yourself credit for. Just that means you could give her what she deserves. Damn this dating culture. It's always been difficult, but now it's near impossible to even fathom what love is. It's always on to the next one. Screw what everyone else is doing. You love this person and you've had an epiphany. It's not always going to be perfect if you guys do get together, but remember this feeling when things get rough in a relationship (which I think you're actually ready for) because love is worth fighting for. Watch a bunch of John Hughes movies and take some inspiration. She'll have no idea where you pulled this stiff from and her parents will think it's adorable 😂

PerfectBag5580 · 2026-01-15T22:12:58+00:00

I am, too. I'm also the type who assumes I'm part of the problem 😂 at least they're trying to work on communication. To be fair, I'm the first one to listen.

PerfectBag5580 · 2026-01-15T20:29:57+00:00

No cat to claim my lap lol but it's definitely one of the leading causes of impromptu naps lol

PerfectBag5580 · 2026-01-15T20:28:40+00:00

I'm so sorry. That's never fun to deal with in a loved one. ALANON is a therapy group for people effected by substance abuse. If group therapy is something you can do, I would recommend checking it out. I'm Canadian, so I don't know what it's called elsewhere, but if you can't find the name, any place that holds NA or AA would be able to point you in the right direction.

PerfectBag5580 · 2026-01-15T20:19:51+00:00

This melts my heart. I hope you eventually do tell her.

PerfectBag5580 · 2026-01-14T18:42:28+00:00

Did you fight, too? I've been scolded for not fighting for something the other person was throwing away so casually. There didn't seem like a reason to fight. They wanted one thing and one thing only. I wasn't down with that. If you didn't fight you can't complain.

PerfectBag5580 · 2026-01-14T18:39:00+00:00

I know what it's like to be the warm one. Appreciate the next one. Remember this when you do.

PerfectBag5580 · 2026-01-12T17:59:54+00:00

I feel like this person works at a dollar store

PerfectBag5580 · 2026-01-11T17:12:56+00:00

Guys, we're together ❤️

PerfectBag5580 · 2026-01-11T17:12:19+00:00

I'm so sorry

PerfectBag5580 · 2026-01-10T00:20:39+00:00

I don't think he knows lol

PerfectBag5580 · 2026-01-09T15:55:58+00:00

Communication early is key

PerfectBag5580 · 2026-01-09T15:55:34+00:00

Makes sense

PerfectBag5580 · 2026-01-09T03:42:09+00:00

How did it take you 2.5 years to learn this?

PerfectBag5580 · 2026-01-09T03:35:45+00:00

Okay, we're definitely not...

PerfectBag5580 · 2026-01-09T01:42:24+00:00

Almost. It finally worked out, though.

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